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Ms. Mary Kate
Dedicated September 2018

What to charge for on-site lodging?

Ms. Mary Kate, on May 2, 2018 at 9:01 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 51
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Hi guys! I have a big question and could use some advice.

We've rented out an entire lakeside campground resort for our wedding. It's an amazing place! And venue was our biggest expense for this reason.

There is space for 50 guests to lodge on-site, and all of this is rolled into the venue cost. There's different levels of accommodations; there's a dorm-style bunkhouse, private cabins of different sizes, teepees and other whimsical custom-build structures (which are cool as heck but are pretty rustic ie no bathrooms or ac), and a luxury 3-br house all on-site and available. We are providing special cabins for the wedding party, and giving the luxury house accommodations to our parents.

My question is, how should we charge our other guests for accommodations? We let them know that we are offering limited amount of lodging on a first come, first serve basis, and are offering it at a discount rate from what the resort would normally charge. My guests are starting to show interest in lodging with us and I need to make these decisions. How should I break it down?

By room? By head? Should I charge more for the fancier rooms (I'm guessing yes)? Should I just come up with a number I want to reach (specifically, there's something I forgot to budget for--the porta-potty trailers!), and divy it up? Or should I do a percentage of what they normally charge for a la carte lodging?

The venue is quite expensive, but they don't break down the expenses to show lodging as a line item or anything, so I'm not sure where to begin. I want to be fair and reasonable, and am not trying to bleed my guests for as much as possible or anything like that. However I think is reasonable to ask for some contribution in exchange for lodging, especially since it is so limited (we could certainly use it). Any advice on how to start thinking about this would be appreciated!

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Latest activity by Ms. Mary Kate, on May 3, 2018 at 6:32 PM
  • Tammy
    Super October 2018
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    I would break it down based on room types. That sounds amazing!!

    side note: why is port o potty rental so expensive? We chose a different because of the rental cost for a couple bathrooms was insane!!!
  • Ms. Mary Kate
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    LOL I'm guessing because it's truly dirty work that no one else wants to do, so they can charge an arm and a leg!!

  • K
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    I would break it down per room not per person. Also, as a starting point maybe start by asking the venue what they normally charge for those rooms and then discount slightly for the guests.
  • Kelli
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    We rented an inn for 3 days where we will be having the rehearsal, ceremony and reception and are able to accommodate 18 guests (including our family of 6 between my son and I, FH and his 2 boys plus his oldest sons girlfriend who is a bridesmaid). There was no option to make the venue cheaper with less guests and we had to pay a hefty security deposit in case anything got destroyed so our wedding party said they would pay to stay there with us. We charged $400 for the 3 nights (Thurs-Sun) per family. We are paying about $2000 for meals each day as well not including dinner for the reception so everyone thought it was more than fair. I would definitely just pick a number you want to reach and divide it up over all of the accommodations based on amenities. The rustic ones obviously shouldn't be as expensive as the other ones, though. You may want to also compare other local lodging places too because if they can get other accommodations cheaper why would they pay to stay there?
  • Jaycie
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    I would say try to find a way to break down cost based on the specific room setup people will be staying in.
  • Angel
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    Agree with this. Most logical and fair
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    I would break it down by room, not by person. I would ask the venue what they normally charge for the rooms and then take the same percentage off each of the room types. So if they charge $350 for one room and $100 for another, you would take the same XX% off the total. That way none of your guests will get frustrated that they paid the same price as someone staying in a better room.

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    Who's collecting this money? You, or the hotel? How will refunds be handled? What about if the guests break something in the rooms, who's responsible for that? Or don't check out on time? There's a LOT of legal issues and logistics to figure out if you're essentially going to sublet a bunch of hotel rooms for the weekend! I'm sure if the hotel has dealt with this before they can offer suggestions.

  • Ms. Mary Kate
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    It would be me... the venue is highly unique in that it is a sort of a private property that is treated like a resort, all the lodging is rolled into the cost of venue. It's owned run and built by artists... very amazing but I have no legal precedent to look into. All the guests have to sign waivers...like in case they get hurt on the lake etc. If someone needed a refund for lodging, I'd have to cough it up and hope I could give it to someone else who could cancel their other lodging plans, as space is highly limited and I'm having to turn people down (everyone wants to stay in the treehouse lol). we are responsible for any damages, which is why we got a $3million insurance policy for the weekend lol!

  • Tammy
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    Oh ya cleaning HAHAHA!!! Probably that.

    If I was staying at something like this (which sounds awesome) but found out I'm sleeping in a teepee for the same price as someone staying in a cabin I would be less then amused. I think you should divide it out based on the space.

  • Allison
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    I'd charge per room, and I'd base a bit on what the resort would normally charge. So if they charge S150 a night for this house that has 2 rooms, divide that and charge 2/3 the price. Make sure any fees are included in what you charge. This way all of the prices are comparable to what they're getting.



    We rented beach houses, so I totally get it.
  • LB
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    If I remember correctly, you got your venue through a work-for-trade agreement correct? So you would just pocket the money that you didn't even have to pay for your venue?

    IMO, you should not charge your guests for something you didn't even pay for.

  • Munchkin9218
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    If rooms are included in the price of the venue then you need to pay the amount yourself. You should not subsidize the wedding costs onto your guests. Especially if you were required to rent out the entire venue to secure it. If the rooms are a separate charge then the amount should be listed and the guests who WANT to pay to stay on site can call and book a room and pay for it directly to the venue itself.


    But if the room prices are included in the overall fee that is on your and your FH to pay for.

  • Katie
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    If it's part of your venue cost, you should pay for it. Your guests shouldn't have to subsidize the cost of where you chose to have your wedding

    I also agree with LB. If you're getting a venue in exchange for work, it is in poor taste IMO to charge your guests.
  • Ms. Mary Kate
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    I'm a professional landscaper and had to pay my employees to do this with, as well as purchase the materials, to do a job worth over 20k. I pocketed absolutely nothing
  • Ms. Mary Kate
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    In that case I will probably decide not to let anyone lodge besides wedding party and guests, since it will increase the work for the staff otherwise. Thanks
  • LB
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    But can you see how that's not honest? You did not pay the venue for the lodging, but then are charging your guests for the lodging. You are "pocketing" the money your guests give you because it's not going to the venue for said lodging.

  • Ms. Mary Kate
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    This venue isn't an "entire" or "partial" place. But with this thinking, I think I will simply not have anyone lodge at all. Like I stated before, the ability to Lodge about 50 people was an added bonus. There is plenty of lodging nearby.
  • Ms. Mary Kate
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    I'm paying them with my and my professional employees' paid time, as well as my industry connections to vendors etc. It was a contractual trade of value in kind. I would not have been able to afford it otherwise if I had to pay cash out of pocket but I am paying by means of my valuable work and loss of other paid work.

    Like I said, if it really is this complicated, I will simply withdraw my offer to provide lodging on site for a limited number of guests and let them figure it out.
  • LB
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    That's probably your best bet.

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