When to include a baby in wedding ceremony (

A baby that young will not walk down the aisle - they will freak out and begin to scream for mama.

Mistake, mistake, mistake.....unless you sew the baby to the dress train and drag it down the aisle. Then it's a mistake and a Youtube sensation.

Actually this can't be said for all babies. At least we will have a trial during wedding rehearsal and either the baby can do this or the baby can be carried by the grandmother who will be babysitting the child on the wedding day to see her other grandchild be a flower girl and then partake in a piece of the reception and perhaps take dinner to go

I am not a fan of kids or babies and we had an adult-only wedding, so take my opinion with a grain of salt, but I say if you want the 1 year old in the wedding, then have her in it. Have an adult she is good with assigned to her to try to keep her happy and quiet during the ceremony, and to escort her out if needed. Good luck!

Eric, babies are unpredictable. They can be fine one minute and screaming bloody-murder the next. If you're hiring a videographer, budget in editing just in case the baby starts screaming during the ceremony.

Is it really that bad to have a baby sound in a footage anyway? I would think if the baby got loud the grandmother would shhhh the baby and walk baby outside

I was at a wedding where there was a 19 month old ring bearer. He SCREAMED down the aisle. This is too unpredictable. Just include the baby in pictures. I doubt the 12 month old will feel slighted.

The idea of a baby screaming during my wedding was my worst nightmare, but if it doesn't bother you or your fiance, then it doesn't matter if anyone else is bothered by it. Be prepared to be flexible, though. As others have said, babies and kids are unpredictable. She may not want to go down the aisle, take off her favourite sweater, sit down during the ceremony, etc. Don't let it be a stress for you guys. If you want to include her, then just don't have set expectations and you won't be disappointed. Lots of people include kids in their ceremony and are still married at the end of the day.

The idea of a baby screaming during a wedding is better than dozens of things I can think up, including

marriages that end in divorce, a wedding that is cancelled due to a hurricane, a wedding where a family member falls sick on the day of the wedding, or how about not being able to afford a wedding altogether. Vs a joyful wedding with a baby included

Of course there are worse things that could happen. There always is. You asked for advice, and you got it. Honestly, the wedding I referenced with the screaming ring bearer was incredibly awkward because of it. A 12-month old isn't going to know what is going on; you're just using her as a prop. IMO, the risks outweigh the cuteness factor.

If having her in the ceremony means a lot to you, include her in it. She can have mom hold her hand and walk her down the aisle, or big sis can pull her in a wagon. But as other posters have mentioned, babies are unpredictable. And unfortunately parents don't know when to remove a fussy/screaming/crying baby (or toddler) until they've tried shushing it for several minutes. It can get really annoying to other guests who are trying to hear over the ceremony. Hopefully the kids can stay quiet for the 20 minute ceremony, but I would talk to the parents about how you would like fussy kids handles before hand. It may not bother you that a baby is crying and mom and dad are trying to soothe her, but other guests might not appreciate it.

Putting a 12 month old on a wagon is not safe. Please don't do that!

@marriedoldhag, if the right precautions are taken, wagons can be very safe. There are also wagons specifically designed for wheeling a baby flower girl down the aisle that are very safe for babies and other little ones to ride in.

A bridesmaid fainting, a wedding cake falling on the floor, a bride tripping while walking the aisle, and cold food are also nowhere near as bad as divorce or natural disasters, but I can promise you , there's not a bride on this board that would want any of those things to happen at her wedding.

If you want to take the chance of a screaming baby overshadowing a ceremony that your FW has been envisioning for a long time, that's up to you. If you want to risk irritating people who took the time to witness your ceremony, that's up to you. It's a mistake, and even if the baby doesn't scream, it was still a mistake because you took a needless risk.

It's the bride who wants the baby included and saying "she's my little one of course she can come!!! I can't imagine her not coming, of course she can cry!!!!! She's my baby she's my boooooo she's my munchkin my little lizzypoo. It's the baby my bride sits for 5 days a week.

Knowing her, she won't be the one irritated because she wants the baby included at all costs. On top that, she told the nanny family "your baby is invited to the wedding and reception" and they already bought a wedding formal dress for the baby."