What to do with my ushers?

I ran out of characters! If I don't have my ushers do anything in the ceremony is that wrong? What if I just have them hand out programs at the door or direct people to the ceremony before the wedding? Should I have them show people to their tables at the reception? I will have assigned tables at the reception during dinner because there is limited space. The room has to be flipped when we add the dance floor so a lot of tables will disappear so I'm not really worried about people not liking their tables.

I'm having the ushers seat people to help make sure the sides are balanced. Otherwise my side would be full and FH empty. My ushers are also the ones unrolling my aisle runner after the bridesmaids walk up and it's my turn.

ETA: go cats! I'm originally from ky and will be getting married there too!

Both of our ushers are friends, not family members, yet they will still be seating our mothers and grandmothers. There is no rule that says that the mothers have to be seated by a blood relative. I've seen weddings where the groom and groomsmen seats his respective mother and, in my opinion, it looks kind of chaotic with them walking them up the aisle, then going back down the aisle to get with the rest of the groomsmen, and then walking down the aisle again, which is why I refuse to do it that way and will just have the ushers do it. We'll also be having a similar sign at ours, so our ushers will only be seating guests if they request to be seated (most likely the older guests). If you are having programs, they could hand those out as guest take their seats. Your ushers could also usher each row out of their seats, so everyone is not jumping up to exit at the same time. If you are having any music played via ipod or CD, they could man that. You could also have them take on tasks that a personal assistant might otherwise take, such as if you have any last minute errands the day of that needs to be run, they could do that.

I think I will do that. Thanks for the ideas!!

I don't understand what you mean by "I had 2 too many groomsman". The groom is supposed to choose the GM, not you. And why are you asking them to be ushers? Were they already told they were GM and then you demoted them to ushers? If so, that was rude. If your fiancé wants them to be GM, then they should be. There is nothing wrong with uneven sides in wedding parties. It happens all the time and looks fine.

If they haven't been asked to do anything, and your fiancé doesn't want them to be groomsmen, then they can just be guests. You don't have to find a job for them.

Actually, my fiance changed his mind and didn't want one of them to be a groomsman but wanted him to still be more than just a guest. His wife also preferred him to be an usher because she wanted him to be able to sit with her and their twin toddlers during the ceremony. The other groomsman decided with his wife being a bridesmaid and his daughter being a flower girl and him having a newborn baby, he asked to just be an usher. Thanks.

Ok then, it was rude of your fiancé to ask him to be a GM and then demote him. And your post actually says that *you* asked them to be ushers because there were too many groomsmen. Nothing about one of them deciding on their own. So your story has changed.

I obviously didn't have enough characters to explain that in my original post, plus it's really none of anyone's business why.

Geez Emily, pedantic much? She's asking what the responsibilities of the ushers should be, how they came to be ushers is irrelevant. OP, to answer your question, I think you're over thinking it. It's fine to just let them hand our programs, greet guests and direct them to the seats as they arrive at the ceremony. The ushers don't "have" to do anything more than that unless you want them to.

Thanks! I am doing DIY programs right now and I think I will do exactly that. I believe I was over thinking it way too much!