What would you do if someone showed up inappropriately dressed?

Oye. You have a million other things to worry about. Plus if they show up inappropriately dressed then they embarrass themselves. I think that's incredibly rude to ask a friend or family member to leave your wedding because they didn't realize they had to dress up.

I had one couple who came in jeans. Honestly I didn't even notice on the day of and I didn't realize it until I saw them in ONE picture. They were obviously embarrassed because they left right after dinner. They are friends of hubby's who I know didn't know any better. Big deal.

I've had a few people ask. I just tell them cocktail attire. Those who haven't asked, will dress appropriately.

I'm with centerpiece. I didn't notice the couple that wore jeans but I did notice the friend of hubby's that looked like she was working the street corner. I was a little embarrassed for her but not my problem. She's a wonderful girl.

Ripped jeans and stained t-shirts...who are you inviting? The Beverly Hillbiliies?

At my wedding, my two cousins wore shorts and boat shoes, one person wore jeans and my godfather changed out of his suit into his jeans once the ceremony was over.

Did I notice? Yes. Did I freak out or ask the photographer to not get photos of them? No. I love my people and wouldn't make them feel uncomfortable for the world.

You can't control people. You can't dictate what they wear. You can hope that they know, but you can't always count on that. Love them anyways.

Snarky, no they are just assholes who don't care. Their marriages failed so they like protest against others (I don't know why they don't just stay home) but like I said they are distant to me, they were close to my cousins though which is the wedding it happened at. Actually I don't know if they've been invited to any family things since that.

Thank them for coming to celebrate our day with us. My wedding wasn't formal, and I had no 'grand picture' I was trying to achieve.

I wouldn't even notice I'm sure. If it's obviously bad I'll talk.shit with my ladies then as I got drunk probably say to them thanks for dressing like a hobo and laugh.

FH and I actually discussed this as he thinks his sister and BIL may arrive dresses inappropriately. We decided that if that's the case they just won't be in any pictures (there is also a good chance that they will be late. If they are they just have to wait outside of the ceremony area until a convenient time in the ceremony).

First world problems....someone will. Be glad most won't....

With everything going on on the big day, I don't see how you are even going to notice one inappropriately dressed guest. In all the weddings I've been to, I haven't seen anyone noticeably underdressed. I *have* seen a guest wearing a long, white, flowing dress (seriously? like, how badly do you need attention?) and a gal wearing something showing off way too much boobage that would've been more well-suited to Vegas than a sweet wedding in upstate NY. Anyway, there's nothing you can really do in that moment. You'll just have to roll with it and focus on having fun!

I've been to weddings where guys showed up in khaki's and polo's and a girl had on a skin tight dress where you could see her thong line and she wasn't really skinny so her cottage cheese thighs were out in all their glory. Actually, every wedding I've attended there is usually at least one or two people totally dressed wrong. When I first got engaged I was all "OMG NOBODY BETTER DO THAT AT MY WEDDINGAGHADSFJSHDGS but now I don't think it matters too much. Now you just have something to make fun of for years to come!

I'm just putting formal event on the invitation and crossing my fingers. No black tie require but I don't want any jeans or sandals. I've already been called a snob for this!? Really we are all in our 30s. Who doesn't own a pair of dress pants or a dress.

Probably ignore it as it reflects poorly on them, not me

I feel like even if you disclose the dress-type on your invites or website, the type of people that would show up in jeans will overlook that and still dress the way they want.

I have seen very under dressed people at weddings, it does stick out to me but I don't plan to do anything about it at my own wedding. I can't really think of anyone on our guest list that would dress poorly though.

I am surprised at how many people have not witness a guest attend a wedding in jeans and long shirt etc. I just went to a very formal wedding and there was one person (a guy) dresses in timberland boots, jeans and a white tshirt!! I was like "what, you gotta be kidding me"!! The bride didn't say anything but as a guest I was embarrassed for her...crazy!! As others are saying...its the guest that looks bad not you.

Honestly there's nothing you can do so you might as well get over it. They're the ones that end up looking bad so just relax and enjoy your day! I had one girl show up in a very casual (mostly) white romper with her bra straps showing. I had another girl wearing a dress so short you could almost see her ass, plunging neckline with her large breasts hanging out and large cut outs down the side where her fat rolls were hanging out of. They got some attention for it but all from guests saying oh my god I can't believe how trashy they look. To this day I laugh about it when it gets brought up and they showed up in zero pictures

I agree with the majority...don't worry about it. If a photog captures someone in casual dress and it bothers you, don't use/order that photo. At the end of the day, no one will be paying attention to that person. People will be paying attention to you and your FH.

I think it would have been appropriate to suggest what to wear on the invitation, but at the end you shouldn't worry if they do not dress the way you would have wanted them to. We are suggesting that our guests wear black because thats what we want. If someone shows up in blue or purple we wont care. Just enjoy your day and I"m sure you won't notice it.

I wouldn't worry about this. You don't really have control over what others will wear and on the day of you'll be so focused on you and FH that even if someone is in jeans you probably won't even notice. Even if you do notice I hope you'll be so happy that you won't care and won't say anything, it doesn't reflect on you.

I'd probably make a snide comment or two to my mom or one of the bridesmaids, but honestly, what CAN you do? You can't force adults to dress a certain way and with all of the other things and stresses going on that day, I can imagine that there will be other things besides guests attire to stress over that day