When to cut out unresponsive bridesmaid

Unfortunately im starting to deal with this and its my own cousin. Luckily im 10 months out but trying to understand why shes acting like this. I am also ordering dresses from Azazie. Did you tell your girls a dress deadline?

If I were you, I would definitely send her a message that you're removing her from the bridal party. The reason I would is so that there is absolutely NO WAY she can misinterpret, misunderstand or misrepresent the facts. Just send her a short message saying

"hey, I get that sometimes life gets in the way of some plans and maybe there's a lot going on for you right now, but since you haven't been able to participate in wedding activities, I'm just thinking maybe you have a lot to deal with. I don't want my wedding to add to that for you, so I'm going to relieve you of the duties of being a bridesmaid. It just seems to make sense for both of us. I would still love for you to be a guest, if you wish and I'll look forward to your RSVP."

Or words along those lines. This way, you're not necessarily making it her fault (even though we all know it is), and you're giving her an out.

I'm dealing with a similar situation and not sure if one of my bridesmaids is still planning to be a part of my wedding or not. But I'm going to give her a bit more time and then flat out ask her. I have a little time right now before I have to cut bait since my wedding isn't until next June.

Good luck, Love.

I had a bridesmaid do the same thing to me. She accepted my bridesmaid proposal (Sep'19) and seemed excited about everything! Then after Christmas I would text her something about the wedding. No response, I'd wait a week or two and then just say hi, no wedding talk and still nothing, not reading my texts or anything even though she was super active on instagram. After like 3 months of this (pre-covid too) I reached out and asked if she still wanted to be in the wedding, and if not thats totally ok I just need to know, and I gave her another month to respond. Still nothing so I reached out again and granted, I wasn't that nice but I hadn't heard from her in 5ish months even though she posted EVERY DAY in her story or in posts. SHE STILL didn't respond and then after telling her I couldn't plan on her being there because she didn't respond she sent me a thumbs up emoji and then blocked me on EVERYTHING. I still have no idea what the heck happened. If your bridesmaid is anything like that, especially being this close to your wedding, I would just move on. She's made it pretty obvious that being a bridesmaid isn't her priority.