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Savvy August 2010

What to do when people invite themselves to your wedding

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Mrs. P. NYC, on November 5, 2009 at 12:22 PM

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I don't know what to do. I got a call from a high school friend 3000 miles away because she heard about my wedding and told me how she had started looking at flights and she was definately coming. She is still in the same town we grew up in IreIand but I finished high school 18 years ago and left Ireland at that time also. I really do not like her at all and had no intention of inviting her. When I visit home once a year I meet her for a drink just to be polite. We really do not have much in common anymore and she just uses me but I ignore it because I know I am leaving and will not be back for a year. She was also hoping that her daughter could be my flower girl. That cannot happen because I have 16 nieces and nephews to choose from. I got so stressed during the call I ended up telling her that we were considering cancelling the wedding (that was a lie) and running away and she said I would have to tell her where so she could come. I don't get it. What should I say? Tks...

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Savvy August 2010
Mrs. P. NYC · on November 5, 2009 at 11:33 PM
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Thank you all. From reading all of the replys I think I now have the courage to be honest and address this problem this weekend. I am going to compose a letter to her over the weekend and e-mail it to her on Monday. I cannot proceed with anything wedding related because I cannot think about anything else. I can't believe how much this has really upset me. I have felt sick since that phone call yesterday and I am now ready to write the letter and move on with the rest of the wedding. I am truly gratefull to you all. I will let you know the outcome Tuesday (if I don't chicken out)
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Madison Carter · on November 6, 2009 at 5:57 PM
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I would always just be honest and truthful about it. It seems this associate thinks more of you then you do of her. Personally I wouldn't care if she came to the wedding. You will be far too busy to spend anytime with her and then you leave for your honeymoon. She's out substantial airfare and Hotel room. That's assuming you have a vested interest. Otherwise I'd just tell her I'm sorry but I don't recall sending you an invitation.
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Leeann · on November 8, 2009 at 8:02 PM
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Rev,Carleen
I am new here and never heard from u before! And have heard about crap going on but by ur post above I just want u to be aware it sounded rude and very unwelcoming!
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