What to do about significant others on the morning of the wedding.

The BM's significant others (all men) grabbed lunch and a beer with the GM. My OOT guests had the day to themselves... some went sightseeing, some just chilled at their hotel. The GM's significant others drove into the city right before the wedding.

I offered the female OOT guests to come to the house where I got read and chill with us, but all of them chose to get ready at their hotels and/or spend time with their significant others. I believe the male OOT guests were also invited to go grab lunch/drink with the GM.

My venue is near a wine trail with dozens of wineries and breweries so I'm going to pass that info along to my OOT guests I think it's nice to offer ideas to them of things locally they could do to pass the time. And if they chose not to then they can just relax!

On my side, the men just assumed they weren't invited, ha. One girls husband took care of their son, another girls boyfriend hung out with her family, my sisters fiance went for a hike and then showed up to say hi.

However, one BM did come with her sister instead of a male date, so I told her to make sure her sister came to get ready with us, and she was SUPER appreciative.

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i will have the same conundum as all of my bridesmaids are traveling to my wedding. I think they willall book into the hotel the day before with their SO's. they have have the day before to chill out as i am asking the bridesmaids and groomsmen to all meet at 4pm the day before for a mass rehearsal and then the wedding party and our families and the oot gutests will meet for dinner that night. i wasnt planning on inviting the wedding party's SO's to the rehearsal dinner ( as they are not part of the wedding) and we will be back then around 9pm for bed to the hotel where they will regroup.

the morning off the wedding they can just chill at the hotel and check out late and the wedding is at 1pm.

this wedding is also in ireland so its a little different here with some things.

I'm just assuming adults can entertain themselves for a morning with books, tablets, hotel pools, etc. Call me heartless, but I won't be responsible for entertaining everyone remotely connected with my wedding for 36 hours.

I think they just hung out at the hotel and then came over to the venue on the shuttle. I don't think you need to worry about but since it's family, maybe have some suggestions for breakfast/lunch, activities, etc.

I would assume they are adults who can figure it out for themselves. We put some suggestions of things to do around town on our website just in case people are looking for ideas. We are also lucky that our hotel has an ice skating rink attached. But if I were an OOT guest, I'd likely sleep in and relax, take my time getting ready, and maybe grab lunch, so I would have plenty of energy to party it up with the bride and groom that night!

Let them figure it out, honestly....

Our bridal party(my brothers and sisters in law) are all married to other members in the bridal party except for fbil. I'm planning on inviting her to come hang out while we are getting ready but she also lives near our venue so if not thats ok.

Sorry I'm actually still at work on Christmas Eve. Yay lol. Anyway, my mother thinks that everyone should be invited to get ready with us. The men with the men. The women with the women. I however... Would like to enjoy my morning getting ready with my HS/MUA and videographer. Then once I'm ready to go to the venue and put my dress on, I would like my mom and my BP to be there. My mother keeps telling me, "But Cousin Linda's daughter's and their husbands had everyone involved." Well mother... Quite frankly... IDGAF. Just wondering if I'm supposed to have everyone and their mother with me the morning of the wedding or not. I would like to relax as much as possible before the havoc.

Beau was in a wedding last year and I wasn't in it. It was out of town and we got a hotel and I just hung out there for a bit. The time to myself in a swanky hotel room was actually kind of nice lol.

Our wedding was on the same venue as everyone was staying so literally our whole guest list hung out together before the wedding.

We have a hotel across from the venue. They'll be there pre gaming.

When fh was in his brothers wedding I entertained myself while he was with the guys. My other sister in law got ready together then headed to the venue for some pre ceremony photos with the bride and our mil. I can adult

They will all hang out with the other non-bridal party guests, or amuse themselves if they don't know anyone FH has been a groomsmen in a bunch of OOT weddings and I've always taken care of myself! It is helpful if the groomsmen and bridesmaids can make sure to introduce their SOs to each other if they don't know anyone so they can make plans together.

It shouldn't be your worry that day. They can take care of themselves. If it is family - there may be jobs you can assign to them. That is what I'm doing with my sister's husband.

So your mom is saying that your MOHs husband should go hang out with the groom and groomsmen of a wedding he's not in? Wouldn't that just make him feel a bit uncomfortable? I think guests and significant others of the bridal party are more than happy to just relax that morning I agree with everyone else I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Yeah, our bridal party SO's entertained themselves, lol. The BM's guys didn't want anything to do with our hair and makeup, lol. One of the groomsmen's wives did wanna go to lunch with FH and the GM, just cuz she was stuck alone since the ppl she knew were all in the bridal party, but she ended up not going in the end.

There is no need to have every freaking female on the guest list to hang out with yo while you get ready. I wanted it as quiet as possible. It was myself, the MUA, my MOH and a close mutual friend of ours that we had not seen in years (we all live in different states) we spent the morning catching up and being able to talk about things too deep and personal for causal dinner conversation.

Seriously though, just have your BP and your mom. Everyone else can figure out what to do on their own.

@Mikayla yup. Mom thinks the men should be with the men and the women with the women. Ian and my MOH's husband are great friends, but that didn't happen until a few months ago. I've known my MOH for 10 years, but we stopped talking when I moved from Arizona to Jersey, and a few other reasons we thought were friendship ending when we were 23 years old. When I moved back, I never got in touch with her, but I continued to stay friends with a mutual friend. So she had contacted me one day last summer and I was very cautious of her, but after a few months of us just talking things through, we ended up hanging out and now we're back to being fairly inseparable lol. Get husband actually looks just like Ian too lol. They're twinsies, but her husband's social anxiety is worse than Ian's and by the time they had a bromance, the wedding party was picked. My last MOH only contacted me for pain killers (another really long story), and I haven't spoken to her since July? August? I haven't seen her since May.

They can hang out with the groomsmen or with each other! when my FH was in his buddy's wedding last year, i helped the BM's do their hair, and got some free mimosas too