MrsD
Legend July 2019

What Was Your Worst Guest Experience?

MrsD, on August 20, 2019 at 2:38 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 65
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What was your worst experience with guests at your wedding (or before or after)? I love to hear these, they make me laugh!


I have three...

- One just no-showed. No apology, no text or call. Liked all our wedding pictures, didn't say anything about not coming? He also didn't send in his RSVP so we had to reach out TWICE to which he said "Oh yeah! Of course I'm coming"....What???

- An entire family left BEFORE THE RECEPTION. We are talking 5 adults and 2 kids. Over $700 worth of food & drinks & dessert & linens & china. So crazy! The mom sent me a half-a** apology the next day (none of the other 4 adults said anything) saying her husband has type 2 diabetes and got hungry so they had to leave. What????? Our cocktail hour started at 6:15 and we had 4 passed appetizers & a stationary appetizer (plenty of meat, carbs, cheese, veggies, fruit, etc.). Guests sat at 7 to a plated salad on the table, and ate by 7:30? What were they expecting? It was two older adults (60s or so) and their 3 adult children. The older adults gave us a card & some cash, nothing from the 3 adult kids even though they are all over 30 and two have children of their own. I am still super offended and have no interest in future contact with them. Also, we had two other adults with type 1 diabetes, they managed to bring insulin AND eat before the wedding AND bring a small snack (like they always do because they obviously KNOW THEY HAVE DIABETES).

- A woman invited to my shower, said she was attending, told my mom the morning of she couldn't go. She bought a Shark Steam Vac ($70 or so), never gave it to us. Said several times she would drop it off at my house or my moms, never did. Bought us a wedding present, came to our wedding. No Steam Vac....so I texted her asking about it almost 4 weeks post wedding (we bought the rest of our Amazon registry after the wedding) and she said "I'm so sorry, I gave it away. I actually bought one for myself too. Your wedding was beautiful though." So she straight up just kept the vacuum for herself and is currently using it! What the...! Her buying it & not giving it to us made it so no one else bought it for us. Our registry had an option to ship it to our house, and she lives 30 minutes from us. INSANE.


I can't wait to hear your stories!

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Latest activity by MIWM, on August 22, 2019 at 8:41 AM
  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    Girl that family would've had steam coming out of my ears, that's so rude! Obviously I haven't had my wedding yet, but at my sisters wedding her MOH left right after the wedding party was introduced at the reception! Her reception venue didn't allow alcohol so she left with a few other guests to go to a bar Smiley amazing Needless to say, they were not friends after that lol

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    I have a severe nut allergy. Like if you chopped almonds on the same cutting board as my salad I’m going full Violet Beauregarde. I was at a DIY-ed catering where the family made the food. I had some potato salad that was cross contaminated. I immediately felt myself closing up. My epi pen was in the car so my husband had to run to grab it. In the mean time we had to call 911. The brides aunt took personal offense and told everyone I was being dramatic.

    Orrrrr my mom and I ended up in the hospital from food poisoning after a family DIY-ed the food at their wedding. My mom was much worse than me and was in the hospital for 10 days.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Right? It was obviously a lie too or a very poor attempt at getting his diabetes under control. He is 60 and has always been severely overweight, why wouldn't they carry snacks or eat prior? They even told the groom's mom before they left that they ate on the way down to the wedding? I don't know, the whole story seems very fishy. I'm just hoping when we get our PRO pictures back a huge section of the table being empty doesn't look weird!

    OMG really? That's insane! I could see leaving after dinner, cake cutting, speeches, garter toss & bouquet toss (it's hard for me to dance at weddings without alcohol) but in the beginning of the reception is so rude!

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I have a daughter from my previous marriage. She’s almost 7 and will be our flower girl. Because we wanted the day to be about us and our becoming a family, she’s the only kid in the wedding. All other kids are invited, just not participating. One of FH’s aunts had the audacity to say that because we aren’t including any of the kids from his side of the family (her grandson is really who she was referring to), he won’t be represented by any kids during our wedding. Ummm lady he’s the flower girl’s stepfather. She also said she can’t wait til we get married and have a baby so he’ll get to “experience becoming a dad” 🤔 thought he already was but ok.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    DIY catering is always scary. I was in a wedding in 2013 that did DIY catering (Hawaiian food). My chicken was UNDERCOOKED and I found a hair in my macaroni salad. Needless to say, I didn't eat anything and went to in n out after! I am super anti-DIY food at weddings for that reason especially. You never know with allergies or food safety issues. I've only been to the one DIY thankfully!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    What?! That is insane! No one just includes every niece/nephew/child they know in their wedding party. Yeah some people are just rude & disrespectful to the whole stepparent thing, it's insane!

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    On my mom’s side we have a handful of Mennonite and Amish family members who prefer to do it themselves. I’ve learned to pack a large purse filled with safe food and beers/mini wines for those events
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    That is a SUPER good idea! Yeah if I think it may be DIY, we always eat before enough so we at least can barely eat during the reception or make it to dessert (or to a fast food restaurant after the wedding) haha!

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    Right?! If we included every young kid in our families, there’d be 7 kids in our wedding. No thank you!
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    And if you aren't close to the kid, that's SUPER weird to include them!

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    I also got a handful of no shows -_- and then I got two kids unaccounted for and one of the guests was like "um I hope you don't mind that I brought my daughter" ... What am I supposed to say to that when she's like a five year old and already here? I invited the family too as in I invited the couple WITH the daughter but they're the ones who RSVPd just for the couple and no kid. LUCKILY they sat at a table with an open spot since I did have a few open seats here and there. Omg and one of the guests I thought was bringing a plus one but then IT TURNS OUT HE WAS JUST RSVPING FOR ANOTHER INVITED GUEST BUT HE PUT DOWN A DIFFERENT NAME FOR THAT PERSON. THE HELL?! So in the end it was a wasted seat because that other person had RSVPd for himself since he got invited and I had thought it was a totally separate person -_-
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    We only got one true "no show" but I almost count the family that left after the ceremony as no shows too since that is where all the cost is! We didn't have any unaccounted for, I would have freaked out since we had a full seating chart and no open seats haha!

    That is so crazy! Why would they put a different name?! What????? UGH!

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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
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    I went to a wedding last year where the groom's family had an aunt who clashed with the rest of the family. She lives in the area (the wedding was at a family friend's massive house who runs a bed and breakfast there) and they purposefully didn't invite her and tried to avoid her even knowing about the wedding. Somehow she found out and showed up uninvited, and the coordinators ended up setting up an extra chair in the back behind all the rows that were already set up. She spend most of the ceremony complaining that she was told never to wear black to a wedding but that some of the girls in our group (who were sitting in the row in front of us) and the bridesmaids were wearing black dresses. Needless to say she got shuttled back home after the ceremony.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    OMG! That is crazy. Family drama is so hard with weddings, at least they got her to leave after the ceremony!

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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
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    Not married yet but I've had a family member TELL ME that my cousin was going to be a usher in MY wedding! This person didn't ask but TOLD ME and usually I would be like "yeah okay cool!" but in this case he is an only child who is 11 never gets told no and cries if he doesn't get his way so he was jealous because two of the younger kids in the family are the ring barrer and flower girl so he felt left out. I had to put my foot down and hope they understand we already have our ushers picked out and he is not one of them. It may be a little selfish of me and immature but if they would have ASKED instead of telling me who was going to do what in a wedding FH and I have completely paid for ourselves, maybe I would feel a little differently about the situation.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    What? That's insane! Good for you for standing up for yourself. It's your wedding, so you & your fiance get to pick the people in it!

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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
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    It wouldn't be so bad but he never gets told no and this world is too harsh for a child to always get their way. My cousins wedding a year ago my Grandmother and Aunt refused the usher assigned to escorts them to their seats for this exact same reason and specific child. Instead they took it upon themselves to have this child escort the both of them to their seat and didn't tell anyone about it until it was happening so the ushers were super confused on what was going on
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    OMG really? At least you aren't the first person who hasn't let him be an usher! It's completely unreasonable for sure.

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
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    My husbands cousin responded that he wasn’t coming to our destination wedding and that morning he showed up. Of course he had no room and no seat at the reception. The hotel was full so we were scrambling and stressed. He is such as a$$ that I should have expected it. Ugh
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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
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    I agree! That is literally the one thing that is bothering me most about my wedding and also the fact that I won't know if it happens or not because I won't be out there at that time
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