What should i do?

How long have they been together? I think that if it's been 6 months or more, he should be invited.

I think you need to discuss that with your friend. Put yourself in her shoes first; if he is someone serious and important in her life, she surely would be upset if he weren’t invited. If you’re worried how he will behave, mention this to her. If she’s close, she will listen to your concerns. She may not agree, but she will listen

View Quoted Comment Im pretty sure they are close to a year.

Does your friend know how you feel about him? Does she attend things without him typically? You could try but I assume she will ask if he can go or why he isn't invited.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I've thought about talking about it with her and being delicate enough so that it won't hurt her feelings. However I don't know him super well and from the times I was around him he acted like a single guy trying to pick up me and my friend. I'd hate to have to ask him to leave because he was inappropriate.

View Quoted Comment She does go places with out him quite a bit. He usually doesn't come along when we hang out. I'm not sure if that's his choice or hers.

Ah! I have a similar friend and boyfriend. Fortunately for me we have discussed her boyfriend behavior before. I'll be having a brief talk with her and just saying hey when boyfriend did X Y & Z thing it made me uncomfortable and I would rather not have him attend my wedding, would you be okay attending alone?
That being said she's much closer to my MOH so I know she won't be alone and bored for the reception is there anyone coming for your friend to sit with if she doesn't have her boyfriend?

View Quoted Comment Yes actually, I am inviting another close friend of mine that she is also friends with. We have all known each other since we were about 13 and grew up just streets away from each other. They are very close and hang out often and would most likely ride to the wedding together anyway.

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This sounds fine then. If she has someone else there she'll be fine. You can always not invite any couples who havent been together for a year or something or just say you arent inviting so's you don't know, but if she is a good friend you should be able to explain just fine.

Thank you everyone for your opinions!

I had a similar situation. I choose to no invite the BF. Some of the things he had done really conflicted with my morals on top of me fearing how he handled alcohol. The friend wrote his name onto the RSVP so my mother ended up calling her and simply saying unfortunately we are unable to extend an invite to him at this time hope you can still come. She was mad (told
other friends) but also knew it was because I didn’t like him and it wasn’t against her. They actually broke up for the same reasons I didn’t invite him and she got back with an ex girlfriend recently who I actually really liked for her and after RSVPs extended the invite to her girlfriend. I know in the moment it may have hurt her feelings but in the long run I wasn’t going to support a relationship I felt was unhealthy on top of have him there as a liability on my day.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for sharing that. I'm glad your friend was able to understand. I've known this friend a long time and I know she would understand I just didn't want to make her feel worse or upset by having to have an akward possibly upsetting conversation.

View Quoted Comment If it was just a matter of you found the BF annoying I think you would have to invite him. But if you have genuine concerns about his behavior I don’t think you are wrong. You love your friend but that doesn’t mean you should do something that makes you uncomfortable. Be honest with her if she asks and explain your concerns. In the long run she may thank you for your honesty

No, you need to invite him. They are a social unit. it doesn't really matter whether you like him or not. your plan is super rude.

View Quoted Comment You are very negative person after looking at all of your comments. What is your name?

View Quoted Comment Perhaps it is rude but it's not that I don't like him as a person, the behavior that I'm worried about is unwanted inappropriate touching. I also feel it's not right to put the rest of my friends and guests in a potentially uncomfortable situation.

View Quoted Comment Anan- I don't recall saying anything negative. I'm just trying to find the best way to handle the situation for everyone involved.

View Quoted Comment Anan- NVM I'm a dummy and didn't read that correctly the first time.. sorry

I think that you should let your friend know how you feel and how this is a difficult conversation for you but that you want to be honest about it and see where she stands. Is she easy to talk to? My fiancé has a groomsmen that is a ahole and jerk to so many people. He walks around and talks to people like he is better than everyone else. Non of my friends like him either. I didnt want my fiancé to make him a groomsmen but I can’t control who he makes a groomsmen unfortunately so we just have to insure it. Your situation is different in which you have a choice. Maybe your friend can bring another friend instead of him. This is your day and your goal is to make it as special and non-stressful as possible

View Quoted Comment Thank you, if it was as simple as "I didn't like him" or "he's arrogant" or whatever I would still give her a plus one and let her bring him. I could deal with him for 1 day but It's the unwanted inappropriate touching that bugs me because that behavior is unacceptable everywhere including at my wedding.