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Sara
Expert October 2014

When did your parents meet

Sara, on August 22, 2014 at 12:27 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 47

When did your parents meet FH's parents? We are 51 days out from the wedding and our parents still haven't met yet. I honestly sort of think we may just have them meet at the wedding or the night before if we do anything.

We aren't having a shower so they don't have the opportunity to meet there. We aren't having an actual rehearsal (small beach wedding, no need) but may do dinner or drinks the night before since people are traveling.

FH's father isn't coming to the wedding so he wouldn't meet my parents then if we did just wait.

Honestly, I'm sort of okay with them not meeting. I feel like a dinner out with all of us or a bbq or something would just be awkward. Neither has really brought it up so I don't know if I should or not.

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Latest activity by Zoe , on August 23, 2014 at 7:56 PM
  • Janeen
    Master January 2015
    Janeen ·
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    Probably won't happen till the day of. My parents live out of state.

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  • Gamecock Mrs.
    Master October 2014
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    Every time this comes up, my blood pressure goes up for y'all. Our families vacation together. Met for the first time probably 3-4 months into us dating (7 years ago)

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    Master September 2014
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    FH and my dad used to play music together in several different social situations which means....my dad meet my FH before I did

    Oh I am retarded I am at work and not paying attention...FH's parents and my parents will meet the day of the wedding. lol

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  • Ashley
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    Wow! That seem so strange that they haven't met to me. My parents met FH's parents about 6 months after we started dating (we were 18 when we met) and they wanted to meet each other. Ever since then every couple of months one will invite the other over for a dinner or a coffee. My mom and my FMIL go to coffee all the time together. So I can't imagine them not knowing each other.

    I hope everything goes well when they meet! Smiley smile

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  • Leanne
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    Our parents met after we had been dating a year and half and 2 weeks before our son was born. Our parents live about 6 hours apart so we waited for a time my visited me (I moved in with fh) they have only been together a handful if time since, usually an event for one if our boys

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  • Kristine
    Super October 2014
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    My Dad was lucky to meet FH's family the summer before FFIL passed away. We cherish those couple of hours at the beach and the crappy clam shack where we had lunch.

    Unfortunately Mom met my FMIL and FSIL at FFIL's wake. After that, they saw each other again at my grandpa's funeral - Thank God the third time is going to be my shower!

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  • Pancakes
    Master October 2015
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    Ours didn't meet until 3 years into the relationship. But his family also lives 3 hours away from us, out of state. I bought a condo 20 minutes from my parents when I was 20 years old, and FH moved in with me after 2.5 years of dating. We started planning and looking at rings, so I figured they should meet. So I set up the meeting at our place since his parents wanted to come down to our place, anyways. But I didn't meet his parents until about 2-2.5 years in. Because they were 3 hours away.

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  • Dee
    Devoted December 2015
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    My parents new FH's dad "from back in the day". But since we have been a couple they all officially were "meeting" the day he proposed at his birthday party! It was more of my parents meeting his mom than anything.

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  • DanieGee
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    About a year and a half into dating, FH suddenly wanted our parents to meet. So his parents came down for the weekend and we went out to dinner with my parents.

    That was also when I suspected he was thinking about getting married...!

    A few months ago my parents invited his parents to come down and stay with them for the weekend. While they were here, we went over the ceremony (FFIL is officiating), our moms went through a bottle of wine and became buddies - my mom calls FMIL her "sister from another mister" now.

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  • Janeen
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    I dunno! It doesn't bother me that our families are not close and won't be. I prefer the separation to be honest, even if it was the result of the fact that my parents live 1000 miles away and his parents live 2 hours away.

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  • Lori
    Master June 2015
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    Our parents didn't meet until after we were engaged (mom's in MI, FIL's are about two hours away from where we are in Nebraska). Momma came in to visit, and they drove down for the day to meet her. Well, it was SUPPOSED to be just for a day. They ended up having so much fun they stayed in the night. In my & FH's bed. I slept on a couch with my 6'6 FH and our three dogs.

    Every time the FIL's come down to visit now, I get a mini anxiety attack over that one.

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  • SoonToBeMrsD
    Super September 2014
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    FILs and My family met at my house for Thanksgiving the first year we were together. A lot of my family only speaks italian so it was a little hard, but the ones who spoke English really helped her feel welcome. So happy our families get along, and our moms get along great!!

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  • Northern MN
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    Hmm I met his parents within like 2 weeks of dating and he met my parents the week later maybe...but it took until maybe Fall when we were having an open house for the house we were moving into for them both to meet up. We are very family focused and have had several family gatherings since then. Though funny thing is his parents new my brother before me...but I am not sure that his parents have done a gathering my brother has been able to make since me and my FH started dating. Odd I guess.

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  • Angie
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    My mom and my f/w's mom met briefly before. However, I hate the fact of getting them together for dinner, which is what my fw wants, even before rehearsal dinner. My mom and her mom are like night and day. My mom is uptight and very well mannered, her mom is laid back and wouldn't know manners if they slapped her upside the head! I'm extremely nervous about getting them together, although I agree with my fw that it is important. We have been together for 7 years and my fw and I have only seen my dad once. The brief "run in" my mom had with her mom was when we were pretty much switching vehicles. About 2 min.

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  • Tracy
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    Our parents won't meet until a day or two before the wedding since FH's family all lives in Hawaii and my family is in California. They will most likely not see each other again after the wedding since my dad is deathly afraid of flying (but he is sucking it up for my wedding) and FH's mom has health problems that prevent her from flying.

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  • Mrs.Temme
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    We had a bbq at our house for father's day a month before he proposed. we had been dating for 7 months and it felt long overdue since we are both family oriented. our families now do all holidays together. we all live in LA county, just spread out far from one another

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  • Maltese
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    Our parents just met for the first time last month. We organized a dinner for them all at my mom's house, partly because she wanted to host an open house during the gap time for our guests and wanted FH's parents to agree with her...we had a blast, had cocktails on the patio till 11pm and all got a little tipsy!

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  • Lennox
    Super May 2015
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    FHs parents are divorced and his dad lives out of town so my parents have yet to meet him and likely won't till the rehearsal dinner assuming he attends. Otherwise it will be at the wedding.

    FHs mom met my parents at his graduation celebration and have met a few times since as his mom even joined us for Christmas one year!

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  • Sara
    Expert October 2014
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    Glad a few are saying they won't meet until close to the wedding, although it sounds like most have met pretty quickly. FH and I have known each other for 15 years, been dating 2.5 and still our parents haven't met. We all live within about 7 miles of each other too. I think part of it is, FFIL is a bit of an odd duck and my mother is also slightly odd. FFIL loves to push peoples buttons and my mom is really insecure and has social anxiety (she doesn't get out much at all) so I feel like that is just a possibly bad situation. I wish FMIL and my dad could just meet because they are the normal parents!

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  • Emmy
    Master January 2015
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    I wish sooner. My dad passed away 2 years into our relationship and never got to meet FHs parents. My mom met them last fall.

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