When should guests RSVP?

I'm getting married the 28th of May and set my rsvp for march 1st

I plan on setting the date a month before the wedding also just in case I get some "No's", I could extend the invitation to others.

OMG! I'm getting married 5/6. I thought 4/15 was enough time.

1 - 2 weeks before final numbers due to venue and caterer. Gives you time to track down those not returned, I promise you will have them, LOL .

I am getting married February 4th and RSVPs are due back January 5th. they are going out November 28th

Thanks for the advice!!!

Gabrielle, FYI that's called B-listed and it's super rude.

Op-the date depends on when your catering numbers are due. Give yourself at least a week before that to track down missing rsvps.

That's my big day as well! I think I'm going to wait until Feb

I'm planning to give myself a 2 week cushion before the caterer needs final numbers.

Our wedding was 5/27/16 and I set RSVP deadline for 5/1.

Please do not invite other people when you get declines. It is extremely rude to do so and those guests who were b-listed will know!

No more than 2-3 weeks before the wedding unless the venue requires it.

Period. Any earlier than that, and expect to have to call a LOT of people and a LOT if I don't knows. Many workplaces won't finalize time off until 30 days prior.

@Gabrielle: That is so incredibly rude. Your guests WILL know they were b-listed, and you should fully expect it to permanently affect your relationship with those people.

That's like telling them they weren't good enough to attend until someone said no, which is, in reality, exactly what you're telling them.

I'm getting married the same day and was planning on RSVPs being due April 21- our final headcount is due May 5

Some venues aren't big enough to fit everyone you WANT to come. Considering people send invitations out at many different intervals, they will have no idea they have been B-listed. I'm sending out my invites 2 months early..which is early. I'm ok with 100 people. So if unfortunately someone can't make it- i would love to invite coworkers, etc that weren't on the list at the 6 week mark. They aren't expecting an invite AT ALL. But if i can give them one they will be very excited.

Sabrina- no matter your reasoning, it's rude

@Sabrina- you chose your venue. If you wanted to invite more people, you should have picked a larger venue.

We selected a venue that requires us to significantly cut our list. That was our choice. We won't be B-listing because it's rude.

@Bailee- set your rsvp a week or so before you need final numbers. There's no reason to do it earlier and it's nice for your guests to not have to decide extremely early for no reason.

I'm getting married April 29, RSVP date April 1. Venue doesn't actually need a count until the 22nd I believe but I wanted to give enough time to track down stragglers (most are OOT) and order favors, programs/menus/place cards, hotel bags, and put together seating chart etc with a solid idea of a count. There will be ALOT to do at the end. Having it April 1 for a late May wedding will be what MNA said...a lot of "I don't knows" or worse-"yes"'s that turn into "no's" because things came up.

I am getting married 1/21 and put 1/7 as the RSVP date.

It all really depends when your final numbers are due. We are getting married 4/21 but out final numbers are due 4/2.

We set our RSVP Date March 17th so we have a little time to get everything together and contact people who did not respond.

I am going to disagree that B-listing will be seen as rude, only because I was on the other end of that. Two friends that I train with were getting married two years ago. All of us at the dojo really wanted to go to their wedding, but we all knew they were trying to keep costs down and had to limit the number of invites, so only the instructor was invited at first. A few weeks before the wedding, several of us received invitations. We all completely understood that her family took precedence, and that we received invites because several family members must have declined. no one was offended, we were just super excited to be able to go!

Oh, and my wedding is June 17, and we asked for RSVPs by May 1. We have close to 280 people on our invite list, and the caterer needs rough numbers, plus we need time to buy enough alcohol!