When to start planning?

Congratulations 🍾!!!
Within two months we had our beautiful engagement party at the Hilton and had most details of our wedding figured out within 4 months. Especially with Covid, you’ll want to plan ASAP because most nice venues / vendors are booked in 2021/2022. His comment is odd to me... being engaged and wedding planning go hand in hand... lol I did 95% of the planning and he was okay with that.
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My fiance and I waited about a month before we started planning anything. We wanted to spend some time enjoying the engagement before we really started planning. During that first month, we casually talked about potential dates and budget and such, but otherwise did not decide on anything concrete. We setup a few venue tours for a weekend that was about a month and a half after our engagement, and that's really when we started planning.

My FH and I didn't start planning until 3 years after we got engaged.

If your fiancé is annoyed about you bringing up wedding planning, it may indicate he isn’t wanting to actually get married for sometime. I would just ask him what his timeframe is in terms of when he wants to have the ceremony. If you were thinking in a year, and he is thinking 5 years, it may be something you guys need to figure out together. Once you pick a general time frame, it will be easier for you to pick a date and know when you should begin planning.

Also, congratulations on your engagement!!

I enjoyed being engaged and achieving personal goals such as paying off my student loan debt before getting married.

I planned pretty much immediately but I know a lot of people who took their time to enjoy their engagement before they started planning

If you guys have already agreed on the May 2022 wedding date, then I think you just might need to explain to him that many vendors in the wedding industry book up 12-18 months before the actual date (especially venues). I don't think most people realize this until they start planning, and if you wait to start planning until what might feel like a more reasonable time (say six months out), options are quite limited at that point.

We got engaged July 2019 & booked our venue within a month of being engaged. My fiancé had the same reaction when I wanted to start planning. His exact words were “why can’t we just enjoy being engaged?” However, I wasn’t looking to start choosing colors, dresses etc. We had to talk it out & give our reasons why. My reasoning was that our date is going to be very popular (4/3/21) & if we found a venue we both loved, we had to jump on it. He agreed but that was as far as it went with the planning.

Congratulations!!🍾
I feel like this is a personal choice. For myself, we started looking 2 months after since we were engaged on Thanksgiving last year and wanted to enjoy the holidays. I did a majority of the planning including all of the vendors but ran it by him when I found them for pricing etc. Some people like a long engagement and that can have to do with age sometimes too.

We got engaged at the end of November (11/29) and we didn’t start actually planning until later in December/January. It allowed us to enjoy being engaged but also get through the holidays together.

We didn't even start planning or considering planning until about 2 years after the engagement. There were a lot of factors involved in waiting; moving, my fiancé started a new job (twice), he started taking trade classes, etc. He never seemed annoyed about talking about until now because all I've been talking about is picking a honeymoon destination

Congrats! My hubby was the same way at first. He wanted to enjoy being engaged. So he proposed July 4 2019 and we made a deal to enjoy the summer and September 2019 start planning. which we did. Had us enjoy each other more

My fiancé was the same way, but he made a great point that I didn’t think about at the time. He (depending on who planned/paid) just spent a ton of time and money on the proposal and ring - he wants to enjoy being engaged for a bit before talking about spending thousands more! Cut him some slack and wait a few months, unless you have a vision with only 1 specific venue that will work, you do not need to start planning 18months out.

The next day, lol!
But serious discussion, we set a date 2 weeks after the proposal. Our engagement was only 54 weeks so we had to get a move on.

We went on vacation the day after he proposed for a week and when we got back home we started planning.
If he wants to have a long engagement then sure, enjoy being engaged. But if you want to be married in the next year or two, you should start planning ASAP.

We had started looking at stuff online before the engagement. We got engaged during a stay at home order, so we didn’t really have a choice about when we could do things. I emailed the venue about a month after we got engaged and ended up having an appointment to tour it the first week the coordinator was back in the office. That was at the end of June which was two months after we got engaged. It was steady planning all summer after that! I’m a teacher, so doing it during the summer was important. This has been a crazy school year, and I’m so thankful I haven’t had to worry about the wedding on top of it.
Whatever your planning timeline looks like, it has to be what will work best for you as a couple. Definitely sit down and talk about it.

With all the uncertainty around COVID, we set a date and are getting a venue right away. I think dates in 2021 / 2022 will book up pretty quickly. Other vendors can wait IMO

I started planning the next month I believe! We both were excited

He proposed December 2018, and we chose a date in April 2019 (so about 4 months). We chose a venue a few months after that.