When to give a plus one

View Quoted Comment Wow. Yeah I'd rather it not be some random person as a place holder.

I think for a destination wedding everyone should be invited in pairs (by name if married, engaged or dating, or plus one if single).

View Quoted Comment Were you given a plus one? Or did you decide to go solo?

View Quoted Comment Long story short, my bestie invited my ex SO at the time out of courtesy but knew he would never come. (Relationship was headed for the rocks at this point). I wouldn’t be caught dead not standing beside her and went anyway. He later got pissed I went without him and had a blast. I broke up with him a month later. Met FH 3 months later.

View Quoted Comment Wow. Everything happens for a reason!

The only time you have to give a +1 is if a guest is in a serious relationship, but you don't know the partner well enough to invite them by name. Basically it's the "don't split up couples" rule.

Beyond that, they're entirely optional. However, if you have a guest who doesn't know anyone else (i.e. they're not family, not part of your old college crowd, not part of any set), that would be the next best time to give a +1.

We are doing a DW and gave EVERYONE a plus one BUT most people opted to not exercise it (even the ones in relationships just found it to be too much of a hassle to arrange travel for both). On the otherhand, my best friend got married in 2017 on a week long cruise. I was invited as 1 of 2 friends (we paid our own way) but neither of us were extended plus 1 invites (in that regards they had a small intimate(20 people max) wedding so they probably didn't want strangers there either).

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. As long as a single knows other people, it’s fine to skip a plus one for them. Serious couples/people in relationships should always come as a unit.

View Quoted Comment Yess!!!

What she said!

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If you're looking to cut down the guest list, I'd start with the co-workers. If you need an excuse, tell them it's a destination wedding and you're keeping it intimate with family and close friends. Or cite budget. I mean, realistically, can a "group of friends" who are coworkers all get off at the same time to attend? If they can't all go, it might make things awkward at work.

We are only giving plus ones to people that are in serious relations, and to our bridal party. My mom asked me to give my uncle a plus one because he’ll be driving 6 hours for our wedding. I do have some friends that keep mentioning their plus one even though I was not planning on giving them one because they’re single and a ton of our friends are invited, it’s stressing me out a bit lol.

I plan on giving plus ones to members of the bridal party, to older family members who may need a travel companion, and to a few friends who do not know anyone else on the guest list. For members of our general friend group who are single, we are not including plus ones because they all know each other and will be sat as a group.

We invited our guests significant others (that we knew of at the time invites went out) and only gave plus ones to our single bridal party members.

People in serious committed relationships likely wouldn't travel to a destination wedding without their partner, so I suggest inviting them both to by name, so not a plus one. For single people or those in just casual, not too established relationships, I wouldn't worry about a plus one, as long as they know someone else there. Also, you'll probably see some significant atrophy from the invited list to the attending list given that destination weddings can be expensive for guests. Good luck!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Yes We are inviting 150 but realistically we are expecting closer to 100. Sometimes I feel like you just have to invite people for more "political" reasons knowing they won't be coming anyway.

I've been to about 3 weddings and at the time was single. I was advised that I did not have an option for a plus one and I was completely OK WITH IT! It's your wedding! Do what you want. In saying that, at mine I am doing NO plus one for singles( I may a few exceptions). My wedding 💁🏾‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Girl invite and construct your wedding like YOU want to. Happy nuptials 💞

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Yass same to you. It's hard to remember sometimes that its for you and your significant other not everyone else.

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I definitely agree - we're budgeting for 100 people, but the invite list is closer to 150 because there are some people that I just *know* won't come.

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Plus ones aren't for you, they're for the comfort of your guest, which is part of being a good host.

Anyone who is married/in a relationship should be invited with their partner, full stop. Co-worker or not. If these are single co-workers who would basically be coming together then you'd need not give plus ones.

But generally, I'd agree that plus ones are for single people who would not know anyone else or are travelling. People don't always bring a guest, but it's a nice gesture to offer.