What traditional things are you not doing?

I'm super interested in this form topic. So, I'll be reading along. Don't mind me🥰.

Just realized I spelt forum wrong😣. Stupid auto correct.

-2 flower girls and 2 ring bearers
-our daughter will be a junior bridesmaid and she will be walking down by herself after the maid of honor
-we’re getting married at a a local building that’s used for a farmers market. The ceremony and reception will be at the same place
-our food will be self-served
-my best friend will be taking our pictures (she is building her portfolio and gave us a killer deal!)
-we are skipping the wedding garter dance and toss
We are renewing our vows and celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary so much of the ceremony will be worded differently.

We're aren't married in a church.

My dad isn't walking me down the aisle, my sister is.

We are having a friend officiate.

My fiance and I have lived together for a year.

No garter toss.

I won't be wearing heals with my dress, probably converse.

The only real "traditional" thing I really want to make sure we do is not have a first look. Idk why but I'm really against them.

Not getting married in a church and ceremony and reception are at the same place
No bouquet/garter toss
No floral centerpieces
No ring bearer or flower girl
Uneven bridal party
We're all wearing ChucksSpending the night before together Buffet instead of plated
We're having people sign leaves on a tree print out instead of a traditional guest book
Serving sheet cake
Only beer and wine
No honeymoon
No bridal shower

So many non traditional things
* Were not getting married in a church
* No flower girl or ring carrier
* No flower toss or garter toss
* Only having immediate family invited
* Polaroid Guest Book
* Maybe no mother son dance or parents dance (his parents are divorced)
* Were only having a Maid of Honor & Best Man
* We live together and will be buying a house before our wedding

I guess the biggest thing is we eloped last year and are having our reception on our one year anniversary.
No rehearsal dinner.
We are having a first dance and one layer of cake for us to cut. I think that's about it for traditions lol.

We do have a wedding party but it's uneven (3 on my side, 2 on his).

No other traditional dances.
No plated meal, buffet stations.
No bouquet/garter toss.
No toasts.
We're doing pictures beforehand so we don't delay the celebration.
6 min JOP "ceremony" on the beach. Reception right across the street.
No "kids" at the reception other than our own but they're not really kids...our youngest is 11.
No formal seating.
Cupcakes, not a wedding cake.

No cocktail hour.

I'm sure there are more...........

We are doing a ceremony only, no reception. We will just be "taking our families out to dinner and footing the bill". Seems a heck of a lot cheaper than having something catered.
No FG or RB
No father-daughter dance. He doesn't dance or like big crowds with attention on him. DEFINITELY No garter or flower tossing.
No DJ-I plan to walk down the aisle to a song, and then we walk back down to a song, and that's it!
Both BM's are MOH
We will be spending the night together since neither of us sleep well without the other.
Probably a whole bunch more, but I'm drawing a blank

I am not having someone walk me down the aisle.

We are not getting married in a church.

We are not doing a "first look," although that's not technically traditional.

We are not doing a send-off (I don't think).

We are having a buffet dinner.

I am not wearing a veil.

We are using silk flowers versus real flowers.

We will not have equal bridesmaids/groomsmen.

May not have a ring bearer or flower girls.

View Quoted Comment That’s how I wanted to our wedding and reception! Open wedding ceremony because our guest list is ridiculous and then a private reception. I got blasted! They will all get invites and hopefully some will rsvp they cannot come. I wish I had your balls! Lol! But we are making it work!

We are not having a flower girl or a ring bearer.

My my father has passed away, so my 2 grown daughters are walking me down the isle.

Both Th his parents are deceased as well, so we won’t be having a father daughter dance, or a mother son dance.

No DJ, venue too small Using a blue tooth speaker with my Apple Music play list.

No bouquet/garder toss.

Having buffet style dinner.

no children

I am not wearing a veil. I am not wearing fancy shoes. I am not handing out favors.

Well. We’re flying to Vegas alone to do the job. 💪🏻 So nothing traditional really other than the vows and ceremony itself.

View Quoted Comment Too funny! Yeah, I already had some people make a comment or two but a majority are understanding! I’m kind of excited to shut people down, shrug my shoulders and say “you wanna pay for it?” 😂 Who cares about tradition or what everyone else does or expects? In the end, it’s OUR wedding and we can make it whatever the heck we want! 😇😇

We are not having rehearsal dinner, ceremony and reception at the same venue, only having a MOH and Best man, thinking no parental dances, no garter toss, no first look, no ring bearer, no children other than the Flower Girl but she won't be at the reception.

FH and I are eloping at the valley of fire in Nevada!

We are staying in the same place leading up to our ceremony, we have no bridal party or flower girl/ring bearer (although we are inviting a few people), having a separate ceremony a couple weeks after we get home for all of our family and friends.

* Ceremony and Reception in same venue

* No flower girl or ring bearer

* No toasts

* No garter toss

* Wedding is on a Sunday

* Buffet style dinner

* No head table, sweetheart table instead

* No assigned seating

I'm sure there's more, but that's all I could think of for now

-Getting married at a restaurant
-no flowers
-no ring bearer/ flower girl
-no bouquet / garter toss
-probably no wedding cake lol

We are doing a first look before the ceremony.

We (unless my brother changes his mind) aren't having a ring bearer or flower girl.

My dad and my grandpa both are walking me down the isle.

I'm dancing with both my dad and my grandpa for the father/daughter dance. (doing like a minute long with each of them)

We aren't doing a garter/bouquet toss, instead we are doing the shoe game.

Most untraditionally though, we aren't going on a honeymoon right after. We are getting married in February and aren't honeymooning until October/December.

Our ceremony and reception is in the same venue.
We are skipping the bouquet/garter toss.
A friend is officiating.
Not using a professional photographer unless a friend volunteers.
Not having flowers unless I put bouquets together myself.
Not having a huge cake. Just small one to cut and sheet cake in the back.

I'm sure there will be more that we are cutting out.