What sort of "jobs" are there for family members to have?

Readings, ushers, bringing up gifts. We are having my nieces and nephews handout bubbles for after the ceremony

The ages range all over the place. My youngest cousin is 5, and he is going to be our ring bearer. FH's youngest cousin is 6, and I REALLY wanted her to be the flower girl because I adore her. Well... the family is having a fit that I wont make her older half-sister a flower girl too. But she is 10 and a nightmare. She does not behave and I have tried saying it nicely but the kids honestly had a rough life so I can't be TOO mean about it, but this little girl has the mentality of a 5 year old and REALLY wants to do something. So FILs are trying to make her a junior bridesmaid. BUT FHs other cousins who are 15 and I'm much closer with are now having a fit because they KNOW I am closer with them and already said they will be pissed if Taryn gets to be a junior bridesmaid and they don't. But I don't want **** junior brides maids. So i am trying to find something small that a 10 year old can do and something a few teenagers can do.

Besides passing out programs, exit bubbles/confetti, flower girls, ring bearers, usher, there isn't much else. The best thing to tell them is their job is to enjoy themselves.

Minister friend - Lead prayer before dinner
Father - Walk me down the aisle
Sister - Matron of honor & dress shopping
God daughter - Throw rose petals
Mother - Dress shopping, be pampered, slay while walking down the aisle, not lift a finger, enjoy herself all day
Other family - Be beautiful, attend wedding, enjoy themselves

All other jobs will go to wedding coordinator, pastor, catered, DJ, photographer, etc.

Readers, gift bearers, candle lighters, someone to hand out programs

If you are having an outside or inside reception you can have the older kids help plan games for the your to adolescent cousins: jumbo connect 4 (Amazon.com), corn hole boards, outdoor tic-tac- toe. The list goes on... a "coloring party" roll out a large piece of paper and have crayons out, they can color on the ground or what have you. All depending on your venue. Maybe little goodie bags to keep them occupied. Just a thought.

View Quoted Comment This sounds like a great idea! And from what you're saying it seems like it would be perfect for you. Small job that could include as many or as little as you need. Nothing you need to make sure is going right, sounds pretty difficult to mess up.

Unfortunately both of FH's grandparents are not with us anymore, and ALL of the children just so happens to be on his side of the family. It might work but I fear the younger children will be afraid to walk with the "strangers" but it is certainly a good idea to try it!

Thanks yall, I really appreciate the help!

Don't give anyone "jobs". A lot of people don't even like being in weddings (many adults don't want to; many kids end up getting too shy come the day of). People may feel pressured to help if you ask them/give them a "job" and they may not feel comfortable telling you they don't want to do it. Don't give people jobs just because.

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Not any guests job and x1000 not one you would give to a kid! lolz M Hand is right. Just let them be guests and enjoy the party