When someone gets engaged etiquette

I received one card with money in it. I got a few texts from my aunts saying congrats. My friends all called to say congrats. That was it. Sending a card is super nice but I don't think the norm anymore.

This is also something I've never really thought about. I'm 20, so the whole 'adulting' thing is kinda new for me. I have gotten a huge number of personal congratulations (face to face), as well as Facebook posts. I got one call from grandma, and about 6 or 7 cards.

I think a card is very appropriate.

A card or a verbal congrats the next time you see them is usually all that is needed.

A simple "congratulations" is fine. I've never sent a card or gift for an engagement. I think I got 2 engagement cards, most other people just said Congratulations. I had one friend who had an engagement party and I gave them a card and a nice vinegar and olive oil gift set from Carter and Cavero.

A card is more than adequate. I can't imagine doing more than that for an engagement- well- that's not entirely true- I'd happily go out with a friend to celebrate if they were close to me- but all my close friends- we are all foodies- we go eat when ever we can. any excuse to go get delicious food is fine by us.

Otherwise- no- a phone call or a card is fine.

We didn't get any gifts or cards when we got engaged. We got FB messages. I think that a card is fine, but I don't think you need to send a gift

You should be fine with just a card. I feel like celebrating the engagement at a party is plenty, and that's not even universal across the U.S. Really sweet of you to be conscious of that though!

We didn't get anything. I've never given anyone anything, either.

We got a few cards. Our parents each gave us gifts (his parents gave us a Ninja blender and mine gave us money). I've sent cards in the past, but that's it.

Yeah, I got a couple cards, but nothing more than that. I think a card is good enough for the engagement, and a gift for the wedding.

We only got a card from my grandma. Other than that we just got congratulated in person by family at the next event we saw them at, and by friends on FB and when we saw them next in person. I would have felt sort of weird had someone gotten us a gift for getting engaged. But engagement parties aren't something that I have ever heard of anyone doing in our area.

I didn't get any cards or gifts when I got engaged. Of course, we'd been together almost 10 years. I think everyone's reaction was more like, "Well-- DUH!" than, "Oh, how exciting!"

A card is fine you don't have to send money, but if you wanted to give a gift card to get a wedding planner book or something, I'm sure that would be great

Nothing is expected! A card is really nice & special, we got a couple. If someone put cash in it I feel like I'd send it back LOL My best friend got me champagne glasses, which was super sweet! But we are BFFs, I certainly did not expect a gift.

We didn't get gifts- we got a few really sweet letters from close friends and family. A card is plenty!