What to do when you have 2 dads!

Don't panic! You could have them both walk you down and when the preacher says and who gives this woman, they both can say "We Do" or we both do". As far as the dance, I would have a special song for each of them

First of all, take a deep breath! You can do just about whatever you want! There are so many mixed families with different dynamics out there, that the "traditional" aspect kinda takes a back seat to the unique scenarios! Just look at it as a way to really personalize your wedding. You've been lucky enough to have two fathers in your life! Include them both equally! It is absolutely ok for you to have them both walk you down the aisle. I've also heard of one walking with the bride halfway down the aisle where the other is waiting to escort her the rest of the way. As far as the "who gives this woman" part, anyone from either or both of your dads, your mom or siblings (or all together!) can answer this. When it comes to dancing, do two separate dances or split a song. If you don't like the idea of doubling up on everything, you could always have one dad walk you down the aisle and do the father/daughter dance with the other! It's your day! Make it unique to you!

I am in the same situation and will have both my dads walk me down. At first I was worried that my real dad would get mad but at this point I don't think he would. My stepdad has been a great addition to my life and I don't see him at all as a stepdad. Both have played equal parts in my life and never has my stepdad thought of me as anything other than a real daughter. I will also have 2 dances and have picked out songs to reflect each relationship. Any person that doesn't agree with how I am doing this at my wedding needs be happy and to understand I was lucky enough to have 2 wonderful fathers that have both played a tremendous roll in who I am today.

Right with ya there sister! i also have a dad and a stepdad. they are both important to me in my life..like the first poster said. have them both walk you down th aisle. (that is what i am having if my dad is able to depending on when his back surgery is. which will hurt bc i always wanted both of them to walk me down the aisle). ya u can have both stepdad and dad dances. mine are

real dad butterfly kisses bob carisle

stepdad i think stealing cinderilla (have to look at the paper again) by chuck wicks

that is my question too i am not sure on the preacher part. that is one of the questions i need to ask him. have you tried to get a hold of your pastor to see what he suggest

My stepdad means the world to me because he has always been there helping me grow up and with so many things since i lived with him. I have always called him dad and i have never really made a difference between them. I would like to have them both walk me up the isle i just wonder how it will work with them?

As for the dance i think i will do 2 seperate from what others are suggesting!

I am just not sure! I only have a few months left and i am just starting to panic!!!

Hello. First off relax this is not a big problem at all for a wedding. I am a wedding minister and I have had this situation on many occasions. There are a few options.

1.) You can have both dad walk you the whole way down the aisle and when asked who presents this woman they can say "we do" or "on behalf of her family, we do"

2.) Depending on your aisle you can have your step dad walk you down half-way and hand you off to you biological dad and he would then walk you up to the minister and answer "I do" or "On behalf of her family, I do"

3.) which I doubt you would use but you can walk down alone in order not to have to choose and if you want presented your family can stand and all of them say we do including the mom(s).

I have done all three but it is up to the bride on what she would rather do. Hope this helps.

I ran into a situation like this with one of my clients and she felt the same way you do. You can have your biological father walk you half way and you stepfather walk you the rest of the way. It's your day so if you are close with both of your biological and stepfather I see no problem with having 2 songs to dance to.

I'm having my dad and my grandfather walk me down the aisle...one on each arm! I'll also have a dance with both of them!

I know its tough decision but why not have both of them walk you down? I'm having my step dad and my uncle walk me down the isle. They have both played the dad role in my life and I won't be able to choose between them. I will also have a special dance with both of them. Hope that helps...

I am also in this situation and will be having both my dad and stepdad walk me down the aisle. When asked who gives me away, I think I am going to have my dad say, "her mom and I do" and then have my stepdad say, "and her mother and I do"...this way all four of my parents are involved and don't feel left out. I am also thinking about having a sand ceremony so that both my mom and stepmom can pour sand into one vase that I will then pour into the main vase with my husband. I am definitely going to have 2 dances also since both dads have different personalities and I have a different kind of relationship with each. Hope this helps...good luck and congrats!

I'm in the same situation. Both my dad and stepdad are walking me down the aisle. My stepdad is also a groomsman so when we get to the alter, he will go stand with the groomsmen and my dad will give me away. Anyway you do it, just explain to both dads and they will understand!

I know exactly how you feel, my step dad has brought me up since I six, my real dad has alwys been in my life but we are not very close. My brother got married two years ago and my real dad was not told that my brother changed his name to marry as my step dad's surname which is how we have been known since kids, this resulted with my dad in tears. Now it's my day I don't want to hurt anyone, I want them both to walk me down the isle, my real dad has agreed but my mum and step dad have said no way and that my step dad deserves to and they are right but I want them both to do it what do I do? Hurt my real dad or my step dad or me?

I have the same situation but i just feel like my biological dad would be upset if he had to share the moment of walking me down the aisle so i am just doing that with him. and for the dance you could have two that is what i am doing but i wouldn't split up one song it is an important moment don't make yourself cut it short......good luck!

It's not uncommon in a situation to have both walk you down the aisle, and also to have 2 dances. Seen it done plenty of times, nothing to feel weird about. If they're both special to you, and you want them both involved, go for it!

Ok.. so here is my problem! I have a dad who has really never been there for me or much in my life and then I have a step dad who has always been there for me! I want my step dad to walk me down the isle cause I dont think my real dad should have that honor ...is this so wrong of me? I am going to have 2 different songs to dance with them both. also I have picked out my song for my step dad an I but not sure what song for my real dad?....HELP!!!

I am having the same problem. My bio father hasent really been a constant person in my life and we don't really have a realtionship at all. My mother remarried and my step father has been the father figure in my life. Now I honestly believe my father does not deserve the honor of walking me down the aisle because he has not been there he and his side of the family seems to think differently. I was thinking about him walking me half way and my stepfather giving me away to my fiance. BUT my mom was not having it. Up until 24hrs ago my mom and stepfather were paying for 90% of the wedding. I think I should just go with my gut and and do what I planned to do since march when I got engaged but I afaird that half of my fathers side of the family won't even show up. When I met with them yesterday they were saying that they would help with the cost...REALLY? Now I feel obligated to incorporate him in the wedding.. maybe my Stepfather walk me down the aisle and my bio do the father daughter dance with me..This is a STRESSFUL situation that I wouldn't want any bride to have to go through. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks!

On one hand I'm glad that there are more people in the same boat as me. Brittany-I'm in the same boat as you only when I suggested to my biological dad that he take the first part of the walk then hand me off, he got all pissed off and said that if he wasn't going to walk me down the aisle and give me away then he's not coming. Now I don't know what to do-I don't want to cause a family riff but when he was in my life as a kid (which wasn't often) he was a jerk and abusive so now, I don't think he deserves to walk me down the aisle. I'm too close to this to see it clearly! Any advice would be much appreciated!!!!! Thanks in advance for your help!

I am having a non traditional wedding, so I am thinking about the following:

walking in from one side with my sister, while my groom walks in from the other side with his sister (no aisle). We meet at the alter. Then, the officiant asks the parents to stand and be recognized, and I go over and give a hug to each of my parents (dad, stepdad, mom), and then the ceremony begins.

How does that sound??

I love the idea and I just thought of it yesterday, but I'm worried that my real dad (who is paying for the wedding) will feel shortchanged....

Don't worry! I'm in the same boat. I'm having both of my dads walk me down the aisle! (One on each side.) I decided to skip the formal dances because I think it's cliché anyway! Your wedding, your rules! Xo

My father has not really been involved in my life for the past few years, and in fact I have not spoken to him in the past four months, our relationship has been strained at best for as long as I can remember. he always said that he would pay for my wedding, but he has not offered anything. My stepdad however has paid for the majority of the wedding, he has always been supportive and caring and what I imagine a father should be At this point, I know that when I invite my father, there will be drama. And he always ends up causing drama when he is around my mothers side of the family. I know that if I don't invite him, he will probably never forgive me, but isn't the wedding supposed to be about me and my future husband? Would it be so terrible not to invite him? I definitely want my stepdad to walk me down the aisle, how do I bring that up to my dad? Knowing it would cause irreversible damage to our already strained relationship. And should I even invite him if I know that he will inevitably cause a scene and bring drama to the happiest day of my life.