What's the dress code at your wedding? How did you describe it?

No dress code- I'm letting adults be adults they can wear what they want. The only time a dress code would be acceptable is if the venue has one in place other than that it's rude to have a dress code

I have asked the couple how formal or not I should be dressed. Really appreciate the feedback! Last wedding I went to, they gave me a polite answer. Basically some people are wearing short dresses and some people are wearing long dresses. That was all I needed to get the hint. In Puerto Rico there are some beach/rainforest venues that host fancy weddings so it's not always that obvious. I would hate to be very noticeably over or underdressed.

I agree Jenny! This has been a FAQ for us as well, and our wedding is still 2 1/2 months away. I even have friends sending me pictures of what they plan on wearing and asking if it's okay. I guess that's just how my family and friends do things. I always follow up with the bride or groom or at least check in with others attending.

@Erin Wood

"I even have friends sending me pictures of what they plan on wearing and asking if it's okay."

Yes! We've had one guest ask about evening gowns and another ask about plaid flannel shirts so far to give you a range of what we've been asked about. I thought more clarity would be helpful for everyone.

The number 1 question my guest ask me is, "What should I wear?" I'm having a beach though.

I googled mine, and it says "formal beach attire" , and it gave a description of attire. Hope that helps

@Jenny- I would definitely tell the evening gown person that most people are dressing more casual. What if she hadn't asked? How embarrassing. Now, if she knows she'll be overdressed and still chooses to wear it then that's on her. HaHa!

I do have in the FAQ "what should I wear?" "Colorful cocktail attire"

I will be internally livid if anyone wears jeans to my wedding and instruct my photographer to not let me see any photos with jeans. Of course on the outside I will pretend not to notice and be super nice. But you bet my FH will hear about it the next day *cry-laugh emoji*

I disagree with the whole 'let adults be adults' thing. You don't explicitly tell them what to wear like -FLORAL DRESSES ONLY on the invite lol but you should acknowledge the attire in some form, because people are going to ask.

When people ask you should definitely help them out! I'd stick with saying that it's casual, and love the examples of saying "what you'd wear to a nice dinner" or EW's example of "a lot of people have told me they're wearing nice jeans and a dress shirt". I also think it always helps to give more info for the guys - "ties and blazers not required!"

Our dress code is beach formal. It's at a country club and is oceanfront.

I think the "dressy casual" description is perfect. I had to google options. Try doing a Google search to see what others are using.

BTW...I love when invitations include a dress code. I tend to overdress and don't want to feel out of place. I think it's considerate to include one.

Since people are asking, you should definitely give them a solid response. Many people (including myself) WANT guidelines. If we ask, it's because we have no idea whether to wear a sundress or a gown and don't want to look silly.

For you, I'd say, "Country club casual. Like slacks and a button-up or a sundress with wedges."

I guess it depends where you're from. Where I grew up, weddings were really formal and huge parties. Where I live now, wedding attire is what you're describing. I personally want no jeans or cowboy boots or anything like that at our wedding because I want a more formal wedding so I will have to tell people. If I just "let adults dress themselves" I would not be happy lol so I would just tell them what you'd like: nice jeans, a polo, button up, or sundress are fine.

Semi-formal. I will say you can't make everyone happy, I told my guests that I didn't want them to wear black because it's a wedding not a funeral... There were some

... One... That didn't like that and said they wouldn't attend unless they could wear black. In the end, I just say it's a wedding, dress up. If you'd like ideas, I can always send you images. No one has asked for images, but they ask questions. I just tell them summer colors and to remember it's hot in the summer.

I wrote business casual on the website. However, that means different things to different people and adults can dress themselves however they want to. I trust their judgment.

Honestly, I'd just let people wear what they want.

I would love to be able to tell everyone to dress formal but I decided to just show pictures of the venue on my website and have really formal invitations to help them see the direction I am going in. If someone decided to come in jeans (like my grandfather) I feel on that day I will have other things to worry about and be happy he came no matter what he is in.

I am not sure if I missed it but are they permitted to wear shorts too. I would say business casual. In most cases men still wear jeans but if you are avoiding shorts this might work better.

Do you have a website? I'm putting dress code suggestions in my FAQ section of the wedding website. For my beach wedding, I phrased the suggested dress as "Beach Chic" and then gave some examples of attire for men and women. For you, I'd suggest "Dressy Casual" with some of the examples you mentioned. I would not include pictures.

While it's true that you shouldn't enforce a specific dress code, it's pretty normal for guests to wonder what level of dress is appropriate for the event. People want to fit in and no one wants to be the oddball that's drastically under or over dressed. As long as you phrase the dress code as a suggestion, I doubt people will be offended.

Personally we have said that any type of attire is acceptable besides jeans and a wedding dress (FH friends all all metal band guys so the clarification of jeans is important or else they will wear their 'nice black jeans') on our website- hasn't been communicated to guests yet due to wedding being so far away