What *tacky* thing are you doing??

My fmil says our entire wedding is unconventional. Public parks, no wedding party, fh is grilling food at reception

Gasp! How dare you! 😉 so far our worst offense is having a cash bar.

I think our two biggest offenses are no dancing and no alcohol 🤷‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Scandalous!! 😂

View Quoted Comment Sounds like a great party waiting to happen!

We had a pirate wedding! We skipped several traditions: no wedding party, no parent giving me away, no bouquet or garter toss, no DJ/dancing, we changed into pirate outfits for our reception in a cool wine cave and had pirate decor and an accordionist who played sea shanties during our cocktail hour.


We also had a 60’s local reception where guests dressed up!
My hubby’s 2nd wedding, my 1st. We’re 40’s/50’s so it was awesome to create the offbeat vision we wanted. 💕

We had a swordfight, fake flowers, and the theme was our baseball team.

But, yeah, swords were involved, which isn't weird in OUR circle, but is outside of it.

Not in regards to the wedding but I'm breaking all sorts of etiquette. I have two friends that I gave proposal boxes to even though they know as of right now we may just elope us to but I'm including them and making decisions and asking their advice. My quote-unquote maid of honor I would love to be there as my witness to sign the marriage license. I'm going to have a bachelorette party and maybe a bridal brunch not because I need gifts but because my friends have told me they want to celebrate this and I want to celebrate with my girls.

I think we are doing a couple taboo things! Like no bridal party, NO speeches, and no kids... also my dad is not walking me down the aisle

I love this post!!! 💖 I Just love seeing how brides of today are bucking tradition and creating their own perfect events!
I would say MOST of our event is nontraditional LOL Some of the highlights... I will be wearing a nontraditional wedding dress. We are having live music at the ceremony, but recorded music at the reception (no DJ or dancing, just a nice sit down plated dinner with open bar - we call this the pre-party LOL) Then an after hours party until the wee hours of the morning on Bourbon Street. Because I am not religious, we are having a non-religious Officiant marry us - an adorable lesbian with cheek piercings & colored dreads (surprise, families! lol) We are foregoing a wedding cake and opting for New Orleans rum bread putting and bananas Foster instead. But, I think the most gasp-worthy of offenses is my “maid of honor”, who will actually be a MAN of honor. Not only is he my closest and most beloved friend of over 16 years, we also dated & lived together for 5 years!
I think half of my family is having a heart attack about this haha But hey, just because a romantic relationship didn’t work between us it doesn’t mean the friendship didn’t. My FH knows him and is 100% cool with our friendship and him standing in our wedding – as a matter of fact, he said he couldn’t have imagined me choosing anyone else.

I'm having an expensive bachelorette for Mardi Gras. My friends are paying ~$700 to travel and stay in NoLa. I don't feel guilty at all since I forked out at least that much to attend each of their bachelorettes and its gonna be a great time with all of us hanging out. Of course if someone cannot attend for financial reasons, I will help them out/not be mad if they bail.

Cash bar, fake flowers, no wedding party, and a 16yr age difference between bride and groom 😂

I guess most of what we're doing is not traditional or "proper etiquette" for a vow renewal. But I really do not care. We weren't able to have the wedding we wanted the first time around, so we're having it now! I am calling my girls bridesmaids, the guys groomsmen, and we're doing the first dance, cake cutting and other things, and we made proposal boxes for them all. We're not doing "bachelor/ette" parties, but we are planning a weekend with our parties only because our kids are standing up with us and they want us to do it. I've never really cared for nor been a traditional kind of person anyway!

We are getting married in a public park on the water and then a reception at FH's parent's house. We aren't having a DJ, we are having fake flowers, and thinking about a food truck for food!

I don’t have any dancing or alcohol 🤷🏼‍♀️ Kinda wish we had dancing but it’s in the church by laws. Since I am getting married on D Day I am also going to have a moment of silence before e ceremony begins. My family is military and the local area is a big military community.

We had a 2.5h gap between the ceremony and cocktail hour with a 30ish minute commute between venues. I don't know how guests felt about it but I know some took advantage of it to go change into more comfortable clothes for the party!

This sounds like our wedding. I’m not having any of those either. Additionally, we’re not doing any DIY decor and not having a Photo Booth. Our venue is a former burlesque club and we’re having one color scheme for the ceremony and a different color scheme for the reception (but it works based on the two different rooms in our venue).


FH and I are both second time bride and groom in our 40’s. Following the crowd is not our style, so having a traditional, cookie-cutter wedding was out of the picture.
However, the one thing that’s probably considered very “tacky“ is that 95% of our registry is for “gifts of experiences” (ie. gift cards for restaurants, movies, spas, hotels, etc.). FH and I are established in our careers and financially sound. We have our house and it’s fully stocked and furnished. So there aren’t any tangible items that we need. But we do enjoy spending time together and making memories, so that’s why we created our registry that way.

View Quoted Comment Oops! My post was in response to yours. We’re not having those either.

We are doing destination, colored veil, mayan ceremony, colorful hair for the bride, fun colored suits for the groomsmen, no true bachelorette/bachelor parties, no rehearsal dinner, no speeches... theres probs more too🤷‍♀️

Welp, none of ours is super traditional and according to some websites we are "tacky". We are already legally married for military benefit/travel reasons (we do not refer to one another as if we were married). We did not plan on doing anything, but his mother would have been devastated. So, we are having a ceremony and dinner with only immediate family (18 people total), no dancing, no DJ, no videographer, no wedding party, etc.