When One Partner In a Marriage Doesn't Want Sex...

I would see a couples therapist or a sex therapist.

If one or both of us stopped wanting something and we couldn't pinpoint a physical or psychological issue it'd be time for professional help.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this.

View Quoted Comment Yes! I think seeing a sex therapist or couple's counselor is the absolute best answer for this situation. There could be so many reasons for a lengthy dry spell and it's best to find a mediator for such a sensitive situation.

I have lengthy dry spells and while it frustrates my husband, he always respects my wishes. He made a point of telling me that. My most recent one has been due to medical reasons. Other than that, the lower libido may have something to do with my Asperger's. However, this has allowed me to learn that relationships aren't always about sex, although the sex is a great bonus.

I have a low sex drive. I also suffer from depression so they pretty much go hand in hand. We have sex when I'm up for it which isn't often. My partner and I have had many discussions on the topic over the years and I have talked to my psychiatrist and had my hormone levels checked. My hormones are fine but the low sex drive is mainly due to my mood disorder and the medicines I take. My partner has become very understanding.
Sex is part of a relationship but we share intimacy in other ways too.

It's funny we just discussed this between ourselves. My fiance noted I have the higher libido and the few times I didn't want sex I ended up so sick I went the emergency room. So he said in the future he'd consider it a lot more concerning symptom.🤦 He gets fairly frequent migraines so more often than not if he's not in the mood a migraine will start within 24 hours. I guess we're kind of lucky where if it's problem it's a health related problem so it's easier to let go. Although last year we noticed a decline in sex and decided to start dedicating time at night to sit and talk to each other, we found rebuilding emotional intimacy also built physical. I think it's easy to forget about being emotionally intimate but that when you do you can develop more physical problems. Stress and mental health also can reduce libido. I'd definitely consider not having sex a symptom of something and want to figure that out if it was a longer term problem.

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A sex therapist would be an interesting solution.

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Have you two seen a sex therapist as others are suggesting?

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In what other ways do you share intimacy? Would you consider seeing a sex therapist?

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I completely agree that rebuilding emotional intimacy can help build that physical interest.

View Quoted Comment No. It is not something we have considered. We know that when we start trying for children, there will be a lot more of it. Lol.

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Lol, got it.