So my FH and I have been redoing our guest list like crazy and we are already have a bigger list than my father (who is paying for the venue) is really happy with. We had to make a lot of cuts (i.e kids/children). Now we are at the dead lock of who to give plus ones to. Does every single person get a plus one? Or only if they are in a relationship? What is the proper way to decide who gets a plus one?
Plus ones are for single people. Those in relationships are social units and should always be invited together. Single people don't have to be given plus ones unless you want to. I personally would give a plus one to any single guest who is 1.) traveling for the wedding or 2.) won't know anyone else.
Spouses and serious boyfriends/girlfriends should definitely be added to the guest list. For singles, I think that's really up to you. We only have a couple singles we're inviting, but they're friends with other people at the wedding (and we're having a small-ish wedding) so we won't be giving them plus ones. If they don't know anyone other than you or your FH, I would give them a plus one!
Not really, at least not in my opinion. We have singles in their 20's and singles in their 40's, it really just came down to who else they know/if they're in a serious relationship or not
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They are coworkers of my FH. They would be a group of friends so they would all be traveling together. Thats why i didn't know if they needed plus ones.
The only person who is not married who is getting a plus 1 to my wedding is my brother. If having someone there with him keeps him from starting a fight at my wedding over politics, I’m all for it. Other than that, no one is getting one.
But I believe the general rule of thumb is serious relationships (I.e together for 1 year+) should be invited together, otherwise it’s not a requirement.
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We gave plus ones to my husband's friends. I think it was about 3 guys (our max guest count could only be 75 ppl). The single guys had been 5 when we made our guest list but by the time we sent out our invites, 2 were in relationships. None of the 3 single guys brought a date. So you may extend a plus one to someone and they might not take you up on the offer anyway.
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Thats true too. Not everyone wants to have to pay for a plus one when your traveling. So that's definitely an option to extend the courtesy.
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Thank you. Yes, that was what i thought it was as well. But everyone has had a different opinion when i asked friends and family.
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Yeah our wedding was local and they still didn't bring dates. I would speak with your FH. He probably knows if these guys would be offended if they weren't invited with a guest.
In that case, I think it's fine to not give them plus ones. They will know and have each other to hang out with at the wedding. So, no plus ones needed!
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I kinda feel the same. Especially if it's someone you don't know or never met. I want people to be there who know us as a couple and we know and have a special relationship with them too.
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Exactly! I got very salty one day at work, when one of my co-workers was asking about bringing some guy. She had just gotten serious, but I wasn't going to give her a ➕1 over a year before the Wedding.
She’s not with him now and my Wedding is on Saturday.
