What do you value more?

At the beginning of planning, I was mostly concerned about the venue and the food. As planning continued, I started to care about flowers lol - something I didn't care at all about before planning! My wedding band and our ceremony became very special to me, as well.

Definitely overall guest experience, and to keep the wedding unique to our character.

My ceremony being 100% about us

the guest experience for the rest of the night will be my top priority but the ceremony, that's just mine and FH.

Food and drinks for my guests was my top priority.

Good food, premium open bar and an awesome dj were my priorities. I went with the venue that offered the best food and alcohol package over my "dream venue". I sacrificed on flowers and my dress to make our budget work. And I wouldn't have changed a thing.

I want my guest to have a good time! So definitely putting them first when it comes to the reception. However ceremony is completely mine and FH. I hope and pray I can grasp every moment of that time

I would have to say our ceremony and obviously photography/videography. I really encourage anyone who can fit it in the budget somewhere to get an album made. I am obsessed with ours! I really wanted the ceremony to reflect who we are as a couple, and it was really important to me that we write our own vows. DH did an amazing job (even though he was quite nervous about writing his own)!

I value my wedding band the most- that's what this whole thing is about.

Second, I would say my guests. I want them to have the most amazing time, and I am so grateful they are coming to celebrate with us.

I feel shallow admitting it, but for me it was my dress. I love lace and frills and had been looking forward to that one excuse to wear a gown since nursery school at least (my mom was voted 'youngest mother of the bride to be' cause all I played in nursery school was 'let's get married!' Really had no 'vision' at all, except I wanted a gown. I let my bridal party wear what they wanted-- if they never wore it again, not my problem-- found a lovely venue with good food, but it was really the dress.

Our photographer was almost as much as our venue so I'd say great photos first. Then a great dj and good food so our guests will have a great time! Went cheaper with the dress, flowers, and decorations to be able to get a better dj and good catering.

ETA: clarity

My aunt cut us a check to cover our wedding, and said to use it however we saw fit...she did, however, have one great piece of advice. She said to pick 2 or 3 things that are the most important to us, and splurge on those, while saving on the rest.

For us, the 3 things we picked were venue, food, and photography.

Decor was in the running for making the list for a while, but we ended up booking a garden venue, so that's not an issue anymore. Mother Nature is providing 99% of our decor.

Of course out of everything, I value my FH the most. As far as the actual wedding though, the photographer. My biggest thing has been finding a great photographer. These pictures are going to last a life time, so I really do not want to skimp or regret the way our pictures come out. I want them to be perfect. I want the ceremony, our children and our guests to be beautifully captured in a way, only a professional would get for lack of a better word.

Photography. LOL. I'm obsessed with having a huge album to look at together when we're older. I'm that jerk taking photos 24/7 at events because "MEMORIES!" I feel like moments pass faster than you think, and I always want something to look back and remember.

The ceremony is very important to me. I want it to reflect our love and commitment to each other. After that I also want an awesome party so the DJ would have to come in close 2nd.

Ceremony and I think because it's going to cause the biggest fight in my family. My parents will want to give their opinions but I want to get married the way way we want to get married and not just add things because mommy and daddy like this.

Other than actually getting married, definitely the photos and video. Those can be kept and looked at forever.