Gina
Beginner July 2021

What’s your comfort level?

Gina, on May 5, 2020 at 8:22 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 57
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Hey brides to be! I’m wondering how comfortable YOU would feel attending a wedding in July? 150 people. Packed dance floor. In a perfect world (or a normal one) I’d be tying the knot on July 12th in Northern NJ and all of my optimistic friends say it’ll be fine by then, don’t postpone! However, I don’t think so. I don’t agree. The last thing I want is for 1. Someone to get sick because of my event or 2. Everyone to be wearing masks. So I ask you, if you got invited to a large wedding this July...would you go?

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Latest activity by Leanne, on May 14, 2020 at 1:53 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Nope. My wife and I are already discussing whether or not we'll attend the weddings we have scheduled this fall.

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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
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    I personally wouldn't attend and or feel comfortable. This is a very challenging time for a huge crowd like that. Just my opinion.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I wouldn’t be attending a wedding that large anytime soon, likely for at least the rest of this year.
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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
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    I would attend. I want to be able to make this choice myself. I'm tired of being locked into my house so I think the idea of partying and having a good time with friends would be wonderful in the summer!!! Time to strop living in fear of this stupid virus!!

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  • Gina
    Beginner July 2021
    Gina ·
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    I feel the same way. That’s why I wanna get an idea because I feel more people are “no” than “yes” :/ I don’t wanna waste all this money for a party only half will attend.


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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Personally, there is no way I would attend a large wedding that soon in New Jersey. I have two cousins getting married this summer – one in July and one in August - and will not be attending those weddings either. From the sounds of it, not even 1/4 of the guests they have invited intend to show 😕
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  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
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    Unfortunately, I’m not sure how likely large gatherings will be at that point. I don’t think anyone can really say what the situation will be like in July to determine if they’re comfortable or not. I know this isn’t the answer you’re looking for but as a guest I would be waiting till around your RSVP date to decide based on the latest info. Best of luck - sorry you’re dealing with this!
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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
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    I totally understand not wanting to waste money. I just have a hard time understanding the reasoning of everything. I think it really depends on your area. The hospital in our area that is the main hospital with a COVID unit is literally shutting down this week and starting business as normal next. So I guess for me I'm kind of over everything in regards to COVID. I would go if it was me, but it's a decision each person is going to have make for themselves.

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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
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    As a fellow NJ resident, that's a no from me. I would be shocked honestly if that would even be allowed. At most, I think Murphy would allow smaller gatherings by that point, but definitely not 150. We've been hit hard, and history shows that the 2nd wave of the 1918 pandemic killed significantly more people then the first wave. This region is going to move slowly on reopening to avoid a surge in cases. We're just now testing the waters with opening parks and golf courses, while other states are starting to actually open things back up.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    That's because social distancing is working. This was literally the goal, to slow the spread. Now that things are reopening and people are running around like nothing ever happened, there will likely be another peak in the virus.

    OP, are things starting to reopen in your area? Will you legally even be allowed to hold an event with that many people 2 months?

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  • E
    Devoted August 2020
    Elle ·
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    I am in southeast PA, near Philly (not IN Philly, but outside), and I would absolutely go if it was allowed.

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  • Trisha
    Super October 2020
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    I Would Go , It's A Personal Choice .

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
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    Yup, but not as fast as I think they should. I am hopeful that the illegal stay at home order will be removed by the Supreme Court in my state today!!! I still have tickets to a concert up in northern Wisconsin in July; still going to go and enjoy myself.

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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
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    Just for comparison: Wisconsin has had a total of 7,964 cases overall according to the CDC website. Here in NJ, the state is reporting a total of 5,328 individuals currently hospitalized for COVID-19, with 1,534 of them in critical care and 1,169 on ventilators. These numbers, which are accurate as of today, actually show a decrease in cases since we are finally flattening the curve. What is happening in NJ and what is happening in many others across the country is like comparing apples to zucchinis.
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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
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    She asked for an opinion I gave it. I get that places are different. I even said that in a previous post. Honestly, I'm so tired of this crap. I don't see the point of stopping everything. A prominent and well respected doctor in our area just penned a wonderful article about why this needs to end; at least for us. I get that every place is different but no reason to put everything on hold forever.

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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
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    I honestly am not ready for a gathering with so many people. At least not until 14-28 days after we “reopen”. I want to make sure there is no second wave which was predicted.


    Do you imagine you and your guests wearing a mask during your wedding? I don’t know how things are in July, and I hope we can live as normal as we used to 😩
    My wedding is still on for 23rd of July, but it’s a destination wedding with no guests, since I always wanted it that way. And honestly I just wait and see for now.
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  • Monica
    VIP October 2021
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    So sorry to say, even though july is 2mo away, I dont see events with 100+ ppl happening. I have a feeling its going to take a while before that number of guests are allowed. I live in California and my guest count is 200+ and im hoping that by October we will be able to at least have 50 at bare minimum. Everything is too soon to say but if I was you I would definitely expect 150ppl is not going to happen. If you are ok with that then keep ur date, if ur not then work on postponing before ur vendors get booked on another date.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Personally, my hubby & would not attend a wedding this summer, or any large event. ☹️
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    We absolutely would not attend (and we have extremely close family in NJ with weddings that were scheduled for this summer, but they have been postponed indefinitely). My understanding is NJ is currently the national hotspot for Covid-19 cases -- overcoming even NYC in infection rates. My beloved aunt, who is a second mother to me, hasn't left her home in Central NJ for more than two months, with family "visiting" her through her living room window and leaving critical supplies on her front porch. I have several cousins who are first responders putting their lives on the line every single day. For those who are all about "free choice" and being "tired of this crap," I wish you well. You have a right to do whatever you want (or whatever your municipality will allow without citing you), but I just saw the results of a national poll that indicates the large majority of Americans are opposed to reopening in our current situation, and most the models suggest things are not going to miraculously improve this summer. If you're concerned about a significant percentage of guests declining your invitation, personally, I'd postpone. I'm sorry. I completely get how hard this is, but you asked for opinions. Good luck! Smiley heart

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  • Laura
    Rockstar September 2020
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    I'm sorry, but no.

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