When you don't want your mom at your wedding: Dear Prudence

Right on, Uny!

We didn't invite either of my parents to the wedding due to the toxic nature of our relationship. I haven't seen or spoken to my dad in almost 6 years and the most I've seen of my mother since she decided to be a completely shitty person is when she decides to crash things when she finds out we're there to confront me. We ended up cutting other family out of our lives as well since they thought it was their job to report to my parents where we were living and when we were coming to visit certain family members. My grandfathers walked me down the aisle and I skipped the father daughter dance even though FIL offered to dance with me. Family is what you make it. For us our group of friends is more like our family. We made sure we got a "framily" picture taken at the wedding, although sadly we are missing one very cranky flower girl.

Im not inviting my father, point blank. My aunts and grandmother from his side are invited and I dont care if they tell him that I'm getting married. He's still not welcomed. Sorry I sound harsh but I dont see him as my father.

Doesn't sound harsh Marleen, you do what you need to

Hi JaKLyn xox

I didn't invite one of my sisters. It's been a little over 15 years since I've spoken to her because she's a very toxic person. Some people were upset that I didn't invite her because they said I should have used the wedding as a way of patching things up with her. Sorry, she burnt her bridges years ago and there was no way that I was going to reach out to her especially to invite to my wedding.

Even if I did want to invite her it would have been extremely awkward because years before DH and I started dating, she used to tell everyone how much she wanted to f*ck him. Yep, awkward!

This sounds exactly like my situation. I don't take to my mother, she knows I don't want to talk to her. I never told her I was engaged, hell, I never even told her I was dating someone. She finds everything out from my sister. She is not invited to my wedding. She won't get an invite. My sister has probably told her, but I know she won't show up because she lives somewhere in northern CA and I am way south in CA and she is too poor to travel. I hope it works out for the letter writer.

I know this is old, but how did it go? Was there any regrets?