white dress: have 2 children with my fiance and i was married (to someone else now divorced)

Nobody is going to really care what color the dress is (and if they do, they are judgemental jerks). There are girls now who are getting married for the first time and wearing red or blush colored. Get what you like.

Wear whatever the hell you want. How many of us do you think are virgins...?

Most people wearing white probably aren't "qualified" in the traditional sense. My dress is ivory because it looks better on my skin tone, but if it was white, I'd wear it proudly.

Tell them to kiss it. That's an outdated "rule" anyway.

I don't think this is a "thing" anymore. Though I will admit I was self-conscious about getting a white dress too, for the same reasons, though I was never married and don't have kids. I originally wanted white but got ivory.

Traditionally white is reserved for virgins. This is no longer the case as I would guess 95% of brides wear some form of white and I'm going to hazard to guess that the vast majority are not virgins. Wear whatever you want and tell the haters to piss off.

THANK YOU LADIES. I'M DEFINITELY GOING TO WEAR MY WHITE DRESS WITH PRIDE AND WILL TELL PEOPLE TO LEAVE IF THEY DONT LIKE IT.

I have 2 kids and been with FH for 17 years and still wearing white or ivory

I'm wearing white, 3 almost grown kids and divorced also. If anyone has anything smart to say, they can kick rocks!

That is an outdated rule and the labor day "rule" doesn't apply to wedding dresses...

If anyone questions you I would just respond with "didn't you wear white on your wedding day?" Because it's very likely they weren't virgins either

"White is for virgins" is a really recent tradition anyway. White dresses were originally a symbol of wealth--only rich people could afford to wear a color that would show stains or need to be replaced quickly. Wedding dresses are just supposed to be your celebratory best. If you want white, wear white!

Wear the color you want to wear. I'm wearing white, I'm not "pure" in any sense, and my wedding is after Labor Day.

Absolutely wear whatever you want. If anyone is going to gossip, they're just looking for things to talk about. White isn't for virgins and brides wear all kinds of dresses these days.

Yup, I'm wearing white, I have a grown child (previous relationship) and a 4 yr old with FH. Wear what you want.

Do what you want. This is so old and out dated.

I will be 49 when I get married, I have two adult sons, 1 granddaughter and my dress is a WHITE wedding gown!!! Guess I checked off several of the "not qualified" categories in that tradition. LOL!! I wish someone would say something to me about my dress! It's you and your SO's day do what makes you happy!!!

Wear whatever you want! I'm wearing an ivory with light gold lacing. I was also determined to wear ivory (if i hadn't had fell in love with my dress in that color). When I was trying on dresses I was so surprised how many dresses are actually ivory when I thought they were white! I also have a child with FH. We been together for almost 6 years. If I would have fell in love with a white dress I would have purchased it. Although, I really have a light complexion - I don't think white would have been the best choice personally.

It's your day and your dress!! Choose one that makes you feel beautiful and don't limit yourself to tradition. Plus, if you were to choose an ivory one, I'm sure most guests wouldn't even realize it!

My sister was 7 months pregnant when she got married, in a white dress!!

I'm sure not many people who wear a white dress on their wedding day should be by old folks tales and such but it's a new time so go for it!

Also, remember that until 175 years ago no one wore white dresses--they became 'trendy' when Queen Victoria wore one at her marriage to Prince Albert, and it kind of stuck because people then (as now) apparently followed the fashion ideas of British royalty. So, any "tradition" is new anyway--people used to wear bright colors if they could afford it, and whatever they owned if they couldn't afford something new. I've never heard of anyone not wear white because they weren't "qualified."