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What to do for an 11 year old stepdaughter

Emily, on July 11, 2019 at 5:31 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 27

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Hello everyone! So I have an 11 year old stepdaughter not too sure how to incorporate her since she is kinda in between ages. I don’t want her part of the bridal party per day because I think that should be friends only, and keep the numbers equal and just overall I think it’s tscky to have a kid in it. But she’s too old for flower girl. Maybe instead of ring bearers have her have mine and her dads rings, maybe carry a cute sign, or something. I want to incorporate her somehow but I am stuck but also want her to feel special too.any suggestion?!

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Allie · on July 11, 2019 at 5:33 PM
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My step daughter is 9 and she wants to be the flower girl. She will also carry the rings and hold my bouquet as she will be the only one standing with us.
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Emily · on July 11, 2019 at 5:34 PM
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We each have ten people. Ten bridesmaids and ten grooms lol so it’s a big wedding. I am not having a maid of honor so maybe that would be sweet to have her hold the rings and my flowers.
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Brianna N · on July 11, 2019 at 5:38 PM
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We were stuck on this with our 11 year old niece and talked to her mom about it, she talked to her and our niece said she would be super happy to be a FG because she just wants to be a part of the wedding
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Emily · on July 11, 2019 at 5:39 PM
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Yeah I thought flower girls were little though. She is like a teenager looking girl lol..she’s taller than me and bigger than me so I don’t want it to look ridiculous ya know.then I have all my little three year old nieces who I don’t want to upset either! It’s so hard all of this !!!
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MrsD · on July 11, 2019 at 5:48 PM
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Has she talked about what she would prefer to do?
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Savvy August 2020
Emily · on July 11, 2019 at 5:50 PM
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She just wants to be a part of it.
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Emily · on July 11, 2019 at 5:51 PM
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Maybe have her walk down like a flower girl but carry a cute sign and the rings and stand next to me, hold my bouquet
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Lady · on July 11, 2019 at 5:54 PM
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You could have her process down with the BM's, but just have her sit in the front row instead of standing. She can wear whatever you'd like (doesn't have to match BM's) and hold your flowers/rings! Get her a corsage or a small bouquet
I know the groom doesn't typically walk down the aisle, but I think it would be really special for her to escort her dad to the front (like the bride's dad typically does). Hug him, he can stand up there for the processional and she could take a seat.
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Emily · on July 11, 2019 at 5:55 PM
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Yes that’s a good idea girl!!! But is she gonna sit while holding our rings? How will that all work!
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Emily · on July 11, 2019 at 5:55 PM
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Would she walk down first before or last?
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Lady · on July 11, 2019 at 5:56 PM
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Sure, just look at her when it's time for them and she can stand up and give them to you! You can practice it at the rehearsal. Same for flowers, just turn and hand them to her - you probably won't be that far away from teh very front row of seats.
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Lady · on July 11, 2019 at 5:57 PM
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If she processes with her dad (which i think would be nice) I would have them go first, then your BM's and groomsmen, then you.
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Lady · on July 11, 2019 at 5:58 PM
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I think she's a little too old for a cutesy sign, but walking her dad down the aisle would be really special for both them i think.
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Kelly · on July 11, 2019 at 6:04 PM
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I think walking down the isle with her Dad would be a big honor for her.
Ring bearer she'd walk down before flower girl I think and then just sit with the rings until someone says "and now it's time for the exchange of rings" and she'd know to come up.
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Emily · on July 11, 2019 at 6:18 PM
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Perfect!!! Thank you girl appreciate it! I have been sitting here trying to figure it out
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Cristy · on July 11, 2019 at 6:23 PM
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Another option is having her be your personal attendant for the day. There are bound to be lots of little things that need doing, or fetching, etc. on the day of. She can help with that, and be your go-between for family, guests, before the wedding.
I also like the idea of her holding onto the rings for you. That's special!
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Emily · on July 11, 2019 at 6:29 PM
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Yes I just want her to feel important since she’s not “in” the wedding party ya know.
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earias · on July 11, 2019 at 7:30 PM
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I had an 11 year old flower girl who was nearly as tall as me. It didn't look ridiculous, and really, who cares? She was so excited to be a flower girl. Her 2 sisters were also flower girls and they were 9 and 7. Flower girls can be any age; in fact, some brides on here have had their grandmothers as flower girls.
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Pamela · on July 11, 2019 at 8:22 PM
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My soon to be daughter will be 10 and she and my son will be my attendants. I don't understand how she would be "tacky" as a bridesmaid or Jr bridesmaid, but that's up to you. You don't have to have her wear what they wear. Just coordinate.

If you don't want her getting ready with you and the other girls you need to figure that out because obviously her dad is going to be busy with his guys and she can't be there.
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Emily · on July 11, 2019 at 10:41 PM
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We’ll both be busy, that’s what I mean. She’ll be with one of her grandparents for the adult time stuff.but for the ceremony I want to do something special, and not a bridesmaid. Pics will be all the wedding party and our own special pics of me her and her dad separately. Maybe flower girl and carry rings. ???
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