What to do with guests who DONT RSVP?

I would give it 4-5 days after your deadline. Some people pop it in the mail on the day it's due.

I wouldn't do it the day after. I don't know when your RSVP date is, but I'd wait about four days for the stragglers responses to hit your mailbox. That's more than fair. Then I'd get on the phone.

And hey, kudos to you for taking the high road. I know it's extremely frustrating because just about everything has been done for them. It takes a pen, checking off a box and writing in a number, putting the card is stamped envelope, and putting it in the home mailbox for pick-up. I do it immediately -- I don't even look at the RSVP date. It's an expensive affair, and people should do the right thing.

Honestly at the end of last week we had over 59 families equaling 143 people not responded and they had a week. Ours were set up for online rsvp for almost every single one of them and still nothing was rolling in, nothing. We started contacting them this week. Cone to find out my invite list on ww was not fully correct so we actually had some 160 people outstanding. We got it down to about 70 after yesterday. A few guests never got the invites, one actually just decided to get married this sat so that was the last thing on there mind and we now have a backyard reception to go to on sat. Yeah most that we contacted are coming. Only a few are not, so that's something to think about.

I had to end up calling, texting, facebooking, at least 90% of my guests for rsvps after the date. Yes, people just don't bother to rsvp and it's incredibly frustrating, but don't count them out. The majority will come, but follow up with them after your date comes.

I would call and ask AFTER the rsvp date. There are many posts about this on here. Cardinal rule: make contact after the date has passed. Or you can always send this..

I hear ya! Our deadline is 8/17 for RSVPs so I'm getting a little nervous (we only have like half in)

I had 40 missing RSVPs by our deadline. People forget, or are lazy. It happens. It's super frustrating but just take a breath and make some calls a few days after your deadline and just say final numbers are due to your venue and you haven't received their RSVP yet. I called all of the missing ones for ours...and they were all yes's. They all came to the wedding, they just forgot to return the RSVP. Just smile and say "can't wait to see you there!" You need to follow up with every missing RSVP and you already sent out invites so you can't say "oh you can't come to the reception now"....

You follow up is all (after the rsvp deadline). Email, call, text, im, whatever, even snail mail.

Invites get lost in the mail, misplaced by recipients and other weird stuff.

In other words, don't be like me I was ready to pounce but I followed the wise advice of WW to keep my mudandi on.

Follow up on the RSVPs after they are due and get confirmation. If they cannot confirm, then tell them you have a deadline for the head count and payment and they will be missed.

That's extremely rude... although it sucks its part of the wedding that brides must endure... hopefully your rsvp by date is far enough in advance that you can hunt down the people who did not return the rsvp. Also know that things get lost in the mail and you cannot assume that people got them in the first place

We of course understand how frustrating it is to track people down, but you gotta do what you gotta do. There's a thread on this nearly every day. Glad you're taking the high road.

I've been hearing the same response since my invites went out just last week. "Oh, we have to RSVP?"

I do not know when people started thinking they don't have to RSVP to weddings anymore but the only thing you can do is to take an RSVP in any form you get and call the missing RSVP's.

I'm dreading the whole RSVP with my FH family ! Most of there family events are in somebody's backyard and they never even heard of RSVPing.

Wait for the RSVP date to come and go- THEN YOU START MAKING PHONE CALLS.

Please don't get your bridesmaids to call. Either you and FH or even moms can call. People forget. It happens. You get to talk to them for a couple of minutes. They will ask how excited you are you say can't wait for it. They say they can't wait to see you/or sorry wish they could make it but can't. It takes a couple minutes

I find that public shaming followed by flogging seems to work well. BRING BACK THE GALLOWS!

Wait, too soon?