What traditional things are you not doing?

I’m planning to have our son walk with me down the aisle too. I met my dad for the first time when I was 17 and we’ve never been close. I also contemplated walking alone.
We are having the ceremony and reception at the same venue, outdoors at a group campground on a reservoir in the mountains.
We are not having any kind of religious elements in our ceremony because my FH is atheist, though he was open to including some of my beliefs I felt it may make his family uncomfortable. We’re also planning to ask a friend to officiate.
I haven’t picked a dress, but I really love black lace dresses so that’s a possibility.
We are planning to do a first look.
We aren’t planning a bouquet toss or garter toss.
We’re undecided about that traditional dances, FH’s parents are both deceased and I’m not close to my dad- I suggested we dance with our kids who will be 6 and 5.
Im sure there are other things, we’re not particularly concerned with following tradition.

No engagement party or bridal/ wedding showers
No rehearsal or rehearsal dinner
Possibly no attendants
No children. Which means if I have "flower girls", I'm probably going to ask my two grandmothers
No bouquet toss
No DJ or band; Spotify playlist instead
No heels; either sandals or barefoot
No church; ceremony and reception at the same place
S'mores for dessert instead of cake
Possibly will have my cousin officiate
No signs
No assigned seating
Buffett, not plated
Beer and wine, no liquor
No stationary; we live overseas, so we'll do everything online
Haven't decided if we'll spend the night before together, but I know I at least want to have coffee together in the morning before the day starts

No one is invited to our wedding.
No one will walk me down the aisle.
We do not have bridesmaids or best man.
We will travel to another country to be married.
We are not being married in a church.
We are not doing any tosses, dances, no reception.
No ring pillows or bearers.
We will eat together at a nice restaurant after.
We haven't thought about dessert yet

We are having an unwedding-wedding for sure.

No theme or matchy color scheme

No wedding hashtag

No bridal showers or rehearsal dinner

No staying apart the night before

No attendants, flower girls, or ring bearers

No florist, there will be flowers my sister and I will do them ourselves

No guestbook

No presents

No giving me away, myself down the aisle

No traditional wedding dress (though it is white)

No updos

No wedding jewelry

No tuxes, maybe no ties or jackets either

No church wedding, getting married outside, barefoot under a tree

No fancy venue either, big artsy rustic house on 10 acres in the hill country we have for the whole weekend, dogs included

No unity sand/candle etc...

No minister, friend is officiant

No script, vows and ceremony written by us or friend

No cocktail hour, just some snacks and drinks

No bouquet/garter toss

No first dances

No DJ/club/dance music we'll do a playlist for dinner and a chill southern rock style band for later

No fancy served dinner, bbq buffet all the way, ribs and brisket and sides

No signature drink, just sweet tea and lemonade

No bar, keg of beer and some bottles of wine

No wedding cake, tiny pies for dessert

No send off, we are staying at the venue for the weekend

I'm sure there's more but essentially we are throwing a big bad ass backyard party where two people get married first. However there will be a photographer because at the end of the day, that's all you have left and that's worth it to spend the money on to me (I also worked as a 2nd shooter/wedding photographer a decade ago so I am a little biased)

No church, Fiance's grandpa is officiating, no garter or bouquet toss, no alcohol, taco and nacho bar, no make up, no ring bearer ect, my sisters and sisters in law aren't in my bridal party, no first dance. We live together already.
The bride is paying for everything and the groom is changing his name

We will not be doing the following:

traditional vows (we are writing our own)

mother/son dance isn’t gonna be a thing.

Traditional colors.

Ceremony not in a church.

I actually ended up opting for more traditional things than I ever thought I would... but so far our non-traditional stuff would be:

*No bouquet/garter toss

*Non-religious ceremony

*No Speeches (unless someone feels so compelled...)

*My grandpa will walk me down the isle

*Spending the night before together

*BBQ Buffet

*No children

*No actual rehearsal (but FMIL may be hosting a rehearsal dinner)

*Non-traditional guest book (having them sign branches of a pine tree print from etsy)

*My mom and sister are walking me down the aisle.
* I'm not carrying a bouquet.
* Step father is officiating
* No garter/ bouquet toss
* No wedding favors
* 2 of my bridesmaids are in their 70's

I am not doing a garter toss, I have more than 1 flower girl, no ring bearer, and 2 of my "bridesmaids" are male.

Ceremony and reception at the same venue.
No father/mother dances.
No cake cutting, garter, or flower stuff.
No rehearsal or associated dinner.
MOH and BM only wedding party plus a flower girl.
Judge officiant.
Debating anyone walking me down the aisle - likely will not happen.
No bridal shower.
RSVP online/cell phone.

The only really traditional pieces are: he won't see me until I walk down the aisle and we are doing a first dance. Oh, and despite thinking I wouldn't be, I am wearing an actual bridal gown.

* We're not having a flower girl/ring bearer
* Our ceremony/reception are at the same location (didn't know this was untraditional!)
* I'm not wearing a wedding dress, instead I'm wearing a jumpsuit
* My FH has already seen me in my jumpsuit - he helped me try it on
* I have a bridesman
* We're doing a first look (also didn't know this was untraditional)
* No welcome bags or favors (waste of money, IMHO)
* Not serving liquor
* No wedding cake
* No bouquet or garter toss
* No children
* No formal send off
* I'm using wood flowers instead of real flowers
* I was the one who picked my engagement ring. We got engaged together so no formal/surprise proposal

I'm sure I'm forgetting a bunch of things because we still have so long to go, but that's what we've planned so far!

No church
ceremony and venue same spot
we are doing a first look
no bouquet or garter toss
no best man just 3 groomsmen ( I have 2 BMs and MOH)
no boutonnières for the guys
2 flower girls and 2 ring bearers
I am wearing sneakers under my gown

No church
no ring bearer or flower girl
We’re staying together the night before
No guest book
No favors
No alcohol
No dances
No speeches
I’m sure there’s more that I can’t thyroglobulin right now.

I’m glad to see that I’m not the only one!!
1. Not wearing a traditional dress... it’ll be red, still haven’t bought it.
2. No father/daughter—son/mother dance
3. No father walking me—walking alone or brothers
4. No ring bear or flower girl
5. No old, new or borrow (I think that’s how it goes lol)
6. Not getting married in a church—we are not religious
7. Im not changing my last name
8. No garter/bouquet toss
9. No wedding favors
10. No veil
11. No first dance
12. No first looks
13. No children
im sure I’m forgetting some, but that’s it so far!!!!

We are getting married in a church that can't have normal services ( think that is non-traditional?)

We are not inviting everyone to the ceremony that is invited to the reception.

We are doing a first look and what not before.

Buffett dinner (because it's amazing)

No kids invited to the wedding (except the for nephews and the one flower girl who is my bridesmaid's daughter)

There will be 4 girls on my side and one guy on his side.

Hoping to do as little of a religious ceremony as possible. (I want it 15 min max)

We are going on a party bus after the ceremony and going bar hopping (wedding at 2, reception at 6) (we will also be stopping by our house to let our dog out in between )

We will not have gift opening the next morning with anyone

We are not going on a honeymoon right away.

- No bouquet toss
- No garter toss (seriously why did that even get started?)

- We're having a flower girl and a ring bearette.
- I'm sneak wearing my cowgirl boots since no one will see my feet anyway. No one else is wearing boots though it is a country/elegant style wedding.
- My boots aren't wedding boots, they're the ones I've made memories in.
- Parent dances will happen simultaneously and mid-song parents will hand us back to each other.
- Both parents are walking me down (a nod to my Jewish heritage)
- My dad is FH's best man
- My brother is FH's groomsman (needless to say, FH got close to my family haha)

We did not do a bouquet or garter toss, no favors, no church wedding, our officiant was a local radio DJ, we did a small cutting cake with cupcakes, our guestbook was a football jersey, we had no flowers in our centerpieces, and we had no ring bearer (he told us no!) or flower girl.

NO: wedding party, favors, first look at the aisle (we took first look pics--amazing), dad walking bride down the aisle (walked w/ hubby), kids, garter/bouquet toss, "something borrowed/blue" anything, flower centerpieces, DJ/dancing.

Two years after our wedding...still happy with these decisions!

-we also aren’t having our wedding in a church
-we also aren’t having the parental dances, no first dance
-we aren’t having a flower girl or ring bearer
-we aren’t doing the cake cutting
-we aren’t having limos
-we aren’t doing the bouquet toss or garter toss (FH does want to take it off tho 🤦🏾‍♀️🙈 lol)
-we are having no children
-didn’t send out save the dates
-BMs aren’t having traditional bouquets
-family style meal
That’s all I can think of so far lol

You rebels are great!! I’ll add to mine. We’re also not going on a honeymoon, no engagement party or showers, we will likely spend the night before together.