When did you tell Your Employer?

I should say I haven't told FH that they didn't know but I did tell him last month that I was nervous about telling them and he said he trusted me to decide.

They can't fire you for getting married. As far as asking for time off goes, I always say the sooner the better so they have time to plan for your absence. It seems to me waiting until later would only make things 'worse'.

There is absolutely no benefit to waiting to tell them.

You seem to be saying (1) you may leave; but (2) you are not too sure that you can find a similar job close to home. If you are not planning on leaving, I would simply wear the ring and if anyone notices tell them you are planning on getting married. If they press you for information assure them nothing will change. It is not against the law to change your mind later.

I guess I don't see why you wouldn't tell them immediately? What are you afraid of?

Your wedding date is listed as private, so I'm not sure when the date is ... but when you take time off, it shouldn't matter why you're taking it off. Wedding, vacation, visiting family, it's still your time off.

My employers knew right after i got engaged. I was an after hours supervisor then but since getting engaged I have only gone up up up the corporate ladder. Soon I'll be management level. I had no reason to hide my engagement/marriage and I guess I don't get why you would? If you aren't planning to leave then just lay that out. they can't really do anything to you as it is against the law if they try and fire you or anything... best of luck with your decision!

I work for a very small employer and when I take a vacation there is a lot of planning that goes into the time I will be away. I recently took 10 days in March and it was a big hassle. I am not afraid of them firing me. I do a good job and they definatley reward me with bonuses/raises to show that I am appreciated. I think that my fear is that they will think I will be side tracked with the wedding and I am getting ready to start two big projects that will take up the next fiscal year. We are getting married next June which is not normally a good month for me to be gone but one of the reasons we picked it was so that I could get through these two jobs. Honestly they are older men and I just don't see them understanding, but I need to get over it and FunBride I think just wearing my ring and if they ask then they ask attitude. I have loved telling everyone else so it would be nice to get this off my chest.

I teach nonprofit management and I am really curious why you are afraid to tell your board. It seems you are the CEO/ED so you know your board members and know HR policy. Therefore I am really curious about the hesitation and what it stems from.

Edit: We were posting at the same time. Now my solution is Project management. If there is really something to this, be sure to talk to your board chair first. And in that meeting lay out your project management plan(s). Include GANTT charts if necessary. But you are running the risk of them finding out w/o you telling them or waiting too long and them not having confidence in your judgment. As for June and nonprofits, not the best time since you are closing the books, but simply make sure that is part of the project management plan too. PM me if you want some specifics on this.

As a professional, you will not let your personal plans get in the way of your work. You can definitely plan a wedding, without it affecting your work.

Based on your most current post, I think that's all the more reason to let them know Asap so they can plan for your absence.

EDubbsGirl, I have sooooo many charts and egraphs its silly at this point and now I am second guessing because I think I am overworking it. Sat. the President of our Board actually sent me an email requesting simplicity. LOL My Proposal Meeting is tomorrow night and the job is mine so there is no reason to be concerned but I just want them to know I can be present and plan a wedding too. I will be the one to plan my absence so I am not concerned with that side of it. I have almost all of my current years books in order so I usually am on top of my game when it comes to that area of planning. I will keep my ring on tomorrow night and if they ask then we will discuss and if they don't I will work it in somehow.

Only you can judge the situation but if they assume things that you haven't told them that's their fault. If you are thinking of leaving they don't have to know that either. if you say you are getting married then to them you are just getting married. If they decide to act on that information incorrectly then you get heavy on them! haha! Maybe just put your ring on and if a conversation comes up about what your plans are for the weekend say that you're visitng a florist or something for the wedding. Gage how interested they are, maybe if they look shocked and unhappy you can play it down by saying you mum is pretty much organising it all for you! If you can though just be honest and strong and they'll respect you for that.

You need to tell them sooner rather than later.. when I interviewed for my current job, I told them in the interview that I was getting married and taking a honeymoon and they understood. they have the right to know, plus they need to get prepared for you not being there.

In my current job I told them as soon as we picked a wedding date, for two reasons. One because they can prepare for when I'm gone and two because people here start taking time off left and right. I wanted to make sure I got the time I wanted for the honeymoon. Now we'll see what happens if I'm still at this job when the wedding comes..

It's none of their business. Tell them when you are comfortable. You shouldn't have to hide your ring!

I told my employer as soon as I was engaged because they knew it was only a matter of time. Also I was just so excited that there was no way to hide it from them. I didn't even have the ring on my finger because it needed to get sized and I still told them. Also it have given me and them a year to figure out a sub for the week I am gone as it is hard to find subs for an athletic trainer in my area.

When i told my job that i was getting married they acutely started approving my overtime! They are really great about it they asked when the date are so we can be 1st in the books for the time off. (we both work at the same place just different departments)

But truly its not their business just wear your ring if they ask tell them if they don't who cares.

I just got back from honeymoon and learned that I no longer had a job when I was ready to return to work on November 1st after my employer asked me to come back early from the honeymoon BEFORE the wedding took place and we agreed a month in advance I was to take off work from 10/25 - 11/1. I checked the schedule and learned I wasn't on the schedule. I called our main office and they have yet to return any phone calls from me or the State of Missouri where I filed for unemployment. I contacted my local TV station as they told me my dismissal was illegal.