What Was Your Worst Guest Experience?

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Geez, that sucks! That is so crazy.

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I hope so too, my fiancé loves his nephews and I know it would hurt him for them to not be there. His brother on the other hand, he's more than happy to get rid of due to his recent actions and behaviors.

View Quoted Comment I'm going to send my save the dates and RSVPs at the same time and when I have all of my RSVPs back, I'll send the invites then. This way no one will show up who isn't supposed to because they won't know where to go lol I also plan on following up with people as well who hasn't responded. I would rather a no show than someone who wasn't counted for to show up.

Both my cousins (and their spouses, so 4 total) came up to us while we were eating, the buffet had just opened, to let us know they were leaving. Because their dog had to go potty. Granted they do live and hr or so from the venue, but come on, at least eat your dinner that we paid for!!! I was a good little bride and didn’t say anything.
We weren’t close before, but I haven’t spoken to them since. My aunt then felt like it was appropriate to invite me to their house warming party(last minute 2 days before). Ha! Hard no.
We also had an uninvited guest show up because apparently he had to drive his parents 🤷‍♀️ (They could have I don’t know, told us their adult child would be coming as well??) good thing we had someone who couldn’t make it last minute (we knew about this one). My husband gave him apieceof his mind and told him he’d just have to find an empty chair. He came up to us, again while we were eating, and said “hey they didn’t have a. Hair for me!” Yeah b/c our DOC busted her but to get him a spot.
Im glad I’m not the only one who has horror stories.

That is crazy about the steamvac

My wedding hasn’t happened yet. But there’s been a few pull my hair of my head moments.
To be fair, we have a descent junior wedding party, my friends 2x sons (both I’m super close to & 1x that I’m his godmother), FH nieces, & my cousin’s daughter. Well my one cousin gave me literal h*ll that I did not invite any kids from my dad side in the wedding. I don’t know the kids well, that cousin doesn’t have kids & I actually asked her if she wanted to be a bridesmaid but she decline bc she was mad that I made my longest friend (like since 3), and how dare I pick friends over family. Lol

Then my entire bridal party went to David’s Bridal & they picked out this dress which was $180 - I was like, that’s really expensive, plus you will have alternations, the $130 dress looks good on everyone, why don’t you get that one. They were like no, we like this one & $180 isn’t expensive. I was like fine, why don’t we buy black, that way you may be able to wear it again (it doesn’t scream bridesmaid dress), them (all of them) no one where these dresses more than once, and $180 isn’t expensive. I go to my cousins house a month later & she does on & on in front of her sister how expensive the dress is - her sister to me that’s really messed up that you picked such an expensive dress. You are absolutely in the wrong. I left so upset.

View Quoted Comment I was thinking the same thing about the family. My mom used to tell me that when I was in my early 20’s but then I realized her gifts are awful & her $$$ figure isn’t correct. So I started saying, I got me - just get you. Now she’s like did you put my name on the card too - I’m like nope, I only gift from me.

Had a close family member RSVP yes and then send an extended/not close family member in her place without asking or letting us know. My Dad found out in the middle of our rehearsal dinner. I know it’s a sunk costs for us, but you don’t just get to send a substitute to a wedding!! They live like 6 states away from where our wedding was. To top it off, this substitute guest couldn’t even remember my 🤬 name and kept calling me by different names every time he wanted another cell pic of me at my wedding.🤦🏼‍♀️
One couple apparently got far too tipsy and started fighting with each other. They left early enough that we didn’t notice but our friends who were at their table told us months later about it.😂

Wedding hasn't happened yet, but my mother has declined to come, and she made her entire family decline as well.
My family was the bigger family, so that means about 30 people RSVP'd no... most after the RSVP date... without talking to me, their cousin (!!!!).... a lot of them just didn't respond, so I marked them as no. They did this so late, I couldn't invite other people I wanted, but had cut from the guest list, to accommodate my family. One cousin has sent a card, to both FH and me, and also a letter, to just me. I have not opened the letter.

(Given my history with my mother, I've now blocked her across all contact platforms. Social, cell, email.)

Also, FSIL has been weird about this from the start, basically isn't talking to me, and this is FH's one blind spot. He doesn't quite seem to see her behavior for what it is.

We had an "emergency" wedding last weekend...or as my husband likes to call it, our shotgun wedding (no I'm not pregnant)... we are still doing our big celebration as planned in November but MIL has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and we don't know if she'll make it to November so we wanted to make sure she could see her baby boy get married. It was a small, immediate family only, informal thing in their back yard so she would be comfortable and have anything she needed, plus had her own bed to go lay down in if she needed to.

MIL's family basically doesn't talk to her because my husband exists... long story but basically there was an affair involved in the middle of her marriage breaking up and my husband was the result. So, one of her brothers came up to visit a couple of weeks ago so he could clear his conscious and we (both myself and hubby) met him for the first time. Something came up about the wedding and he basically invited himself and no one had the heart to tell him no. He goes home and tells his adult daughter who then asks hubby's sister if she can come with possibly her 2 kids if baby daddies won't take them for the weekend. I put my foot down... this was not going to be a family reunion... this was MY WEDDING! I have aunts and family that I am close to that aren't coming and now these randos who we've never met and don't talk to my MIL because my husband exists are going to be there... I think not!

The uncle still came with his wife, who we both met for the first time ever, the day of...but at least the cousin didn't. They are all invited to the celebration in November but I just feel like his presence at such a small, intimate event, given that he really wasn't even there to celebrate us, was just inappropriate.

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Interesting, I've never heard of that. What about guests that can't commit that far in advance?

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OMG! That is rude. Like get a dog sitter! They weren't the only guests at the wedding with a dog. And that is crazy they didn't think they would have to tell you their son was coming.

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That is SO rude! Especially after they insisted on the dress. I'm so sorry!

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That is crazy! Especially for a close family member not to ask or tell you?

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I'm sure you'll still have a wonderful day with the family & friends that love and support you!

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That is odd! That wasn't a great time for this big reunion for sure.

View Quoted Comment I don't plan to send them until about 6 months before my wedding (I actually am not a big fan of save the dates but my fiance is so that's why I'm doing it this way) but I will make the deadline to return about a month and a half before the wedding. This way, it gives time to figure out if they can or can't make it and make arrangements. Of course I'll follow up closer to the date for people who haven't responded. I would rather someone tell me they are coming and don't show up than to not say anything or say no and then show up anyway and inconvenience me and my guest

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That's typically when brides send save the dates I think. Interesting!

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OMG! I probably woulda dragged her right out of my wedding with her messed up attitude. Good for you cutting her off!

We had about 3 people show up that did not rsvp but it was an easy fix. My Husband's friend's girlfriend who is a Narcissist and Jealous and Envious of me complained that there were a few kids at my wedding, And she kept going over to the sweetheart table which was off limits and kept touching my bouquet like a weirdo.

We had 15 no shows. FIFTEEN. A family of four told us a week ahead with a bogus excuse (not like we could do anything about it then), but the rest have been silent.