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Just Said Yes December 2019

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Emma, on December 29, 2019 at 8:26 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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My fiance's uncle, the uncle's girlfriend, and two children just showed up to our welcome party. The uncle and girlfriend were invited to the wedding, but not the children since we are having an adults only reception. The uncle shares custody of his two sons and he has them for the holiday so he decided not to attend our wedding because he wants to spend time with his sons which is totally understandable. My husband's aunt (the uncle's sister) came from Florida for the wedding. The uncle decided to come to the welcome party because he hasn't seen his sister in a few years. He also wanted wish us well. He drove 1.5 hours one way to attend the welcome party. I feel really guilty now because he can't attend due to his children. He hasn't said anything to make me feel guilty, but I do. This was my first time ever meeting him. Part of me wants to see if I can add for more people to our wedding to allow the uncle to attend, but I'm worried the other guests will get upset because we didn't allow other children. Should I just let it go or what would you recommend?

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on January 3, 2020 at 7:32 AM

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Caytlyn · on December 29, 2019 at 8:54 PM
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I wouldn’t make exceptions for some people and not others.
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Rose · on December 29, 2019 at 10:14 PM
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If it’s important to have them come then have them come. It’s your day do what you want. If someone else really will get upset that they couldn’t bring their kids, they will get over it.
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Victoria · on December 30, 2019 at 6:37 AM
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I agree that if it’s important to you, invite them but if not that’s okay. Maybe he‘s fine with only attending the party. Normally I would say don’t allow the kids because it’s a can of worms which is what I told my guests. But you technically didn’t invite the kids, it was an impromptu visit. My cousin had a no kid policy but the bride’s sister brought the kids anyway. If kids show up, you can’t really turn them away and I’d say this situation is pretty similar. You could also try and offer a babysitter for the kids to keep it adult only but it sounds like it’s pretty short notice if you decide to invite them.
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Clíodhna · on January 3, 2020 at 7:32 AM
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Hey there, Emma. I hope you had an amazing wedding day. What did you decide to do about this situation in the end?
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