What Spawned Your Wedding Meltdown?

When I was trying to get all my girls to get their dresses so they can arrive on time. I broke down like 3 times... It was bad.

Oh my goodness, I had a meltdown last week due to almost the same thing. I've been good until now. My wedding is over budget and my parents and inlaws keep adding people to the list. I had to put my foot down and say that's it, but it's hard when I'm being blessed and both sets of parents are helping with the reception. However, the reception is 25 people over. Now all of you know that 25 people can become costly and that amount of people was not included in the original budget the parents first agreed on. Between that an constantly butting heads with my mom.....it's been an intense couple of days and I'm not looking forward to the last month left.....

Changing my theme and venue 100 days out

1. When my FH called me at work on my lunch break to tell me his dad and 5 other people won't attend our wedding because we didn't invite any children but the flower girl. My FH said we have to change our minds and just let his sister's two girls come. I totally lost it and started yelling at him on the phone. It was epic. We ended up sticking to our plan of no children so we had 6 declines.

2. When I realized that we have about a 50% acceptance rate to the wedding. I'm still pretty pissed that so many close family members (mostly without kids) didn't save the date or didn't want to come because of selfishness. We should have spent the wedding money on a great honeymoon. I feel like we wasted our money at this point and our wedding is going to suck because people won't be there.

I call mine Godparent-gate 2013. My parents pointed out that I forgot to invite my godparents to our rehearsal dinner. I had a meltdown!!!

I had a mini meltdown when I still hadn't gotten a confirmation that my dress had been ordered. 2 weeks went by and then 3 weeks, so I HAD to call. Turns out they were waiting to confirm the color of my dress. Why didn't they just ask me?! I would have set them straight! I was freaking out because I knew it would take 5 months to come in. Everything got settled but they said now I just have to wait. Next meltdown will probably be invite, RSVP, or alterations related.

Budget and realizing a lot of family wouldn't make it to the wedding if we have it in Texas, where we live, vs. Ohio, where we're from. Resulted in us canceling everything and moving the wedding to Ohio. Kinda drastic, but it's for the best and I feel so much better. Now I just need to tell people.

Well isn't this perfect timing I had a meltdown in the car last night with my FH. It was over a BM dress and my mom's dress. Very long story, but the dresses were too small, and won't zip (my mom's is a major mess).

Bumping; goes with FH rant conversation.

GUYS. Okay, we are all having meltdowns. Mine in particular is about budget and the guest list. My parents are mostly paying for the wedding, but honestly that is stressing me out more than anything because I feel like I will owe them such a huge debt. My FH actually had a meltdown as well. So my question is HOW ARE YALL DEALING WITH THE MELTDOWNS? like I let it out with a good cry, but I never feel completely better afterward. And I'm so bothered because this is supposed to be such a happy time, and we are over here crying about long lost 4th cousins being invited or not and what grass we are gonna get married on :'((((( help

I bottle things up until I explode. I'm paying for my wedding on my own (the bride is paying for what the brides family traditionally pays for and the groom is paying for what the grooms family traditially pays for) I had a melt down after a long weekend of wedding planning which my groom had no interest in ( he sat silently on his phone while meeting with the caterer and ignored his save the dates until I filled them out.) This set off that the fact that my bridesmaids can't be around for me when I need them (one lives four hours away, one is always broke, and the other works two jobs) and finding out the cost of renting dishes was the last straw. I melted down at work like a lunatic.

OMG I feel so much better about being upset so easily by all the decisions! I know most of these posts are from a while ago but anyone googling "wedding planning breakdown/meltdown" will hopefully read it and feel better!! I just need to know you all are out there. It's better when we are in this boat together.

@Bethany Y: I have wedding finances from my parents as well as the stress about the guest list. It keeps growing and that is what today's meltdown Was all about. I yelled at my mom over the phone (while tearing up) and then broke down afterwards feeling horrible about my reaction to her and how I am so failing this planning stuff.

@Lindsay B: I deal the same way with the stress and it is making me feel crazy! I've never gotten so wound up by decisions like this before, but I am not a super planner and I think that is where it is coming from. My BM situation is similar to yours so I feel like I'm trying to figure it out as I go. Hopefully you are getting some support as the date gets closer!

I know we are not people who set out to be bridezillas and I am sending out the requests for some grace, poise, and patience while I get down to businesss these last 3+ months!! God help me!

Most of my stress has been surrounding the budget. My FH and I chose to do our wedding in 5 months which seemed like a great idea at the time. We have been very blessed but it’s still not enough. There’s so many details and expenses and tonight my future husband made me feel like a villain for not waiting until everything was paid until I got my dress and alterations. (We still have some payments left and he felt those should have been taken care of first) I freaking lost it! I’ve been very flexible with cutting things out for budget but he still seems to think my choices are selfish and me wanting certain things at my wedding is all about me and not him. I can’t believe we’re fighting about this a month before our wedding...I feel like I’m crazy for wanting certain things at my wedding and now I feel guilty for getting my dress and alterations. I JUST WANT TO ELOPE!!!!