Where do I put my registry info?!?!

I didn't mean to offend anyone with my post, so I apologize if I did. I tend to use these forums to run ideas that I have by a group of people who have experience in areas that I don't, and I appreciate honest, straight- forward answers to my posts. I know that people put registry information in their invites from time to time, but I still find that improper etiquette. Although many of your guests will find it useful information, there also will be some of think it is rude... but if that doesn't bother you then who cares? At the end of the day each of us has to make choices about our weddings that not everyone is going to like or agree with, but like @victoria said, you have to do what is right for your situation. Reading more about your wedding it seems like you don't really have any other options. I would do what everyone else said in that case and include a small card dedicated to the registry.

Good luck with your planning!!

The choice to include registry information is entirely up to the couple. Most guests to any wedding will be close family & friends who know the bride and groom's well enough to know they're not getting married only to receive a gift. If a guest is so shallow that they are offended about receiving a registry card for informational purposes only, then they shouldn't attend the wedding anyway. The wedding isn't about proper etiquette; it's about joining two souls together in love. Following an old tradition simply for the sake of "etiquette" is just silly. If it's more practical for the guests of the bride and groom to receive the registry information in the invitation, then its nobody's place to criticize or judge - THAT would be improper etiquette.

So should I write on the bottom of the invitation:

visit our website carnival.honeymoonwishes.com?

cuz on that site, you enter the first name and last name then the website comes up. or do i write the whole annoying thing in there? lol

Post it on your Wedding Website, ask your Parents, His Parents, or Bridal Party to spread where you're registered, but don't put it at all in your invitations anywhere. My BIL & SIL had it on their sheet with directions, and Hotel Info, and it still looked rude & tacky. Just trying to help you not give your gurests the wrong impression.

Mrs. B don't fret!! You can always print it on the BACK of your invites down at the bottom.

The couple is registered at www. blah blah .com

My invites are going to be one piece of paper - formal front stuff.. on the back i'm going to put:

"For hotel and directions please visit www. blah blah.com"

then under that

"The couple is registered at where ever"

If it is a small wedding with family and friends -- they know you and wont think it is rude. In fact when couples don't put registry info on the invites -- and for whatever reason I'm not invited to the shower -- It is really frustrating...then i have to call or track down someone who knows and usually I just give up and get them a gift card.

Don't freak about etiquette. If you are having a formal fancy 400+ wedding, sure fine. But honestly do whatever you want to do!!!!

If you haven't been updating the website and including the million directions on how to get to it is going to be a major P.I.T.A., I say include your registry info on a small card within the invitation mailing. Sorry, but if someone thinks it's rude, gets offended, and RSVPs no as a result, you're better off without them there! I understand the whole 'etiquette' argument, but I know more people who get annoyed because they have to jump through 50 hoops to figure out where someone's registered. I get peeved when I have to ask multiple people/check with stores to figure out where someone is registered when I'm doing the gift buying...I'm BUSY! I'd much rather just have it spelled out for me, buy a gift, and be on my way.

Mrs B,

You could have similar style or plain white business cards printed (vistaprint.com is amazing) with the registry info if you are worried about coming off tacky.

But I agree with Carolyn! If they think it is tacky and don't come because of it, it is their loss not yours!!

I say just use a separate insert. I think that is what I am going to do, just place it in with this information insert I have to put in there anyway since is destination. I have tons of friends that didn't include them in the invites and they got a TON of unwanted gifts because people really didn't know where they were registered and I hate to say this but not everyone looks at your "wedding website". I mean I have provided more information than necessary on my site but people are still calling me left and right (even wedding party members) asking simple questions they can find on the site. I say do it your way. Etiquette and tradition is nice but at the same time over rated and a lot of people don't pass the info on...you will be pissed stuck with 3 toasters and some vases that you didn't want all over people whining about etiquette and how tacky it is. DO YOU :-)

::applauds KenWay::

I was gonna say that I only hear that it's rude, tacky and improper...I, myself don't think it's rude. When I said I agreed that it was tacky, I guess I shoulda worded it "considered tacky."Like I said, every invite I've ever recieved had the couple's registry included on it or at least with it. I just know that it's considered to be rude. Heak, I might even end up inserting registry cards into my invites as well. I don't think that I'm going to have a bridal shower either. So, if you need to include it, go ahead. As long as your guests don't get offended, which if it's close family and frineds then I don't see why they would. I don't think many people are following the whole wedding etiquette thing anymore...idk

I so agree with you Victoria C. and KenWay!

I have so many family members that has asked me time and time again how to register for the hotel rooms, for example. I have done the word of mouth, it is on the website, I have sent out postcards and it will be in the invitations and I guarantee that someone is still going to be calling to ask how much is it and how to book. A lot of my family still don't get online till this day. We only have family and close friends coming and that is how it should be. More than likely the people that consider putting the registry information in the invite to be tacky, really don't know you. I say put the information in the invites if that is what you want to do.

Some might think it tacky or rude, but I certainly appreciate knowing exactly what would make a newlywed couple happiest and giving a gift accordingly. I have never gone to a wedding without a gift. so the fact that you are providing information for gift giving makes perfect sense to me.

To answer your question, you could put something like:

X & X are registered at ________________

You don't have to put a lot of explanation into it. People KNOW what that means and it will take up hardly any space at all.

Xws