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Bettina
Beginner November 2020

Which day is the question....

Bettina, on July 2, 2019 at 3:23 PM Posted in Planning 0 37
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So, my fiancée and I just left a venue meeting. We liked the place, but of course we are still going to look at other venues just to be safe on our choice for our special day. We both are teachers, so budget is very important in making our decision. After looking over prices, my fiancée’s jaw dropped when he noticed the price differences based upon the day. I told him this previously, but I guess he had to see it in black and white, lol! So now he wants to do a Friday or Sunday wedding, which I’m totally up for, but he’s concerned with people coming and having to take off work, etc. My thought is they will try to make it, and if they can’t, well wishes will be sent. It’s our budget and we have to stick to what we can afford. What do you guys think?

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Latest activity by Megan, on August 25, 2019 at 10:49 AM
  • Jessica
    Master September 2020
    Jessica ·
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    Our friends are getting married on a Friday afternoon later this year and as far as we know they don’t have a higher than normal decline rate because of it. I say go for it, there will always be people who just can’t make it no matter what. Do what’s best for the two of you.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    We did a Sunday afternoon and it was great! Literally no one complained about it being a Sunday, because it ended by 5pm. Some people actually told us they preferred this to a Saturday (as people from out of town had all day Saturday to travel to the wedding instead of having to take off Friday, or leave late Friday night, or leave early Saturday morning) and then could travel home Sunday evening.

    It was also super nice for us because I got to spend basically the entire day and evening with my husband. After our reception ended at 5, we changed, sat down and rested for a while, and then went to dinner with about a dozen friends at 6:30pm. Then 4 of them came back to our hotel suite and we all talked until midnight. It was great because we got to continue the celebration and spend quality time with some people after the wedding!

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    You will likely have declines no matter what day you pick. But I like a Friday wedding, and especially as a guest. It gives me a good reason to take off work early, and get a start on the weekend! Even Sunday is fine too. If you pick Sunday, I would just make sure to have it early enough in the day so that guests won't be worried about work the next day. Like early afternoon, into the early evening.

    But yes, you have to do what is right for your budget. The people who really want to be there will be there, no matter what day.

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  • Bettina
    Beginner November 2020
    Bettina ·
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    Thanks! We are discussing it more now. I’m really liking a Friday option! It’s in our budget and give recoup time lol
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  • C
    Super December 2021
    Casey ·
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    I like Friday over Sunday. People can stay later and not have to worry about getting up early the next day/being hungover the next day.
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  • Bettina
    Beginner November 2020
    Bettina ·
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    That’s awesome! I wish we could have it end by that time, but we didn’t want to take the morning worship time away from ourselves, our family or friends. So it would’ve started later. But, I love how you guys were able to spend that time with those closest to you!! 💖
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  • Bettina
    Beginner November 2020
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    Yea, my thoughts completely! Especially with so many guests traveling, I’m sure they will appreciate the rest on the tail-end.
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  • Bettina
    Beginner November 2020
    Bettina ·
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    Completely agree! They will make it there if it’s meant for them to be there!! I’m starting to love the Friday wedding idea even more now too!
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  • M
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    Exactly that. We were planning on doing a Saturday night affair and with the prices we decided to switch to friday. Still going to be the same amount but now we can invite more people!
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    Ohh that makes sense. We are Jewish so Sunday morning isn’t that time for us haha. What’s the earliest you’d be able to start on a Sunday? And do you have a lot of OOT guests? If not I’d say as long as you’re done by 8 or 9 even I wouldn’t complain as a guest
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  • Jennifer
    Super September 2020
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    Friday weddings I'm always forced to take off work for. Sunday weddings you have an option of taking off work on Monday or not. No forced taking off work.

    Ours is a Sunday wedding. Saved a ton. Allows my guests to get in on Saturday. Allows me a prep day before the wedding without another day off from work. Our time slot is 3pm to 9pm.
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  • Emily
    Super April 2020
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    I don't think the day will be an issue for most people. I was in a Sunday wedding a few years ago and the bride was surprised at how many people RSVP'd yes because it was a Sunday afternoon/night wedding. People will come and be happy no matter the day of the week!

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    Expert October 2019
    Sara ·
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    Personally I never mind a Friday wedding. Yes, it typically requires some time off work especially if I’m traveling, but I think if your send out save the dates 10-12 months ahead of time (or at least let your guests know ahead of time of the date), it’s easy to plan for! Something to consider too is that other vendors often offer Friday discounts (photographers, limos, etc.). I was in a Friday wedding a few years ago when the 4th of July happened for fall on that Sunday so many people had off anyway—so that or any other holiday weekend could be an option.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I think it depends on if you have out of town guests and what people's jobs are in your group. We have a ton of business/tech company friends so taking days off is super easy and requires little to no work (especially if they have wifi and can work on the road). But some people have hourly or 9-5 employment so taking days off is a whole big thing. In that case, Sunday works better (in my opinion). If you want a later wedding and more party atmosphere, I'd go Friday. If you send save the dates out far in advance, people will plan for it!

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  • Erin
    Expert May 2020
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    I'm doing a Friday evening because it's cheaper! Plus, we wanted an evening wedding so we decided not to do Sunday with work being the next day. Also, Sunday conflicts with a lot of church schedules. You can also be out all day Friday and have the weekend to recover before going back to work.

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
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    You will always have some guests that can’t make it. I don’t mind either one to be honest. If the people are important enough to me to attend their wedding I will do whatever I have to in order to be there. We have a wedding next month for a cousin and it’s on Friday at 3:30 and it’s almost 2 hours away so basically it’s missing a half day of work for my husband but we don’t care and wouldn’t miss it for the world. Good luck!
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  • Amy
    Dedicated November 2019
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    We are doing a Friday night wedding. We sent STD's out 6 months before so it gives people a heads up. As a guest I personally like the idea of having Saturday to regroup and continue on my weekend. I went to a Sunday wedding and was exhausted the next day at work.
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  • Kristen
    VIP June 2020
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    I picked Sunday over Friday because of out-of-state guests. Nobody has complained, quite a few cousins who already know the date have been happy that they get to take off work on a Monday!!

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
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    If a lot of out of town guests, Friday! If mostly local, a yummy Sunday brunch (even cheaper than dinner and you don’t need a DJ/dancing if you don’t want), or an early dinner wedding that would end by 8 or 9 pm.
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  • Bettina
    Beginner November 2020
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    Thanks Jessica! I’m definitely learning this in the process. I’m such a people pleaser, but I’m trying and I have to do what’s best for us!
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