What if my bridesmaid and groomsman break up before my wedding?

That's tough.

If you were actually friends with her then I think you could just have her be in the wedding anyway and hope the two of them could act like adults for one afternoon. Doesn't sound like you guys are very close though, so it's quite possible that if they break up she may remove herself from your wedding party anyway. Who wants to be in a wedding with their exes' friends?? Still, August is a ways away so why not just wait and see what happens? It may turn out that you are getting worried for no reason.

Mixed-gender wedding parties and uneven sides are becoming pretty mainstream, so if you have a close male friend who you haven't asked maybe you should think about asking him. That way you will still have people standing with you on your day even if she ends up bailing.

You can still keep her as your BM if they break up just do things a little differently. Don't have them walk down the aisle together, don't have a wedding party dance, don't do introductions except for you and your FH, etc. As long as you do not make it to where they have to do things together then it shouldn't be a problem. Hopefully the two of them would be mature enough not to let their relationship issues affect your wedding.

This is really tricky. I don't really know whom you should approach first, even. If I were this girl, I wouldn't be super excited about being in a wedding with my ex, but you also can't really go to her and be like, "So... think you're going to break up?" since they're still together.

I guess what you really need is a contingency plan for what to do if they do break up and she doesn't want to be in the wedding (at that point, I would ask her about it). She might say she wants to do it because she bought the dress, although I would still feel really weird about it in her position.

If you're not dead set on equal numbers of people, you could ask someone to be a BM now and then if she leaves, you have a replacement and if she doesn't, you have an extra--you still have three months to get a dress, which should be enough time if they hustle. Where did you get your BM dresses?

Not every break up is an ugly one. And hopefully they will be adult enough to not fight, and suck it up for your wedding day. I would try not to worry about it too much.

Oh, and I agree with yadayada--I meant to suggest asking a male friend to be part of your party, too, if you feel like you have more close friends who are men.

Thanks everyone. I definitely have a male friend I could ask. It's way easier to get a tux than a dress! And I went with cute little black cocktail dresses for my maids, so even if she'd have to bail it's not like she spent money on a useless dress. It's rough though because I kind of think they should break up... I'm just hoping they don't ask me for relationship advice!

From personal experience... I was a MOH for a friend and I was dating the BM. We broke up a few months before the wedding. We were civil to each other during the event. They allowed him to dance with his new gf during the bridal party dance and stuck me with one of the GM. I honestly had very harsh feelings about it. I just pretended to be fine and focused on the wedding and being MOH. I would suggest trying to find someone as a back up. Maybe someone who could be an Usher or greeter if everything ends up working out.

The other thing that makes this tricky is that our wedding is a two-day event. People can generally put up with someone for a few hours, but two days could be really tough.