I know there's a ton of questions on here about tipping but I couldn't find any definitive answers so thought I'd double check.
First, when did you all tip your vendors? On the day of the wedding or did you send them a thank you card with a tip after the wedding? At first I thought at the wedding, but then how do you gauge if they go above and beyond, or if they did a terrible job right there on the spot? If on the wedding day, did you hand them an envelope before they left or right when they arrive?
Next, I'm working with a event sales manager at the hotel that is our venue. She showed us the venue at first when we first visited, and she has been my point of contact answering all of my questions. I believe she will be coordinating the flip of our space on the wedding day, but she's made it clear to me that her and her team would not be doing much else on the day and that perhaps I would need an event coordinator or wedding planner. Since I'm already paying a ceremony fee plus 23% gratuity on the food and drinks, is it expected that I would give her a separate tip as well? If so, how much is expected?
Thanks for your help!