What to call the person walking me down the aisle

Bride's Escort?

I would call him Step Dad...

Chaperone, or Bride is escorted by, or

Escorting the Bride: John Smith (father of the bride)

Todd Smith (son of the bride)

or Accompanying the Bride

There is a subtle difference between "dad" and "father". I think dad is totally appropriate for your situation.

1) Don't piss of your mother.

2) Not sure I like "fatherly figure". Something about that just seems impersonal.

3) What is he to you? If he is like your Dad, then call him "dad".

4) I probably would put a mention of your late father somewhere in the program book. Unless there was some animosity there - but didn't sound like it from your initial comment.

Just because he and your mother are no longer married, i don't think that makes him any less your step dad. If your father was still living and he and your mom got a divorce, he would still be your dad and your mom would still be your mom. IMHO, simply calling him your escort or something like that doesn't seem fair. If he is your father figure, he deserves the title of a father figure. Mom might just have to suck it up.

Does your mom use his last name?

Bride's Escort: John Smith (if it is the same last name as your mom's, people will know he's your stepdad)

I don't want to call him dad on my programs, because I have an "in memory of" for my real dad. I do call my step dad by his first name. He has been my "dad" for over 20 years, so I want his title to be something that shows he's important. My mom went back to her maiden name after they got divorced.

Bridal escort, or presenter of the bride would work if you want to save the drama with your mom.

Your escort

Giver Awayer...

You can tell your mom that spouses get divorced, not families.

And you call him your stepdad.

"You divorce wives, not children" ~ Mel Horowitz, Clueless

I would still call him your stepdad.

Agreed with step father.

Agreed with Jenn.

If you refer to him as your step dad, he is your step dad. Despite what has happened between him and your mother.

I asked my step dad what he would like to be referred as and he responded with "I'll leave it up to you whatever you decide is ok" and then said "ask your friends".

Jackie took all the words out of my mouth.