What to do with all our nieces! Help!!

I think too many people get carried away with the idea of honoring people by trying to include them all in the wedding party. It becomes like a play with everyone is on stage and few in the audience. Your son has a different role, and accompanying you down the aisle is symbolic.The little ring bear or is just cute, and clueless. The others are all old enough to see all the pageantry, which is best from the seats. It depends on your background. Mine & Hubby are totally different, yet worked. Each has a variant on the younger children of the extended family, nieces and nephews, at the reception or party, bringing a cart with the cake and presenting it to the couple, all standing around in a circle. In his family traditions, at either the family and WP party before the wedding, here the Rehearsal dinner , or at the reception, they present a smaller size "groom's cake" or children's cake. Not the huge multi-tiered or sheet cakes that will feed everyone when cut and served. But a smaller one the children bring, oldest carries it, and the couple it's this decorated small cake, pieces for the parents of B and G, and B& G, Then walk back to their tables with their pieces. Symbolizes parents who nurtured and raised the B and G, and the coming generation the B and G will start when they have children. I am not saying, do it like this. But rather, consider a small part with each of these special young relatives at the reception, not by enlarging the wedding party. Something where the rest of the guests watch, but less formal.

Those are the kinds of unique ideas I am looking for! Thank you.

I have 2 sisters ( wedding party) 2 brothers (guest book attentent and usher) our 4 month old daughter (flower girl) a friends 14 month old son (ring bearer) Fh- 2 best friends (wedding party) 14 year old cousin (pulling FG and RB down the aisle) I don’t know if that helps but there are ways to have them help. My friend is having 3 flower girls and 3 ring bearers. Everyone in our wedding party are family or very important to us. You can have one who shows where cards go, and one to have people sign the guest book. A few ushers. You’ll figure it out

They can play host and hostess. They can pass out programs, favors, etc. The older ones can serve as ushers, showing people where to go for the ceremony and where to go after the ceremony. Some can do readings during the ceremony as well. Do any of them have special talents? Maybe they can perform at the reception or during the ceremony. Are any musicians? Maybe they an play a special song. A couple of them can serve at the check in table as well if you want. If one of them likes organizing, maybe they can be your wedding coordinator's assistant. Just a few ideas.

Hi Manda! I love the others ideas These are all great ways to honor your nieces and make them feel special. You can have some of the younger ones as the flower girls, some as hostess's & helpers, and do something like a song or dance in reception for them, too!

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These are wonderful ideas! I think I will have the 4 youngest as flower girls.
The 3 oldest make sure ppl are in their places on time and cue ppl when to walk.
Not sure yet what to do with the 2 middle girls yet.

View Quoted Comment Well you could always ask them what they want to do or get advice from their parents.

Hey Manda!!

Ahh these are all such good ideas!! When I was little, I was in a wedding that had a lot of other children doing various jobs!! We were all so happy just to have a small contribution to the day and feel important!

Did you decide on what job/roles you're going to give them? I would love to hear the ideas you came up with!!

12 and 13 year old- mini bridesmaids

2, 3 and 10 year old to be flower girls (littles could hold cute signs). then the 10 year is old enough to understand and help guide the 2 younger ones!

Is that too many for flower girls?

Personally I think they could all be flower girls and you can put the older girls in charge of wranging one of the younglings.

Ex:

10 year olds go first

12 year olds with 3 year olds (they can hold their hands) go second & third

13 year old carrying the 1 year old is last

If you're not worried about wrangling 3 kids under the age of 4, maybe have the 13 and 12 year olds do readings.

As a side note: I'm hoping to have 9 ring bearers and make a "Fellowship of the Rings" because I am a giant nerd. Between my nephew, 2 friends' kids, and the children of my fiance's cousins, we definitely have enough!