Which name goes first?

I think it's everything before the wedding the brides name comes first. After the wedding (reception, thank you's, etc) the grooms name is first.

I put my name first on our Save the Dates.

Brides goes first for a wedding, and then from then on out the groom's goes first. It's the same with monograms. Traditionally your wedding monogram will not be used as your household monogram because men (as head of household) goes first within your household; however, during a wedding the bride's goes first.

Many people are mixing it up and you definitely don't have to have the bride's name first, even though that is the tradition.

Yup, I agree. The bride's name goes first on all things leading up to the wedding, because once you're married the man's name comes first in all things because he is head of household. Also, that's why you see Mr. & Mrs. after a couple marries. Take advantage of it girl, you have the rest of your life for your name to come second.

Traditionally, the bride's name is listed first on wedding invitations (even if the couple are hosting the wedding). If the groom's parents are hosting the wedding, the invitatin should read:

Mr. and Mrs. Riordan Scott Cullen

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of

Amelia Rose Manning

to their son

Liam Quinlan

Saturday, the fifth of June

two thousand and fifteen

at half after ten in the morning

Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception

Syracuse, New York

Honestly, I've never seen the groom's name preceding the bride's name.

I put my name first. But I put my name first on the thank you cards we ordered out of habit. Ugh.

Okay, thanks for the clarification. That totally makes sense. I guess I could have googled that one, but this also gets a better idea of what brides are currently doing too.

We took turns! Some of the things I put his name first, some I did mine! "We" sound better with his name first!

I think the reason you see the Groom's name 1st so often on today's STD's is b/c of the popularity of photos on these types of invites. Most of the time, the names are in order of who is in the photo. My FH is on the left on our STD, therefore his name was listed 1st under our photo.

FH prefers it's alphabetical. He might be a bit ocd lol. I'm first

IMO this is one to those old school rules based on traditional gender roles that needs to die anyway. A wedding isn't just for the bride, it's for them both. Likewise, why is the man automatically the head of house? Especially nowadays when most households are dual income. I say put your names in whatever order you want, it doesn't change the meaning of the invite (or the thank you card, or whatever).