When friend asks you to invite her WHOLE family to your wedding??

Also I am in the process of sending out invitations which is why I feel so anxious about this situation. I'm thinking about just sending the one invite to my friend and worried about the repercussions and how I will justify this decision to her.

If she is truly a friend and you are that close, she should not be offended if you don't invite her whole family. She is the rude one, imo, for asking (and pressuring it seems).

The old line here is usually "Due to space limitations and budget constraints we have had to pare our guest list. We hope you will be there in person and if not, celebrate with us in spirit."

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WTF do you care if people you don't know or care about are offended? Don't invite them. It's not your job to make the whole planet happy.

Well, as to not hurt feelings, I would tell her that you've got a budget in mind and inviting her whole family would put them over budget. And you'd really like to save that extra for a honeymoon or whatever. Unless you're a fan of bluntness, in which case you just say no and hope for the best.

I can't even begin to understand why she thinks this is okay. But I also don't understand why you're allowing your friend to dictate who you invite. Just tell her you've already had to cut people you're closer to and can't fit more guests.

Thank you all. I was definitely leaning in the "stand my ground" direction but I think I was just being a wuss and not wanting to have to argue or deal with her being mad at me for choosing to offend her family. @purplekitten that's such a good point! If I'm not close to someone then it shouldn't be my problem if they get offended. I hadn't really thought about it like that.

We invited our best man's parents - they're good friends with my inlaws, and would have been on the list anyway, and the mother (and her BF) of 2 of my bridesmaids, who are sisters. Their mother is a very good friend of mine and I met the bridesmaids through her, to begin with. And that is it. 4 adults invited, for our entire bridal party.

Really, if a "friend" of mine gave me hassle/started an argument/got mad for not inviting their family who I'm not close to, they likely wouldn't be a friend much longer.

Stand your ground, especially since you're wanting an intimate affair. You don't have anything to justify to her.

This reminds me of when one of my best friends said to me "don't worry you don't have to invite my parents" and I thought to myself "I wasn't going to anyway!". I love her parents but I'm not that close to them. I don't understand the thought process of some people.

Thank you ladies! I have made a couple of allowances for people I'm not personally close to but are close to my parents or siblings and I thought it would make them happy to have them there. My FH and I are perfectly fine with that so long as they're family friends but I just thought this particular request was out of line. If she doesn't agree then that's fine but with all of your feedback I'm realizing that that is really not my problem.

Stand your ground! Weddings are not family reunions, sheesh. People are bold, I tell ya.

Stand your ground!

Stand your ground, for sure. If they cannot understand why they're not invited, that's too bad for them.

Yeah, your wedding isn't her family reunion-- this is one of the most bizzaro requests I've heard of. . .

Just tell her no, that you are planning a small wedding and do not have the space to accommodate additional people. She should understand.

I can see where you are coming from, my best friends mom married another of my friends dads and they each have two adult children, and they just adopted two (little) children. i had planned on inviting all of them, and one of their STD's got lost in translation and the "step sister" flipped her shit on me! i just sucked it up and told her it was a mistake and of course she was invited, then she had the nerve to ask if she had a plus one..i am not having a small wedding, but i hate having to invite people that i don't necessarily want there. but in your case i would probably stand my ground

Stand your ground! And if she asks why? Tell her that it's your wedding, not hers! Or tell her that WeddingWire doesn't like #askholes

Dealing with this with my mom...nope nope nope nope nope

I have 2 friends where I invited their whole families to the wedding, but they are friends that I've had for at least 15 years and I've been close with their families our entire friendship.

Your wedding is much too close to be giving this a minute of your time lol, just say no and move on.

Try to explain that to her exactly how you said it. You want a small wedding and inviting entire families will make it bigger than you wanted so sorry that cant happen as much as you would love for everyone to be there. Blah Blah lol