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Judi
VIP June 2017

who comes to the tasting? everyone????!!!

Judi, on November 9, 2016 at 3:41 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 38

my MOHs (2 of them) want to come to the tasting. My parents want to come to the tasting my FMIL wants to come to the tasting I dont mind ANY of them coming, but not ALL of them!!! how do i tell whom that they can't go?! Esp because my FMIL hasn't offered to be a part of anything involving the...

My MOHs (2 of them) want to come to the tasting. My parents want to come to the tasting

my FMIL wants to come to the tasting

I dont mind ANY of them coming, but not ALL of them!!! how do i tell whom that they can't go?!

Esp because my FMIL hasn't offered to be a part of anything involving the wedding and shes suddenly interested in spending time with us (this would require a day trip) I would like her to attend, but not at the risk of upsetting anyone else.

38 Comments

  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
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    I'm just bringing FH. It seems strange that all those people want to come.

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  • Private User
    VIP August 2014
    Private User ·
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    It was just the two of us, even though my parents paid for our wedding. Our venue was a 3-hour round trip from home. The in laws lived 3.5 hours further west, of the venue. We did bring back the sample box of cake flavors, fillings, and icings, to share with my parents. We chose everything; my husband and I each picked one set of cake/filling.

    Our venue had one, huge spring tasting, for everyone who had booked with the venue, for the following year. I think it was $60 per person. The venue/resort had multiple ballrooms, outside, and off-site spaces. They had a ridiculous amount of food, including almost all the choices/4 courses they offered, passed hors d'oeuvres, signature cocktails, etc.; we were stuffed.

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  • Sara
    Master April 2017
    Sara ·
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    Both sets of parents came with us for the tasting. The all are helping to pay for the wedding and we felt like they should be there. I've never heard of MOHs going to the tasting unless no family was able to go.

    I would limit it to family.

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  • TheHouseOfAllen
    Super October 2016
    TheHouseOfAllen ·
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    The 2 people getting married.

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  • P
    Savvy June 2017
    Patrise ·
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    Its just me and my fh going

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  • Mrs.KatieK
    Master September 2016
    Mrs.KatieK ·
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    Ours was myself, H, MOB, and MIL. Our caterer didn't put a limit on how many could come, nor did he charge. I included their moms because I'm vegetarian (so I couldn't eat the proteins) and H will eat about anything.

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  • tinkerpsu
    VIP November 2016
    tinkerpsu ·
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    We had my parents and us. They said they usually don't allow that many people so I would ask how many your venue allows.

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  • Beanna
    Dedicated April 2017
    Beanna ·
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    Just the two of you.

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  • Dena
    Master April 2017
    Dena ·
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    My venue said we could have up to 4 people total, but because both of our parents are contributing, we decided just the two of us.

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  • Mrs. Knolle
    Master July 2016
    Mrs. Knolle ·
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    Me, my husband, and my MIL (who payed for the wedding).

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  • Katie B to S
    Super January 2017
    Katie B to S ·
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    You, FH and if someone else is paying then they can come, but no one else needs to.

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  • Anne
    VIP October 2017
    Anne ·
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    For us, the cost and distance were factors. It was free for the two of us, but $75 a person for anyone else. We also only have 1 parent who lives a realistic distance so it didn't make sense. We just enjoyed it as a fancy date night out Smiley smile

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  • Natasha
    VIP January 2017
    Natasha ·
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    My venue only allowed 3 people to come with me. I only ended up bringing my MIL.

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  • MRSGodiva
    Super January 2017
    MRSGodiva ·
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    We could bring 2 additional people with us. My mom (who's helping to pay) and our daughter went with us.

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  • BridalGirl24
    Expert October 2017
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    I'm having my step mom come in my place (I'll still be there) but I'm way too picky to like most of the food we'll have so I need someone else's opinion since FH likes anything

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  • AlmostMrsCorcino
    Super October 2016
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    I had a few ppl help pay for the wedding, but no one came, they all said your wedding you guys pick...

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  • FutureHennigan
    Super September 2018
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    Check with your caterer! When looking into caterers on my own a lot of them stipulated a max of 4 people including bride and groom. I don't think the tasting needs to be a big production - if you have to, just tell everyone that your caterer only allows the bride and groom. Personally, I wouldn't really appreciate anyone's input on food anyway so I wouldn't want the extra voices trying to "help" make that decision.

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  • Linds
    Master March 2017
    Linds ·
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    Our caterer/venue owner is coming in half way through our planing process (shift in hands at the venue) so she's trying to keep us happy with all of the changes. She said we could bring both of our parents, so a total of 6. FFIL couldn't come, so there were 5 of us.

    We made the decisions together, my parents are paying for the reception, but FMIL is helping with portions of the day, so we wanted her to feel very included too.

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