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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

When did you actually start wedding planning?

Lynnie, on October 30, 2019 at 10:05 AM

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How soon after the proposal did you start wedding planning? Did you dive right in the next day? Did you wait a little while to just enjoy being engaged? Did you it take you awhile to get the ball rolling? When did you start wedding planning? Photo from Precision Planning in Murray, NJ

How soon after the proposal did you start wedding planning? Did you dive right in the next day? Did you wait a little while to just enjoy being engaged? Did you it take you awhile to get the ball rolling?

When did you start wedding planning?



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Photo from Precision Planning in Murray, NJ

187 Comments

  • Hailey
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Hailey ·
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    It’s closing in on 5 years since he proposed and we don’t have a date set. We started dating at 15 and got engaged right out of high school
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  • Sarah
    Devoted April 2022
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    I’m glad to see I’m not the only one planning without a ring! I posted on here about it a while back and got really mixed responses that kind of left me feeling like a crazy person.

    We probably won’t do rings and proposals for at least another year, but we’ve both been very seriously set on marrying each other for about 3 years, and now that I’m almost done with school we’ve started actually planning. I’m really relieved to see that I’m not alone in this!!
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  • Erin
    Just Said Yes July 2021
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    Me and my fiance John will have a budget meeting frist with our family's in January 2020. On a different day we will be planning process for the wedding will be next.
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  • Ann
    Devoted September 2021
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    I started planning the same week we got engaged, I feel like there is no “perfect” time to start. My wedding isn’t until September of 2021. I figured if I get most done sooner than later I wouldn’t have to freak out with finding someone last minute!
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  • Sarah
    Dedicated February 2020
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    Honestly I started before he proposed. I was looking at something wedding related and he gave me the greenlight saying he was planning to propose anyway!
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  • Patricia
    Dedicated March 2020
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    Wow you planned 2 months before wedding.... I'm planning 6 months before got venue and dress
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  • Ashley
    Super November 2020
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    I actually started planning before our engagement. We had bee together for 4 years before we got engaged so I knew for a long time that a wedding was coming. I didn't book anything until 5 months after we were engaged though. Smiley heart

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    The day after he proposed LOL I started by creating my Pinterest page to figure out what I wanted

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  • Sara
    Expert February 2020
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    You're definitely not alone..and I don't think you're a crazy person. I also don't understand why a person has to have a ring to plan a wedding? That's what's crazy to me. I can't set a date or book a venue because I don't have a ring on my finger? I didn't want an engagement ring to begin with but FH wanted to get me something nice. I love it but it wasn't necessary.

    Also, I was engaged once before..I was a lot younger and naive. It was a bad relationship with a person who didn't treat me well. I had a ring. We didn't get married.

    Point is..a ring is just a piece of jewelry and isn't the main thing needed to plan a wedding. Two people who want to marry each other is what's important.
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  • Donna
    Dedicated December 2021
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    We waited about 5 months after we got engaged to start planning the wedding. We wanted to enjoy our engagement without adding wedding stress to it. I'm glad we waited because once we told everyone we had started planning, everyone had something to say about one thing or another. If you're in no rush to get married I highly recommend some down time between engagement and wedding planning. Just enjoy yourself as a couple. I was also able to get most, if not all, my planning done in 6 months so now there's no more stress until right before the wedding Smiley smile

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  • C
    Super January 2020
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    We started planning a little less than a month after. I had already been looking at venues online since I knew it was coming but we didn’t actually go look till about a month after.
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  • Mary
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Technically, we started planning immediately after our engagement last November, because he's divorced and I'm Catholic. Even though he isn't Catholic, he needed to obtain an annulment first before we could actually start planning a Catholic wedding. We were warned that it could take a very long time, years even, and it wouldn't even be guaranteed to be successful. The paperwork process was quite the pain in the ass. Further, we couldn't actually commit to any wedding date because we had no idea if/when the annulment would go through.

    Fortunately, we were able to obtain a special type of annulment (because his intention is to marry a Catholic, me) that expedited things along, and we were approved just this past August, thus allowing us to reserve and pay deposits on all of our desired venues and vendors as of last month Smiley smile

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  • Shanise
    Just Said Yes July 2021
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    I started planning the day I got engaged lol
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  • V
    Devoted August 2020
    Valerie ·
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    If I’m being honest, I started planning our wedding before we were even engaged 😂 Once he actually proposed, I hit the ground running in terms of wedding planning. Had everything planned within 6 months.
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  • CourtneyBrittain
    Master August 2019
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    We had talked about many things before the engagement, but we didn't actually actively do anything until early May (about a month after he proposed), and that was when I bought my dress!

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  • Tiffany
    Expert March 2020
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    Right away. Like literally the next day. We we're having an 8 month engagement and I wanted to jump on it as soon as possible. Had 3 major vendors booked within the first 5 or 6 weeks! 5 months away from the wedding now
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  • M
    Just Said Yes June 2021
    Michelle ·
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    A week or so after
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  • Destiny
    Dedicated September 2020
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    We talked about ideas for our wedding far before we were actually engaged. When we actually got engaged (July 3rd 2019) we started planning right away for our September wedding next year! We’ve got the venue booked, florist, DJ, and both hair and makeup application for the big day. I’d say plan whenever you’re ready but don’t overwhelm yourself. Take a break when needed and don’t allow the planning to cause tension in your soon to be marriage. OH and drink lots of wine.
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  • jessiematt
    Savvy September 2022
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    We don't have the most typical relationship because we've been married before. It's a long story, but we married very young and got divorced when we really should have just separated. The first time around I started planning immediately, but there wasn't much to do right away. I just started the guest list and save the dates. I didn't start booking and buying things until 12 months out. Our engagement was around 16 months. This time around I also started immediately, but it's because we only have a few months. Thankfully, it will be a much smaller affair.

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  • Carly
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    No, my fiancé and I did not start wedding planning right after getting engaged. We got engaged in September of 2018 and are actually just starting to plan this month (oct. 2019). We wanted to pay off some debt, move and be more settled in our jobs before starting to plan our wedding. We also are planning on getting married in Spring of 2021 so we have plenty of time in a stress free environment to plan our perfect wedding! We can’t wait!
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