What do you call your Mother in Law?

I call my stepparents and my in laws by their first name. I would never call them mom or dad, even if they asked me.

I have a mom and I wouldn’t feel comfortable calling my MIL “mom”. My actual mother would be offended i think. I stick with her first name.

I grew up with my parents calling each other's parents "mom" and "dad," so it wasn't weird at all to me to call my in-laws mom and dad, I just needed to know that they were good with it. There was never any "call me x" conversation, so I talked to H and he said that's what they would like - and H calls my mom "mom" as well (my dad passed, so that was never an issue).

I think you just need to find your level of comfort and go with that - if "mom" doesn't work for you, then maybe something else. My uncle's wife called my grandma "Oma" like all of us grandkids.

TBH I would love to call my MIL mom, but I think it would make her a bit uncomfortable. I am not close with my actual mom and it is hard to call her mom at times because she just hasn't been there for me, while my MIL has. So I just call my MIL by her first name.

Maybe I’m a weirdo but I’ve called my best friend in high school mom “Momma Shick” so making the stretch to calling my in-laws mom and dad isn’t a huge thing for me.
Plus, I feel like when I called my fmil mom it comes out more like “mum” versus my mother is mom. His dad I call dad and my father has been papa since I could speak.
I avoided it when we were dating or uncomfortably called them by their first names, but now that we are getting married, I’ve settled into more comfortable titles for them.

View Quoted Comment Haha yes! My husband is a "junior" as well. It gets so confusing when we're all together, which is a lot lol.

No you’re not the only one. I feel the same way. And my MIL and I have a great relationship. My fiancé calls my mom his mom but I just can’t bring myself to do it.

I kind of don't ever call her by anything. She is listed by her name in my phone and when I refer to her to FH I say "your mom". I just don't have that relationship either where I would *want* to call her mom.

I call her by her first name. I am close with my in-laws, but I do not, and will not, be calling them mom and dad when I have my own mom and dad whom I am VERY close to.

View Quoted Comment My parents call each other’s parents mom and dad as well. I think I’ll be able to with time lol

I can't imagine calling my MIL mom, or my husband calling my mother his mom. We just call them by their first names. My husband and my mom have a really great mother/son relationship, he just doesn't call her "mom" haha!

I call her by her first name. I have a mom already.
When my husband says “Mom” and I know he’s talking about his mother. But I don’t reference her as such. It’s too weird.

Personally, would never call my MIL Mom. If she were my Mom I’d be married to my brother! Just her first name works for us.

I call her ass clown

I would never call my MIL mom lol I feel it is completely awkward.

I don't call them mum and dad - I feel like that would be weird/uncomfortable for me too, even though I really love my in laws.

I call them both by their first names. I think if/when we have children we're likely to call them grandma/grandpa x or whatever, rather than their first names, in front of our kids at least.

I would absolutely never call my MIL "mom".

My husband is much closer to my mom than I am to his - he was the first person (besides me) to come into the waiting room when she was signing the DNR order the day my dad died - and even he doesn't my call my mom, "mom."

And for the record, we have been together almost twenty years, and we still do not and will not call each others' parents "mom" or "dad".

I feel the same way. My fiancé calls my parents mom and dad but i can’t bring myself to do it. I don’t call them anything lol

I call my in-laws by their first names. They sign like cards and Christmas presents "From Mom & Dad" and my parents do the same to my fiancé, but neither of us actually call each other's parents that.

I think it all just depends on the people and their relationships. My dad didn't have a relationship with his real mom at all and his dad died when he was in his 20s, so he's very close to my mom's mother. My dad has always called her a special nickname that means "Mom" (my mom will use it too but not as often) and will occasionally call her mom, but that's more because she is the only mom he's known for 26 years.

I call mine by her name because that's how I met her and that's not going to change. I only have one mother and I won't ever feel comfortable calling her that and she understands that.