I would love to go above and beyond for all my bridesmaids however, I can’t afford to buy everything I want them to have. My plan is to gift them the jewelry they need and some drinking flutes, little gifts etc. however, the robes to get ready in set me over the budget. Is it rude to ask them to buy...
I would love to go above and beyond for all my bridesmaids however, I can’t afford to buy everything I want them to have. My plan is to gift them the jewelry they need and some drinking flutes, little gifts etc. however, the robes to get ready in set me over the budget. Is it rude to ask them to buy their own robes?
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To clarify, we’re not even making it a point for photos to be taken during that time. This discussion has bothered me all day due to everyone assuming it’s all things to please me. My girls truly wanted to have something matching. Also, when I chose my bridesmaids I knew I could afford to provide as needed for them all however- life happens and unexpected expenses come up. I’ve seen several things telling me to give up things I already have given up in my daily life to be able to give my girls more. So, to other brides in this forum afraid to ask, don’t be. What I’ve gotten from this is be upfront with my girls. They are your closest friends and wouldn’t want you to go into debt over little things. They won’t be mad at you. Just let them know if they have a disagreement with something you ask, they can tell you without backlash.
I was going to chime and say, as everyone else, that if you want them to wear a robe, you should pay for it. But, then I read on and saw that they were $15. I think, as a bridesmaid, that if the bride wanted robes and they were only $15, I could go "above and beyond" and buy my own. I like your current idea better, though! If they pick out their own, they're much more likely to wear it again and get some use out of it, along with a nice reminder of the fun time they had picking it out and wearing it to get ready.
I don't think it is fair to ask them to pay for robes. If you want everyone to wear robes or matching outfits to get ready in, that is your responsibility financially. Really, the only thing your bridesmaids are required to purchase is their dress and shoes.
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Thank you! And I understand everyone’s point of if it’s required, I should take care of the cost. I do think the flannels will be more fun for everyone and I can’t wait to see how they turn out 🤩
Anything you require for a specific look you need to pay for. Robes are cheap on Etsy (via North American vendors) but not necessary. A simple button up from Old Navy is plenty for hair/makeup. They can buy their own shoes and other accessories.
I would meet with them & just have a small get together & discuss your ideas with them & how they feel about it. You never know they might just say dont worry we can purchase those. That way it not something you are requiring but an idea you are throwing out there. I had the robes for my wedding & i dont regret it at all. Everyone is different but you are the only one that knows your girls. Do what your heart desires