What would you do if someone showed up inappropriately dressed?

I think most people know the dress code etiquette behind an evening wedding. If your wedding was known to be less formal and say, in a field or in a barn, then I'd be a little but more worried. But where you're having an evening wedding at a formal venue, I'd not worry a bit. It's very well known amongst society that suits are worn by gentlemen to weddings, and ladies wear dresses.

We had a couple guests show up in jeans and nice tops. I hugged them, thanked them for coming, and was glad to see people who cared about me and I cared about. They said congratulations.

I know lots of people really freak out about this, but seriously--there are way better things to worry about. Not to say you can't advertise a request for some kind of dress code, of course. But don't stress over it, because the point of the day (getting married) is so much bigger and more worth getting excited over.

If I notice, then I will cringe. I guess that's all I really can do! I would just hope that everyone invited is tasteful enough to know how to dress for the occasion without having to be told.

And if they aren't, then they are the ones who will be embarrassed. We have one guest, who is a 50 year old grown woman, telling people she plans to look "sexy" at our wedding. She's a drama queen that likes to get attention. She is the only person that I'm concerned about.

On a related note, my ex and I were invited to a wedding once. He was SUPER immature and refused to dress up for the occasion. I was wearing a cocktail dress. He was wearing blue jeans, an un-tucked button down shirt, and ORANGE Merrell running shoes. He ran a 5K that morning and refused to shower before the wedding. He was the only guest wearing less than a suit there. I was completely mortified. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long, and I also haven't heard from the couple since then. It was just an epic fail.

I'd probably say... "nice ... outfit" and then just move on and forget about it. We were "worried" about a couple people too, but they came appropriately dressed with no shorts or jeans You can't worry too much.

It is sooo unimportant in the grand scheme of things. I was worried as our friends and family are all over the place in job, financial status, style and way of life. My grandfather is a dairy farmer and his family has many professionals and PHD types, While the majority are in the middle I was scared at first as there was no telling. Ours wasn't black tie but I did request cocktail attire on out website! In the end yes there were jeans and yes there questionable outfits and yes there was the over dressed. But I loved each and everyone who attended and they dressed up for them. It was more important that they were there than what they were wearing!

IDGAF what guests wear. It does not matter.

As a bride on your post ceremony high, you will barely notice if someone doesn't meet the dress code. Don't waste worry and energy ahead of time thinking about this. you can't control it. put the dress code on the reception card and then totally forget about it.

I have 4 married daughters. We were exceedingly grateful for the time out guests took out of their lives to attend the weddings. We were far more concerned with the people attending than what they wore. What did we do? We hugged them, welcomed them to the wedding, showed them where the bar was and we visited with them later in the evening!

Our last DD got married in June. Her half-sisters husband showed up in cargo shorts and a plaid shirt. It took a small miracle by the half sister to get him to dress that nicely. Nice guy, well behaved guest, does NOT dress up, ever. We could not have cared less.

I do not understand why people worry about this and why they take the time to judge it. Be happy that your loved ones came to celebrate with you and quit worrying about what they are wearing.

You are not going to have the time or energy to care, in fact I doubt you will even notice very much. You're going to be far to busy with everything else. Hell, I had a male guest show up the reception barefoot! I only heard about it after the fact. *shrug*

If you let this ruin your day then your attention was not focused where it should be.

As long as they dance and have a great time, to each their own. I would prefer they set it apart from any other day throw on my jeans but people are different....

Bigfoot could have shown up to my wedding with his entire Sasquach family and I wouldn't have noticed.

I totally get the type A personality, but this is not something you can control. I didn't notice anything on our wedding day, but when we got our professional photos back, I noticed that one guest wore sneakers (with a nice pants suit). I know she has issues walking, so it certainly didn't bother me... BUT during our first dance, she was standing right by the dance floor and almost every photo of us has her in it. When I see those photos, my eyes immediately go to her first and then us. Nothing I can do about it. I am just happy that she was comfortable and able to enjoy our wedding.

As long as nobody else shows up wearing a white ballgown... I'm good

FFIL is planning on coming in full cowboy attire. Not kidding. Our wedding is on an old family ranch that has been converted into a wedding venue. Nothing about our wedding is "cowboy", but that is what he wants to wear. I have asked him not to, but he is not budging.

In the end he will be the one looking stupid and I'll still be married so I've just let it go.

Edited for spelling.

If someone showed up obviously inappropriately dressed they will likely know it and feel uncomfortable, no need to make them feel any worse. Instead I would ignore it and try to help that person feel a bit more comfortable so that he or she can enjoy the evening a bit.

I have actually been thinking about this a lot as well. I have been to several weddings where I personally felt several people put little or no effort into looking nice. I grew up in a rural farm area, so most have been outdoor weddings with a more casual atmosphere which has always been beautiful while not being very formal. I realize that on the big day what other people are wearing will be the last thing on my mind, but it is something that I want to prevent, I may be socially off sometimes but I know myself and I can foresee feeling offended if I felt that someone put no effort into "Cleaning up" for an important day in my life and they are just showing up for the free food and open bar.

I realize that there may be several reasons why someone may dress more causal, money being one of them. Perhaps it is not in their personal budget to buy new clothes, and that is o.k. Having said that I still feel it is not asking to much to put effort into your appearance.

I do not feel that any of my family or friends from home will actually do that because it has been made clear that we are having a pretty formal event. As long as my wedding party and their dates are dressed in the guidelines I have talked about with everyone I have no control outside of that.

My brothers girlfriend is the only one that really pops to mind and I am adding onto the invitation something along the lines of "Formal Attire Requested" so that everyone who gets an invitation will know that it is a formal ceremony and reception.

For my wedding party I have just asked that the gowns be a specific color, floor length and nothing strapless other than that It can be any shape or cut that makes them feel comfortable and beautiful. Our Mothers and Grandmothers and Grandfather have also been asked to wear floor length dresses and a Tux for my Grandpa.

One guest at my wedding wore shorts. I didn't notice until looking at photos later, and it didn't affect anything at all.

No one cares what your guests will be wearing - all eyes will be on YOU so as long as YOU look beautiful, and I am sure you will, no one will notice. And won't your eyes only be on your husband?

My wedding is at a country club and it's in the afternoon. It has a gorgeous golf course so if people want to play golf before or after and come dressed that way - that's great. I am just happy that my dog can be the flower girl for pictures (and then someone needs tgo bring her home).

I'm terrified that one of my grandpas (who will be giving me away) will show up in jeans, his long sleeve button down and leather motorcycle cut. The most "dressed up" I've ever seen him was our engagement party, where he ditched the cut and wore a zip up sweatshirt. ugh

I was just at a wedding this weekend and some guy wore jeans and a button down shirt. I'm sure the bride noticed because there were only about 30 people there but I don't think she cared. I think we were all just embarrassed for him. The waiters were dressed better than him...