What sort of "jobs" are there for family members to have?

I would love this list also!! I've heard of people being candle lighters, junior bm/groomsmen, little ushers etc! I'm trying to see Jobs for older friends too!

Is this because you want to include them? Have you considered that perhaps people would rather not have jobs and would prefer to enjoy themselves as guests?

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Leelee have you ever considered that maybe I already asked them and they all want to be apart of and thats why I'm trying to find jobs for so many different children? Thanks so much!

This really depends on what type of ceremony you are having. We are Catholic, so there are plenty of roles for family such as Ushers, Alter Servers, Eucharistic Ministers, Readers, bring up the gifts, ring bearer, flower girl, groomsmen, bridesmaids, best man, maid of honor, and escorts for your VIPs such as the grandmas. I wouldn't call them jobs though. To me a job is helping to decorate or something like that, but being asked to fill a role during the ceremony is a huge honor!

Don’t offer anyone a job unless you have spoken with HR, approved their salary and benefit requirements and have extended an official letter with The job offer details and description of responsibilities.


However, if you’re looking for ways to include people in the ceremony - you can do that by asking someone to lead a prayer or a reading during the ceremony. Though most people will feel included just by being invited to come and share your day

Jobs like supervising buffet and making sure the food is always full. Making sure the hall is decorated. Keeping the money for day of payments and tips for vendpors. Crowd management, keeping things moving. Making announcements or asking mc to do that.

Idk if I would label them as jobs, you will get some bad feedback, but maybe offer helping with things like invitations, decor, and stuff like that.

The little kids have been caling them "wedding jobs" so that is why I am referring to them as such. What is something a little kid can do like passing out programs?

We are having a Christian ceremony and I would love for these kids and teenagers to fill roles in the ceremony, but not groomsmen or bridesmaids. We are saving those for our personal friends.

If it's hot and outside wedding you can have them hand out littl paper fans or other stuff to keep cool like waters. Kids love dancing and typically like being the center of attention than most adults lol so use that to your advantage. Try and use them to "start the party" make them be the dance police lol. Also handing out rice or bubbles or whatever it is you're having thrown at you after the ceremony.

Amanda, ugh. Please don't treat your loved ones like glitter-covered slaves. HIRE people to watch the food. That is not a task for those you claim to love.

Rebecca, you don't get to tell us what we can and can't comment on. Loved ones do not need "jobs" and no one sees the position of "usher" as a fun and endearing activity. If you want to make them part of the bridal party, make them junior bridesmaid/groomsmen or flower girl/ring bearer. The only other position of honor that exists is guest.

Maireny, if it's hot enough that you have to cool guests down with water, it needs to be moved indoors.

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Yep, and as someone who has worked a catering job at a wedding I really don't want family members poking around and asking if there is enough food and directing me to go get more. We got this, go sit down.

I must say this is cute that they want to be a part of things. Have you considered having them help with set up of kid friendly activities for the reception for any other kids that will be there. Passing out favors at the end of the reception, ushers, they could also go around at the reception to get people to dance.

View Quoted Comment No it doesn't. It means here's a water while you wait for the ceremony to start because it's warm.

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Never said I could tell you what you could comment, but I can certainly tell someone when I do not want their kind of advice, or when they are being the opposite of helpful. Like you are doing. I ALREADY SAID these kids WANT to do something. Thanks though!

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One of the old fashioned roles was candlelighters........... everyone had candleabras at the front of the church and brides would choose two children for each candleabra, usually pairing them up with one being a little more mature than the other. They used to dress them in their own matching outfits, similar to flower girls but usually more mature styles, like solid satin or crepe with sashes. The only thing is that they need to be tall enough to reach the wicks and it's best to use the long candlelighter holders like churches use. That way there's no open flame close to anyone.

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Then tell your family members: "Look, I know you want to to help, we have enough to manage without assigning jobs. I really want you to come and enjoy our day!"

Personally I would be more blunt: "I got enough on my plate, why are you making me work at finding YOU work?"

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I think programs and maybe helping with seating is all kiddos can really do. It's sweet they want to help. Is it possible to make any of them ring bearers or flower girls?

One thing I saw at a wedding that I thought was beautiful: the couple were both the youngest of their many siblings and had lots of nieces and nephews that they wanted to include. It was a catholic mass so when the bride was doing her prayer to Mary, they had each of the kids process down the aisle with a single rose and placed them in a vase on the altar. This could be done even if it's not a Catholic ceremony. Maybe the kids could come down the aisle as part of the procession and put flowers in a vase as part of the decor. Just a suggestion. Hope you find something that will make them feel included