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MegLuvsChris
Super March 2012

What part should my son play in our wedding?

MegLuvsChris, on February 25, 2011 at 9:12 AM Posted in Planning 0 18

Ok, so I am in a bit of a dilema, my son is 6 years old and I am having trouble trying to find a good job for him in the Wedding Party, I dont want a ring bearer {I feel that they are silly, and he is too old to do this IMO} and I already have someone walking my mother & grandmother down the aisle, as well as myself. Where should I place my son so that he feels as though he is more than just a guest at our Wedding? He is going to be taking part in our sand ceremony, but I want another job for him. Any help would be GREATLY appreciated!!!

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Latest activity by MegLuvsChris, on February 26, 2011 at 2:35 PM
  • Raptor Bride
    Master May 2011
    Raptor Bride ·
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    Maybe he can be the little dude of honor? Smiley smile 2d had her son (who was grown) be her dude of honor, but it seems like a good idea to me! Smiley laugh

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  • Ms. Sunshyne
    Expert November 2011
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    How about you have him walk down the aisle before you holding a banner that says "here comes the bride" and once you're officially husband and wife he flips it over and it says "just married" etsy sells them for like $25... real cute... here's an example


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  • Stephanie
    VIP October 2012
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    Can he read? My son was 8 when my brother got married and he read a simple poem at the wedding. Once he was done he stood next to the best man.

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  • Patricia
    Master December 2011
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    I don't if you're having a religious wedding or not, but if you are, you can give him the "bible bearer" job where he comes in holding a bible or the idea listed by Ms Sunshyne is called a "bell Boy", sometimes they hold banners but mainly I've seen them come running right before the bride comes in, shouting "The bride is coming, the bride is coming" etc...

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  • Dani
    Expert April 2011
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    In my aunts wedding I was too young to be a flower girl so she made me a Junior Bridesmaid.... maybe he could be a Junior Groomsman?

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  • Fun bride
    Master November 2010
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    Could he be a junior grooms man, I see junior bridesmaids and can not imagine why there can not be a junior grooms man?

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  • Fun bride
    Master November 2010
    Fun bride ·
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    Looks like Dani and I posted the same thought at exactly the same time.

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  • Delores
    Just Said Yes August 2007
    Delores ·
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    I had my son walk me down the aisle

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  • Konichiwa
    Master January 2010
    Konichiwa ·
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    I had my son be a groomsman (he was 13 when we got married).

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    Just don't ask him to "give you away." One little boy was in tears thinking groom was taking his Mom far, far away!

    Your FH can speak vows to your son after he speaks his vows to you.

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  • MegLuvsChris
    Super March 2012
    MegLuvsChris ·
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    @Nancy...awwe that so sweet & cute! Smiley smile

    I like the idea of the Jr. Groomsmen, however, I am not sure he would stand up there during the ceremony, he's a little shy around large groups of people.

    I'm not really sure on the idea of having him walk before me with a "Here comes the Bride" banner...just not our style. We will be getting married on the beach & to me that sounds like a better fit in a church ceremony. Ahh...help!? lol

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    Meg, sometimes small children go sit with their grandparents in the front row.

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  • Hayley C™
    Master March 2008
    Hayley C™ ·
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    Read this article... it had some nice ideas.

    Allow him to come up and sign part of the official documents at the signing of the register. Yes you need two witnesses for the license but your officiant will give you 'the record of marriage' part of the license and anyone can sign, print or make their mark! Warn your wedding photographer to be on the alert for these wonderful moments. When your officiant introduces you have him up there with you. He might like the applause and treasure the memory of how important he was on Mom's big day.

    You can give him a gift right after you exchange your own rings and vows - a necklace, medallion, or ring - along with a hug and an "I love you."

    http://www.tmclark.com/JP/children.html

    http://www.familymedallion.com/weddings.htm

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  • Fun bride
    Master November 2010
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    Maybe make him an honorary groomsman, he could walk down the aisle and you could walk him to his seat?

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  • ReverendLisa
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    Children can be included in the ceremony in any manner you choose. Most commonly boys are Jr. Groomsman. A second way is to include your children in a symbolic gesture such as a sand ceremony or unity candle lighting. Another way is to give them a speaking part, such as a reading of a poem or message they have written or if they are old enough they can read a small portion from the Bible such as Corinthians 13 which is sweet and light. I hope this helps !

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  • Mrs. Clark aka Mrs Awesomepants
    Master November 2011
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    You can make him the ring bearer without a pillow. My son will be standing next to FH and instead of his best man handing him the rings, my son will. We also are including him in the ceremony. My FH will be saying a set of vows to him and give him this...

    https://www.familymedallion.com/cgi-bin/shopper.exe?preadd=action&key=FMP0001&reference=/cgi-bin/shopper.exe%3Fsearch%3Daction%26keywords%3Dall%26searchstart%3D0%26template%3DPDGTemplates\FullNav\SearchResult.html%26category%3DFMP0

    that way hes part of the "new family" we will be forming!

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  • Private User
    Super March 2012
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    My FSIL and her husband took a small part of their ceremony to invite my FSIL daughter up and the groom read a speach and asked if he could marry her mother and gave her a necklace as a symbol of their new family. You can do the same for the boys also. You can have your FH say a lil something at the ceremony to unite your family as one whole. The guest will be very pleased with it, and your son will feel he had something in your wedding.

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  • MegLuvsChris
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    Great ideas ladies, I think I am going to try the Sand Ceremony thing since we are getting married on the beach and we are def getting him a little something to say Thank you & Welcome to OUR new family! Thanks for all your help, if you think of anything else, please let me know! Smiley smile

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