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Andrea
Master October 2021

What to do in this situation?

Andrea, on July 21, 2019 at 9:10 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 25

Hi everyone, I am wondering what to do in this situation. I think I'm leaning towards invite, but I would like your insight. My FH has a cousin who used to be married. During her marriage, she had a daughter. Her marriage has long since been over (can't really delve into reasons why, but it wasn't...

Hi everyone,


I am wondering what to do in this situation. I think I'm leaning towards invite, but I would like your insight.


My FH has a cousin who used to be married. During her marriage, she had a daughter. Her marriage has long since been over (can't really delve into reasons why, but it wasn't pretty.) So, now said cousin has been in a long term relationship with her current boyfriend, and my FH's cousin has another daughter who is about 5 now. The older daughter lives with the ex husband, whom we don't plan on inviting because My FH has no connections or relations with him. The younger daughter lives with her mom (fh's cousin and her dad). My question is, should we invite the older daughter even though she lives with her dad?

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  • Andrea
    Master October 2021
    Andrea ·
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    Thank you, Karen for your insightSmiley heart

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  • Andrea
    Master October 2021
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    Hey Cassi,

    Yeah, that's true. His cousin would have to have that conversation with her ex-husband. Thank you for your insight!!

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  • Carrie
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Yes! I would. Nothing is the children’s fault so it would be a nice gesture. Send the invite and let her decide to come or not
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  • Vicky
    Super January 2020
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    Include both of the daughters (by name) on the mother's invitation. It's up to the mom to work out the visitation arrangement, if possible, with her ex. I can see why your FI is reluctant if he hasn't seen her in a while and doesn't currently have a relationship with her, but not inviting her while inviting her sister really sends a horrible message, and even if she isn't able to come there may be a time in the future that she will want to and be able to reach out and explore a relationship with you guys.

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  • Wendy
    Rockstar August 2020
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    You’re welcome Smiley smile
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