What do you find tacky??

I agree with both of the things you mentioned, especially the burlap one but that's because I've been to so many "rustic" weddings over the years and am so over it. My number one tacky item though is a cash bar- it puts me off every time!

Lol! Seems like this is a setup to get people to, ummmm, debate? I can feel the potential backlash as I start to write down my thoughts and feelings on certain decor and customs...but you asked, so I’ll share my humble opinion.
I agree with you about burlap...if people like it, that’s fine. Just definitely not my style. I like certain “rustic” looking decor, but the word “rustic” has been done to death and it makes me cringe because it’s tirning into a blanket term for anything with wood. Also anything that is associated with hunting...camouflage, deer antlers, rifles...and the most tacky thing I can think of is a cash bar. But I’m from a family of drinkers. If there’s a wedding where most people aren’t drinking, I get it. Otherwise, it seems inappropriate to me. Might as well tell them to pack their own dinner and bring it with them.

View Quoted Comment Whoa! I was writing this while you posted it. Agreed hahaha!
One more thing:
Funny you mention the chicken dance, Stephanie. FH is super excited for it...no, seriously! I said how much I hate it (along with the Macarena, hokey Pokey, and any kind of line dance...) and FH looked so disappointed and begged me to have it at our wedding. I couldn’t say no. Lol.
I love that man, I really do...but just when I thought I had him all figured out, he surprises me by almost crying because of the potential omission of the chicken dance at our wedding. 😂😂😂

I agree that cash bar is tacky but I'd much rather go to a wedding with a cash bar than a dry wedding. I'll only suffer through that again for a close relative and I'd probably bring a flask and spike my own drinks. Only children were dancing and it wasn't a small wedding. Otherwise I'd rather send a gift and stay home and watch tv. I don't need booze to have fun but I do need it to dance and be in a large crowd of mostly strangers.

I agree chicken dance is cheesy but my best friend (who is 39 yrs older than me and refused to be a MOH/BM because "she's too old") and I will be on the dance floor doing the chicken dance when the dj plays it at my request lol. I think money jars are tacky.

I think the whole going up the dress thing for the garter can get trashy and freaks me out, not to mention the guy who catches it putting the garter on the girl who catches bouquet. My first thought was one of our mid-thirties guy friends catching it and my 12 yr old neice catching the bouquet, so we'll be skipping that entirely.

I hate burlap, not sure I'd call it tacky but I'm sick of seeing it lol. I do think flip flops (unless it's a legit on the sand beach wedding) are kind of tacky for weddings. I think it's all personal preference, I will have plenty of cheesy stuff at my wedding, hopefully nothing outright tacky lol.

First I love line dances. Just not the chicken dance and Hokey Pokey. However we will have the chacha slide, cotton eye joe and The time warp! I just cannot help myself I love them lol!

I will agree the cash bar is super tacky. I have been lucky enough not to have experienced that!

The last thing I can think of, which I seem to be noticing more is people wanting to control what you post online during the reception. The ceremony part I understand 100%, I really just want people present. But I feel once it is the reception there is no need to tell people they can't take pictures or post anything before the bride and groom!

Anything insinuating that the groom is being trapped (e.g. "Last Chance to Run!" signs and toppers where the bride is dragging the groom).

Camo... but honestly that's probably just because camo makes me cringe no matter what. I had some friends get married and they had a camo wedding. It made sense for them because they both hunt a lot... but man it's just so not my style.

Drink tickets... and this is something we actually considered in the early planning stages! 😵 I would prefer a dry wedding or cash bar I think, instead of having like 3 drinks to budget through the night. Again, I see why people do it --we considered it, after all.

Anything to collect money during the wedding. I already brought you a card with money in it...

Choreographed dances by the wedding party.

But, as OP said, what one finds tacky another may find classy. I'm sure there are aspects of my wedding that others would not like, and that's ok.

I agree with most things mentioned like the garter being removed....umm no thank you....save it for the honeymoon ya nastys lol
But I'm the odd one out, my wedding is literally rustic/country themed. I'm not nuts about the burlap either and only having a few touches of it here and there. I'm kinda second guessing my theme. Is it really that bad?

10000% the gater removal... just... no. That makes me uncomfortable at every single wedding I go to.

Agreed with the burlap- but specifically I’m not a fan of burlap, lace, and baby’s breath. Maybe it’s just me but several weddings I’ve been too have had this decor and it’s just over done to me.

If its a longggg wedding (more than 4 hours) perhaps drinks should be provided, but I also don’t see a reason for someone to be upset if there isn’t. as long as the couple knows people will leave early.

I once went to a wedding as a guest, was invited to the brides house because o was friends with everyone there, while they were working on bouquets (the day before the wedding 😅) they asked if I could help, obviously I agreed, and ended up basically being the day of coordinator on the actual day of- while they sat me at the ‘overflow’ table because they thought I would be fine with it- um. No. I was a guest. I got roped into being a servant for two days- ah the experiences I’ve had 😂🙄 all that to say- being a HOST to your guests- and not actually thinking its only about you!

View Quoted Comment Don’t second guess your theme! You chose it because it was appealing to you. We’re doing centerpieces with willow branches and tiny lanterns and while I known it’s been done to death I love the way it looks so I’m doing it.

I absolutely despise poems everywhere. Your guests are not children (mostly), I don’t get who or why thought oh ya know what, everything should rhyme like this is a classroom of preschoolers? Drives me nuts! And poems asked me to give them money are the cherry on top, decline and no gift from me if they send that.
Decor wise, I’m not a fan of wine bottle or mason jar centerpieces. Burlap also is ugly to me.

@AJ I feel the same way about the “groom is trapped and his life is over” thing. Personally it would make me feel like I’m the only one who wanted marriage...

I find anything that inconveniences guests, makes them open their wallets, or doesn't treat them well to be tacky. This includes:

Gaps (especially when there is no reason beyond poor planning)

Cash Bars

Lack of food or poor quality food

Honey funds, wishing wells, money dances, etc.

Poorly thought out seating arrangements (or lack of chairs)

ETA: Potluck / Self-catered weddings

I've literally never been to a rustic wedding, or any wedding that wasn't in a ballroom, hotel or vineyard, so honestly I don't think I have a strong aversion to burlap!

I do have an aversion to camo...it's just instinct.

This probably doesn't bother others, but having plastic plates and cutlery. I want to cut steak/chicken or veggies with a real knife and fork. Also, portable toilets shouldn't be at a wedding. I went to a wedding once and that was the only bathroom and I was horrified. Make sure your venue has real bathrooms.

Money dances make me cringe, I can't imagine putting dirty money on my wedding dress. BUT I have been to weddings with them, and still gave money. To each their own I guess.

We are having a rustic, country wedding with some elegance still. I'm not a fan of burlap more because it never sits flat on a table and always looks messy. There may be some wrapped around a basket or something, but not on a table. To be fair, we would have had a country wedding regardless if it was trendy or not. And we are both avid hunters & anglers, and are not having camo at our wedding haha!

Oh my, YES to all that's been mentioned. Making your guests pay for drinks when we all know the bride and groom are drinking for free. Potlucks and self prepared food - yuck. Asking for money, money, money, everywhere! So many signs and poems, it's like the sign god vomited everywhere. So many more. Just because it's on Pinterest doesn't mean it's a good idea.

Off the top of my head: cash bars, plasticware, portable restrooms, wishing wells, low quality of food, no/not enough food, not having a seating chart, camo of any kind, bad animal print (think zebra, cheetah, leopard), plastic tablecloths, drink tickets, potlucks, self-catering, inappropriate MOH/BM speeches, and garter tosses (not really the toss, just the going under the dress piece).

1. Dry weddings

2. Vegan weddings: I would make sure any vegan guest at my wedding was given a vegan meal. I don't see why when I go to a vegan wedding, I am not offered what I eat.

and all of the above that were mentioned. I was recently at a dry/vegan wedding, IT WAS THE WORST! Luckily we were given the heads up about the dry and brought flasks!

Literally everything that everyone else has already said. ESPECIALLY those awful poems trying to swindle people out of money. I hate hate hate money dances/money games.

I'm really not a fan of obviously fake flowers in ridiculous colors. Ooo and rhinestones.. Looks like prom and isnt really cute... Makes me wonder if those brides will regret those choices later in life...

In addition, disposable silverware/plates/cups, metal folding chairs, potlucks/self catering, drink tickets/dry bar/cash bar, when a dress obviously costs a lot so the guests get screwed in their hosting (like really, you're wearing a ballgown while you're guests are eating BBQ off of paper plates!?), not enough seating/no seating chart, money dances/asking for money... I could prob think of more lol

Luckily I haven't experienced any of these in real life but have seen WAAAYYYY too many of them on WW.