Allyson
Master May 2014

What does "Wishing Well" mean on a bridal shower invite? (NY / CT area)

Allyson, on March 11, 2014 at 7:32 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 22
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I think I've seen this discussion before, but I'm not sure what the answer is. I got an invite for a bridal shower today that says, "Bride is registered at Macy's and Pottery Barn" and then under that it says *Wishing Well*. Does this mean cash or small gadgets? Is it in addition to the shower gift? FH is a groomsman in the wedding so I want to do what's expect as a shower guest.

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  • SunshineJenn
    Master August 2014
    SunshineJenn ·
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    It means they want money.

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  • Terry
    VIP January 2015
    Terry ·
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    Here in NY wishing well means little things like a pair of pot holders, or a spatula, or fun cheap small gifts..

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  • Cheetah2B
    Master June 2014
    Cheetah2B ·
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    It's a card box for cash/checks/GC's. But yeah, there is some confusion about it being for cash, or well wishes written in a card lol.

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  • CeCe
    Master May 2014
    CeCe ·
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    No idea...?

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  • Samantha
    Savvy October 2015
    Samantha ·
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    I'm from nj, it's literally a giant box set up to look like a white well and it's for little things like measuring spoons or a towel or something.

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
    Emily ·
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    It means different things in different areas. In some places it means small kitchen gadgety things; in other places it is a "cute" way to ask for money. I would guess money in NY/CT but not sure.

    Since they have also given you registries, I would just get a registry in gift your case.

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  • AlishiaB89
    Dedicated July 2014
    AlishiaB89 ·
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    Money.

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  • Maya
    Devoted July 2014
    Maya ·
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    I'm in NY. There is a "basket" that looks like a well. It's usually decorated with weddingy garland and bells and such on it. You put little things in it. Like potholders, measuring spoons jewelry holders etc.

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  • cece1219
    Dedicated September 2014
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    I'm from NYC. Wishing wells that I've seen are like a basket or something made to look like a well. Usually we put small things in there that the couple will need. Maybe dish towels or even sponges, etc. I know there are some people that do them with money also, personally never seen this though. You may way to clarify with whoever is throwing the shower

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  • LJ411
    Master April 2015
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    I'm also from NJ - I was going to give the same answer as Samantha. If your in NY/CT, I believe its the same thing - something small, like hangers, or spoons, or anything else you can think of that a new household might need.

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  • GoneAndMarried
    Master August 2015
    GoneAndMarried ·
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    I actually really like this idea!!! I have never heard of it before. But that's super cute! I am going to a shower soon and I bought a gift off the registry and then some small stuff and it was a pain to wrap them! That's a totally cute idea....I could have just thrown the stuff in there!

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  • GoneAndMarried
    Master August 2015
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    So I just searched this on Pinterest and it appears that a lot of these are wine themed! Hah, I keep saying I don't want a shower, but I will ABSOLUTELY take a bunch of bottles of Barefoot Moscato Smiley smile Lol don't even care that its cheap!

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated July 2014
    Samantha ·
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    I am having one at my wedding in pa and it is literally a little well and guests bring small things such as spachula, dishtowels, soap ect more like kitchen stuff in addition to your gift. It's really just something small to bring besides the gift to help the bride Smiley smile

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  • S
    Devoted May 2014
    Stylish Bride ·
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    As others have said a wishing well is for small kitchen items that don't make much sense to put on a registry individually.

    It's a tad inefficient though because Macy's and other stores sell pretty good kitchen accessories in a set for like $99. You get 15 decent items that aren't cheap plastic $3.99 things that will rust or break in a week.

    More specifically items for a wishing well can include spatulas, oven gloves, ice cream scooper, potato peeler, wine bottler opener, cheese grater, measuring cups, etc.

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  • P
    Expert July 2014
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    Around here a wishing well is a box to be filled with well wishes written on cards, or sage advice, and usually money.

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  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
    Out the Window ·
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    I'm from NY/NJ, but wishing wells are a new thing to me. I have only seen it once where there was a little cardboard wishing well at the shower and people will just throw in small nick nacks. However, I've also see the Honeyfund like Wishing Well where people just give you money. I'd ignore it altogether and just get her something from her other registry.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    I always assumed that it was for money or cards with checks.

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  • Koch Bride
    Master September 2014
    Koch Bride ·
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    I think you are supposed to make a wish for her to be well on her wedding day ;-)

    WHY DO WEDDINGS HAVE TO BE SO CONFUSING?!

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  • Allyson
    Master May 2014
    Allyson ·
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    @ Koch Bride- I agree! It shouldn't be this confusing! I emailed the host and asked. Oh well, worst case I look stupid. I'll keep you guys posted when I get a response.

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  • Soon2BMrsB
    Devoted June 2015
    Soon2BMrsB ·
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    I'm so confused about this, it seems like the ones I have seen are asking for cash, but isn't it super rude to ask for cash at a shower?

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